Captivated by temperament

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

“A man sat dejectedly in the dock who, in a fit of jealousy, had killed his wife's lover a few weeks ago. The wife, having escaped with a slight fright, in response to the condemning glances of those around her, made excuses: "Well, what can I do if I have such a temperament." From the materials of the trial.

At least once in our life, each of us is engaged in solving the issue of his psycho-emotional belonging. In the description of the four temperaments given by Hippocrates, we look for features characteristic of ourselves and on the basis of this we determine who we actually are: a hot-tempered choleric, a balanced sanguine person, a depressed melancholic or a slightly inhibited phlegmatic.

Having determined ourselves, we already calmly write off all our shortcomings on this factor given to us by nature. However, psychologists are not inclined to attach great importance to temperament. Firstly, because it changes throughout life, secondly, it is quite amenable to "training" and, thirdly, temperament determines the level of our emotionality, impressionability, impulsivity and anxiety. Everything else, be it a sense of tact, decency, intelligence or tenderness, depends on other components. In the above example, temperament should have been appealed not to the wife with her penchant for adultery, but to the husband, whose intensity of passions and speed of reaction clearly indicate that he is choleric. Lovers of other people's wives, in turn, would not hurt to have at least a general idea of what kind of temperament a cuckold husband has. Temperament does not say much about sexuality either. Therefore, sexologists in choosing an intimate partner advise to focus not on a specific psychotype, but on a specific person, with his upbringing, complexes and the ability to give himself up.

Sexual temperament is high, medium and low. However, these differences affect to a greater extent the frequency of sexual intercourse than their quality. In addition, the difference is noticeable only in the first phase of acquaintance, over time, the sexual intensity subsides and temperaments equalize, unless, of course, any deviations interfere with the matter.

Divine deviation

A woman of unbridled opportunity is every man's dream. Her superpowers have such a strong effect on the male psyche that the names of almost all such women are immortalized in history. The first to be noticed in an irresistible craving for debauchery were the ancient Greek forest demons - nymphs. These lustful persons, appointed by strict Zeus to guard their forest estates, in their free time from basic duties, lured into the jungle of lonely male travelers and there, in the forest bushes, indulged in love pleasures with them. The "lucky ones" released after a while, despite exhaustion, were under an indelible impression of the sexual delights of half-naked deities. Many, after such sex pressure, could no longer be content with the modest capabilities of an ordinary woman and dreamed of falling into the lustful hands of forest libertines again. The cause of selfless nymphs did not disappear in the centuries, finding their successors. The most famous example, of course, is Messalina - the wife of the gullible Roman emperor Claudius. Her insatiability astonished even the Romans who were not prone to puritanism. Under the nose of her crowned husband, she literally slept with the entire legion of the imperial guard. The Egyptian Queen Cleopatra and the Russian Empress Catherine II are also suspected of "lust". But this is more likely out of spite. Cleopatra used sex exclusively to establish herself on the throne, and Catherine behaved in the same way as representatives of all royal houses of that time. This once again suggests that sometimes it is not immediately possible to determine where we are dealing with moral instability, where with the spirit of the times, and where with pathology.

Sexaholics

Unlike the ancient Greeks, modern doctors are not at all inclined to mythologize "insatiable" women and impartially attribute their concern to painful manifestations. And a disease, it is a disease, even if it is accompanied by such piquant manifestations. Not only a strong sexual constitution, but also less pleasant reasons, such as brain damage, neuroinfections (meningitis, encephalitis), manic-depressive psychosis, schizophrenia, hormonal failure, drug intoxication, menopause, ectopic pregnancy, extensive genital surgeries, abortions and even stress. In her book Nymphomania, Carol Groneman describes an incident in which an "insatiable sexual appetite" was the result of a cable car accident.

Painful attraction makes you lose your head and commit inappropriate actions, creating many problems for both the victim of "strong emotions" and those around him. Another thing is that the concept of the norm in the intimate sphere is very vague. But still, according to some signs, a nymphomaniac can be distinguished from a simply sexually active woman:

- Overvalued fixation. In search of satisfaction from the life of a nymphomaniac, all other interests gradually leave, and from sex - the need for emotional and spiritual contact. Sexual intercourse becomes an end in itself, subjugating life, time and psyche.

- Indistinctness. If a woman with pronounced sexual activity, despite numerous contacts, is still able to control herself and choose partners, then a nymphomaniac woman loses control over herself and the situation, entering into contact with everyone indiscriminately. The role is not played not only by the appearance and age of the partner, but even by his gender.

- Outrageous possibilities. Suffering from nymphomania are able to enter into a relationship more than 10-15, or even more times a day, sometimes they experience an orgasm even from a light touch. Agree, for a normal person this is overkill.

- Orgasm without orgasm. Experiencing an unbridled craving for satisfaction, the nymphomaniac may not wait for this very satisfaction at all. Despite the ability to multiple and prolonged orgasms, the long-awaited discharge never occurs, but on the contrary, the excitement grows more and more each time, which can even lead to loss of consciousness.

The tragedy of this situation is that insatiability makes a woman rush from partner to partner, pushes her to all kinds of perversions. And the subsequent realization of the immorality of her behavior often leads her to suicide attempts.

Samantha syndrome

Fortunately, it is not often possible to meet a real nymphomaniac. Nature takes care that the number of those suffering from this exotic ailment does not exceed a certain level. Of a thousand ladies prone to casual relationships, only one will be really sick. For the rest, sexual activity will flow from completely different messages. Why should a woman build herself out of herself is not at all what she really is, it's easy to guess. Of course, for his sake, men. In the hope that his greedy gaze will catch on our knees, we put on very revealing outfits, and the desire to fix his voluptuousness on our charms makes us demonstrate an insatiable thirst for pleasure. Any of us knows that this bait works one hundred percent. And men can only wonder why it was his once such "insatiable" passion after the registry office so sharply slowed down.

Sexual wildness can also be triggered by low self-esteem, parenting, and even fashion. A woman suffering from an inferiority complex sometimes rejoices at any man who paid attention to her and, in order to keep his attention, quickly gives up positions. Some girls are not able to distinguish love from sex and in every sexual contact they are looking for the love they so lacked. A fragile psyche easily falls under the influence of fashion trends. When the press and television constantly exaggerate the topic of sex, it begins to seem that sexual promiscuity is the only correct behavior. And before it reaches the victim of "propaganda" that this is not entirely true, a lot of trouble can happen to her.

If sex has become the meaning of life, replacing and displacing all other interests from it, do not rush to revel in the realization of your superpowers. Anything "over" is almost always a pathology. And this case is no exception. Stop the endless series of your victories and make an appointment, just in case, to see an endocrinologist.