Cruel games

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Gentle caresses, long languid kisses, a gentle whisper in your ear … Girls, you must admit, sometimes you want a man to forget about his gentleness and, in a fit of passion, simply wrung your hands and put you in a knee-elbow position. I would like him to be in bed with you a primitive man, a male, a real animal, and not this polite and helpful caricature of a man!

Dangerous ties

Before embarking on the gradual transformation of the inhabitant into a rapist, it is worthwhile to understand the reasons for your desire to be a weak victim in strong male hands.

If your family imposes on you that sex is forbidden ("Good girls don't do this!"), Then it is likely that you need to feel like a victim in order to relax and "let go of yourself." It is not you who want sex - you are resisting, you are being raped! Thus, a woman often disclaims responsibility for her sexual desire, of which she is still ashamed and ashamed.

Things can be more complicated. If an older man is constantly present in your fantasies, if one of your favorite heroines is Nabokov's Lolita, if for more thrill during sex you need to imagine small and scared, and he is big and strong, then it is quite possible that he has a place to be a psychological trauma in a relationship with a father. If at the right moment the father, without crossing borders, makes the girl understand that she is beautiful and positively evaluates her as a future woman, then no problems should arise in the future. After all, the first of the most important men in a woman's life is her father.

If he accepts her for who she is, then in the future she will have no reason to doubt her value and attractiveness to other men. If the father, for some reason, rejects his daughter, refusing to see her as a future woman, then she will try to win him all her life, to please him - looking for him in other men, of course. He will imagine himself as an innocent victim of violence, a toy in the hands of another, more experienced and mature partner.

Another reason why women today increasingly want to be in a subordinate position in bed is the change in gender roles that has taken place in society. If earlier a woman was engaged in children and home, and a man was a breadwinner in the family, today everything has turned upside down. The more responsibility falls on a woman, the more she will want at least somewhere to be weak and defenseless. Think of the classic male masochists: often they are people in high positions and burdened with a great burden of responsibility. It's the same with women.

All of the above is not at all intended to prove to women that their desires are dirty perversions that should be gotten rid of. If you do not feel any psychological trauma behind your desire to be a victim in bed, then no one can prevent you from throwing coal into the furnace of your relationship.

Sexologist Alena August explains why many women want hard sex: “Because cruelty is strong emotions and feelings, it is even a kind of revival of primitive sensations, when the danger of being caught and taken by force was obvious. Sex that is associated with a sense of fear, danger is just more emotional sex. The conclusion suggests itself - the desire for hard sex is both the desire to experience more acute emotional sensations, and the desire to arouse them in a partner."

Violent methods

From theory to practice. How do you let him know what you want?

Anna, 30: “I usually do a pretty detailed review of my sexual tastes after 2-3 sex sessions. I talk without smirks, but as if I were reading the instructions for the dishwasher. Works very well. “Before you is a new complex mechanism. It is arranged so and so. It contains the following programs … For best results, use the following combination of actions. " In addition, I always stipulate the possibility that he will do something to me that no one has done before, and it will be cool. I provoke, so to speak, creativity."

Olga, 25 years old: “We need to bite him! At first it is easy, and then slowly increase the rigidity, if you do not overdo it, he will reciprocate."

Mikhail, 29 years old: “Give him a drink! Not to a state of non-standing, but simply to make him relax. A little alcohol - and a person will weaken all defenses, he will be ready for experiments. The main thing is not to overdo it, otherwise you will have to drag the insensible body to the bed."

Lyudmila, 23 years old: “Men are more aggressive than women. You have to show aggression yourself - and then he will respond to it in kind. And an impromptu brawl can easily turn into sex if you put it in the right direction."

Sergey, 26 years old: “You can also show right during sex what to do. Pinch here, slap there. Just take it and do it with his hand - it's not a secret for anyone that absolutely all men watch or watched pornography in a cruel puberty, so by a couple of your gestures he will guess what you expect from him."

The rape game in bed is

	What I love.
	I've never tried it, but I would love to.
	I've never tried it, and I really don't feel like it.
	A strange perversion.

Tatiana, 30 years old: “Personally, I have empirically established that if such a problem arises, then it is effectively solved only by changing the partner. Even if you once managed to achieve the desired effect from it, the next time you have to start all over again: this skill is not fixed in any way, alas."

Natalya, 28 years old: "You can watch films of the corresponding content together, for example," The History of O. " is a classic of sadomasochism. In general, almost any porn will do - after all, in almost every video a woman is in a subordinate, humiliated position of a sexual victim. When it starts, try to translate the plot from the screen to life. Don't forget to buy handcuffs beforehand. Better yet, entrust their purchase to him - then he will know in advance what to prepare for."

And observe the measure in everything. There is a difference between "making him" and "making him want it." You can't be cute. No matter how ambiguous it may sound in the context of our topic.

By the way, in the "Love" section of our women's magazine you will find many other interesting articles on the topic of sex!