Should you be jealous of your husband's secretary?

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

In our workplace, we usually try to build relationships with the executive's secretary. Still, being on a short leg with the boss's right hand (there is something punning about this) is very useful. You can be the first to know about the arrival and departure of the chief, about his mood, etc. In general, in our understanding, the secretary is an extremely necessary person, and it is certainly not worth quarreling with him. But there is no trace of this attitude towards the boss's assistant when that boss is your husband. In this case, a serious secretary becomes just a vulgar secretary.

The stereotypes that have developed over decades, dictated by various life stories, scenes from movies and anecdotes, make us think that the husband's secretary is certainly a long-legged young girl in a short skirt, who prefers an exceptionally deep neckline and who knows how, perhaps, to bring coffee and make eyes to your beloved. But it’s not like that. Of course, such troubles also happen, but it happens that a specialist without model external data, but with vast professional experience, becomes an assistant to the chief.

The anxiety of a woman whose husband is constantly next to another representative of the fair sex is understandable.

In any case, the anxiety of a woman whose husband is constantly next to another representative of the fair sex is quite understandable. And often it's not about appearance and age. It's just that in the subconscious we fear that one day she will either seduce him or seem so irreplaceable that we suddenly become unnecessary.

Let's figure it out: how to understand if the husband's secretary is in any way dangerous to the well-being of your family?

Meet the possible "enemy"

Meet your man's secretary. By chance, go to him before lunch, invite him to a cafe and at the same time study a potential rival. Women's intuition rarely fails. Especially in amorous affairs. Firstly, you will appreciate the external data of this "smart girl", and secondly, you will be able to observe how your husband and his assistant communicate with each other, whether there is any ostentatious coldness or tension between them. Even such a ten-minute meeting can dot the i's. By the way, do not forget that it is worth preparing for the "spy in the enemy camp" operation - neat hair, manicure, make-up, beautiful outfit. Well, you understand.

Watch your husband

Surely you have lived together for more than one year and you know him as flaky. Now this knowledge will come in handy. Irritation that seemed to appear from scratch, dissatisfaction with you and your loved ones (friends, parents), which had never been seen before, frequent calls to someone in another room behind a closed door, and then ridiculous excuses about negotiations with suppliers - all this should alert you. It is also worth paying attention to regular incoming calls, which he convulsively drops or suppresses with the words "I'll call you back." Let's not console, these are not good signs.

Pay attention to what time

and in what state does he return home

If, with the appearance of the secretary, he suddenly had a huge mountain of papers and a bunch of cases that need to be raked every evening until 10-11, then the question arises - why does he actually need such an assistant? After all, he should help the boss, and not complicate his life? If late returns are supplemented with gaiety unusual for your husband or incredible fatigue, and sometimes the smell of alcohol, then you should sound the alarm. Perhaps, of course, his firm is having a difficult time. This is what you need to find out, only very carefully.

Understand his feelings for you

Men rarely choose the option with an honest story about the relationship on the side.

It's not just late return home and strange phone calls that might give you the idea of a romance between your husband and his secretary. His attitude towards you will also say a lot. If he has become less gentle, does not answer calls, does not call himself (although he used to be constantly interested in how you were doing) and, coming home from work, withdraws into himself or, on the contrary, behaves too cheerfully, then take a closer look at him. Men rarely choose the option with an honest story about the relationship on the side. The sense of duty inherent in almost all of them will rather make him hide from you the fact of an affair that has begun. But he is unlikely to be able to disguise mental throwing and fear of being revealed.

Answering the question whether it is worth being jealous of the husband's secretary, let's say: it is worth it only when there is cause for concern. The presence of a secretary as such is not yet a sufficient reason for suspicions of an outside connection. After all, your man is surrounded by so many women every day that more than one secretary can pose a threat.