Is it worth working with relatives

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

As a child, we dreamed of how we would grow up and gather all our relatives around us, live together and work together. But as adults, they realized that the pleasure of seeing painfully familiar faces day after day, both at home and at work, is rather dubious.

Family ties, of course, are the strongest and most inviolable, but sometimes you have to miss your relatives and friends in order to avoid unnecessary quarrels and showdown from scratch. And what to do for those who are faced with a choice: whether to get a job at the invitation of a relative or refuse the offer and hire a loved one as an employee of their company, or not to mix family and work relationships?

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In addition to the feeling of a secure rear, there are several pitfalls that you should know about in advance.

At first glance, the offer of a close relative to work in the company where he occupies a leading position seems rather tempting: now you will certainly be like Christ's in the bosom, you can relax, because this person is for you, first of all, “Aunt Sveta "Or" Uncle Kolya ", not" big boss ". Plus, trust, ease of communication, the ability to build a real family business empire that can withstand the most severe economic crises.

But to say that such an opinion is erroneous is to say nothing. In addition to the feeling of a secure rear, there are several pitfalls waiting for you, about which you should find out in advance, before you want to quit, and you will not have enough courage to notify a loved one.

High requirements

Often, senior relatives make higher demands on their subordinate relatives than on anyone else.

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The bosses do not want the new employee of the company to be perceived exclusively as a protégé, and sometimes goes too far, showing others that the niece or daughter is not “special”, but just like everyone else. Needless to say, in this situation, relations between loved ones deteriorate significantly, unspoken grievances appear, and the idea of subordination is distorted.

What to do: if you find yourself in the role of a demanding boss, then it is better to choose tactics of some distancing, rather than humiliation and insults. Well, if this is you - an employee who is unfairly harassed by the bosses, then be patient: the nagging will end exactly when you get comfortable in the team.

In the camp of the enemy

The boss-subordinate relationship is rather ambiguous, and when employees see that there is a person who can somehow influence the boss, they do not miss the opportunity to seize this opportunity. Needless to say, colleagues, having learned about the degree of your relationship with your immediate supervisor, will now and then ask you to cover them up, they will regularly ask about the boss's plans, someone will even ask you to put in a good word for him. By the way, the chief-relative also does not hesitate to "send" you to the "camp of the enemy" in order to find out what is really going on in the team when he closes the door behind him.

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What to do: you should be friendly with colleagues, and polite and keep your distance with your boss. Show both sides that you came here to work, not spy. Otherwise, there is a risk of so badly spoiling relations in the team and with a loved one that the only possible scenario would be dismissal.

The sweetest piece

Not all coworkers will like being the daughter, sister, or niece of their boss. Some people do not believe at all in the honesty of such a working relationship and literally see blat in everything. It happens that the team, without hesitation, arranges "showdowns" for a new colleague, accusing him of the fact that the boss gives him the easiest tasks, unfairly increases his salary, allows him to leave work earlier, etc.

What to do: When you find yourself in the delicate position of a subordinate who was hired thanks to connections, show that you do not attach any importance to the fact that your boss is a relative. Call him by his first name and patronymic, leave meaningful smiles and conversations about family dinners outside the office. Well, if the boss is you, then treat the new employee exactly the same as everyone else. And all the more, there is no need to gently stroke him on the shoulder, introducing him to the team.

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Relatively

Those who are hired by good relatives are often tempted to take advantage of this kindness. First - a request to let go early, and then - a subtle hint of "fat circumstances": they say, you know what my situation is, help me in a relative way - raise my salary. Not every manager will like such impudence, and the accounting department of the company clearly does not expect that it will have to pay extra to selected employees for no reason. Against this background, serious problems may appear in the "boss - subordinate" relationship.

What to do: to the one who was hired - do not be impudent. Still, it is not beautiful and not fair in relation to other employees. And the boss should immediately make it clear that the new employee does not have any privileges, and the bonus and time off are not something that is given for family ties, it must be earned.