Wedding: breaking traditions

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Autumn is a traditional time for weddings. White dress, black suit, ribbons on the car, a walk to the eternal flame, meticulous toastmaster and drunken relatives - cheekbones are bored, as you imagine this traditional wedding set. Which, moreover, also flies into a round sum, leaving a noticeable gap in the budget of the future family.

From a conversation between two brides:

- Anh, we roughly figured that the most modest banquet for 30 people, limousines, pigeons, toastmaster and musicians will cost us $ 3,000.

- Hmm, we've already spent 3,000 - on some suits, a limousine and a toastmaster.

Go crazy !!! Do I need it?

Why do you need this:

- This is how it should be. It was established by a centuries-old way of life, respected by your grandmothers, aunts and parents and is not subject to appeal.

- This is what your parents want. Your dad wants to invite all your relatives to your wedding, and your mom wants to keep traditions.

- You want it so much. Since childhood, you dreamed of a white dress with a fluffy skirt, screams"

The only sensible reason to go along with tradition is your passionate desire to be like everyone else and try on the classic role of the bride. All the rest are immediately dismissed as insignificant. Who said that a wedding is a holiday for everyone except the bride and groom? This is your day, your celebration, your important event, and only you and your beloved will decide how to spend this day. Do not be afraid to break traditions, listen to your imagination and create your holiday the way you want to see it, and not how your mother, second cousin or best friend imagine it.

Who said, that…

… the dress should be white and the suit black? The traditional black and white pair of bride and groom has always seemed to me a ridiculous union of a ballerina and a chimney sweep. I agree that in the Soviet Union, a suit of any other decent color was not available, and for brides there were only three options: white for the first marriage and blue and pink for the subsequent ones. But we live many years later, when bridal salons offer a huge selection of luxurious shades and models! Why not choose your outfits not according to the principle of contrast, but according to the principle of harmony? A golden dress and a light olive suit, a cream dress - and a sandy outfit, a snow-white suit for the groom - to match the traditional dress of the bride or in combination with a scarlet outfit, but then you should take care of a red bow tie of the same shade. Such a couple will not go unnoticed and will not merge with the mass of black and white newlyweds. You want to be the queen of the ball, the one and only, and not one of the many twin brides?

… everything should be according to plan? Traditional ransom, telegrams to the newlyweds, letters to the bride and groom, poetic congratulations and contests that set the teeth on edge are a standard scenario in the arsenal of any toastmaster. Hundreds of weddings are built on it. And you do not want a wedding, like everyone else, impersonal and standard? And you yourself know better how you want to see your wedding than the most professional toastmaster. Still, this wedding is yours - and it is your first, and for the toastmaster it is just another wedding under serial number 71. No, I do not urge you to refuse the services of the toastmaster, I urge you to become an active participant in the process of creating the scenario of the celebration. Only you can fill the script with significant dates for you, mentions of events, a song of your love performed by musicians, a story about your first meeting or a curiosity from your love story. Take action!

… the wedding should be a gathering of guests led by a toastmaster and a musical orchestra? Noisy feasts with abundant libations to the songs of Tanya Bulanova always puzzled me. And what - there is no other reason to gorge yourself up to colic and get drunk to hell? And not me alone: lately there has been a tendency to transfer the wedding venue from the table to bowling alleys, billiard halls, and even to a paintball club or an amusement park! Passive sitting at the table and mechanical absorption of booze turns into exciting fun for guests of all ages and interests. And the competition in gluttony is replaced by a tournament in agility and precision. Unforgettable impressions, general fun and funny pictures for the newlyweds and their guests are guaranteed!

… the wedding should be noisy? After all, this is a celebration of your love and you don't have to spend it in front of everyone. Moreover, if you are not a lover of noisy events and dream of being alone with your beloved. Ideal for romantics and always in love: forget about the wedding! And with the money saved, buy an exotic tour to the paradise islands - the Maldives or Bali. After all, it is much more interesting to spend two weeks with your beloved by the very blue sea than to spend the same amount on a five-hour feast in a stuffy banquet hall, isn't it? Such a trip will be a real gift for you and your young husband and an unforgettable start to family life.

… should there be a wedding? I never understood the students who had been saving up for a wedding for years, so that the collected money bit by bit could be wasted in one day. I will never understand those who, in order to arrange festivities in the best restaurant in the city and continue the banquet on the ship on the second day, sell cars or summer cottages. I always wonder what they will live on in the first days of their honeymoon, where they will live and how soon they will start quarreling over the sale of the car. Well, not about that. So who said?.. Maybe you shouldn't follow the lead of the general madness around the wedding celebration, but manage your finances sensibly? The money set aside for the wedding, to spend on buying or renting an apartment, on the purchase of furniture, a car, things necessary for the family? And an important event for you to celebrate with your closest friends and relatives at your home or in an inexpensive cafe.

Do not be afraid to break traditions and bring your wildest plans to life! After all, as you start family life, so it will go. None of us wants to live by the rules, so why should you start your family life from a template?