How to stop rushing and start living

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

We spend every day in a hurry: in the morning we are late for work, then we hurry to submit a report to the boss, after a hard day we run home and there in a hurry we prepare dinner to feed our family. We are almost unable to do anything, we are nervous and think that we have serious problems with time management. However, they are not at all in our inability to manage our own time. The worst thing is that in all this fuss and haste we forget to do the most important thing - to live.

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Young children can be too slow: they lace up their sneakers for a long time, they can hold their breath, watch the nimble bird in the park and retell the story they heard in the lesson with enthusiasm in the smallest detail. We, adults, are annoyed by such slowness - it does not fit into our tough schedule at all, where there is room for literally everything - work, cooking, ironing, washing - except for a real full life. We think that we are walking slowly, but in fact we are rushing at the speed of light, losing sight of everything that surrounds us along the way.

Do you remember what the weather was like in the morning when you were in a hurry to get to work? What was the person wearing the metro or bus in front of you? How did breakfast taste like when you ate it on the go? Unlikely. Most likely, you will not even remember what you thought about when you got to the office. You just hurried and did everything automatically - walked, carried a bag, bypassed passers-by, breathed.

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The ability to savor life, notice its beauty and not be afraid to be late somewhere is inherent in all children. There was a time when you did not understand why mom is so angry with you for your slowness and calls you a pig. Then you owned all the time in the world, and as you matured, you felt that it was becoming less and less, and therefore more and more had to be done.

But is it worth so chasing ghostly goals, completely ignoring the process of achieving them? Don't you want to remember what it is like to simply contemplate the world around you and appreciate every second of your existence? If you feel like you are passing life by yourself, and want to finally stop constantly rushing somewhere, then our advice will certainly help you.

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Feel the moment

Of course, at first it will be very difficult to be attentive to everything that has to be done every day: for example, brushing your teeth not automatically, but realizing what movements and why you are doing - but sooner or later you will succeed. To begin with, you will have to artificially create a situation in which you can get distracted from extraneous thoughts and enjoy life here and now. A great option is a relaxing bath. With sea salt, lavender oil (it soothes) or lush lather, make your choice.

The main thing is that while in warm water, do not think about contracts, estimates, estimates in the child's diary and a quarrel with a colleague. Try to feel the beauty of the moment. Mentally “agree” with yourself: “I have nowhere to rush, I will have time for everything. This bath is vital - it will give me strength for the week ahead. Close your eyes and calm down.

Do one thing

People who are always in a hurry to somewhere, constantly repeat: "I have so many things to do that I do not know what to grab onto." It is not surprising that they manage to do much less than the rest. Make a promise to yourself that from now on you will cease to be the Eight-Armed Shiva and begin to proceed with all matters in turn. Tackled dishwashing - do not grab onto kitchen furniture. Enjoy the thought that now you have one specific task, and you will only start the next when you are done with the first. This approach is great for relaxing.

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You are not a Superwoman

Modern women have decided that they cannot do without feats. They should be beautiful wives, executive workers, good mothers, diligent housewives, etc. But is it possible to successfully play all these roles when there are only 24 hours in a day? “Difficult, but possible,” the representative of the fair sex thinks and begins to act: either she stops the galloping horse, then she enters the burning hut. As a result, the woman herself becomes like a driven horse: tired, exhausted, but still trying to run somewhere. Stop it! You are not a superhero! Do not demand the impossible from yourself, revise your daily planner and leave in your plans for tomorrow only those things that really cannot be delayed.

Distribute your roles competently: you do not need to be an executive worker and a diligent hostess on the same day, cleaning can be postponed to the weekend.

Understand the reasons

Often we are in a hurry when there is absolutely no reason for haste. Someone has become a habit (life in a metropolis, where everyone is running somewhere, affects), others make huge plans for the day, and then get nervous: “Suddenly I won't have time!”, And still others deliberately create situations when “they are burning »All terms, because they cannot do anything at a different - more calm and measured pace. Understand the reasons for your haste, analyze why you need this feeling of "eternal deadline". Perhaps you will find that every day you are trying to run past real problems, pretending that they do not exist.

If you realize your problem and are ready to make an effort to solve it, then consider that half the way has already been passed. However, do not rush, sticking out your tongue, run the second half - do everything with feeling, sensibly, with an arrangement. Be sure that after a while you will learn to notice the beauty of the world around you, even when you go to throw garbage in the nearest container.