How to leave your child with a nanny and not get nervous

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

In the life of a mother and a baby, sooner or later, there comes a moment when for the first time it is necessary, albeit for a very short time, to part. Often a woman perceives this event with anxiety in her heart: is it possible for someone else to take care of her child in the same way as she herself? Everything is not as scary as it seems to the mother - if you fulfill a few simple conditions, the separation will be absolutely painless, at least for the baby. Our expert, perinatal psychologist, specialist in family psychology and breastfeeding consultant at Pigeon Anna Novoselova will tell you in detail about them.

Are you afraid to leave your baby even for half an hour? Remember that one really important separation is long over, because the process of birth is nothing more than the first natural separation of the child and mother. When this happened, your child was able to see the world with his own eyes and began to breathe on his own. However, the cunning nature ordered that for the first few months you should be constantly with him: he is still too weak to enter into an independent life. Naturally, in such a situation, when the mother and the child become one, it seems that if the baby is left alone, a disaster will happen. Do not panic: a few hours without a mother will not harm the child - at the same time he will learn to trust other people. If he is at least 7-8 months old, he will discover a new place (for example, a dacha or grandmother's apartment), try new activities, learn to adapt and compare. Surprisingly, even the smallest children often behave differently when they are with their mother and with other people!

First, leave your child for literally a few minutes, and then increase the time.

Many mothers are worried: will a nanny or grandmother be able to rock a child? Will the baby accept the bottle from her hands? Will she cry all the time? In order for the baby to greet you with a happy happy smile on his return, start leaving him for a short while with someone else in advance - this is especially important for those mothers who are planning to go to work from maternity leave. First, leave your child for literally a few minutes, and then increase the time. The most interesting thing is that this gradual addiction is needed first of all by parents. A child, especially a very small child, most likely, will not see anything unpleasant in a new situation, especially if they take good care of him: rocking, feeding and changing clothes.

What the mother should remember so that the child can comfortably spend a couple of hours without her:

Trust completely whoever you are leaving the child with. When it comes to a nanny, choose this assistant carefully, ask previous clients more about her, talk to her, arrange an impromptu test to understand how she will behave in a given situation. Your child will certainly feel that you are leaving him to the person whom you yourself trust, and after you leave, he will remain serenely calm

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• Do not forget to leave a sufficient amount of expressed milk at home, and preferably even with a small supply. The selection of a bottle is also very important at this stage, because often babies, even after a short artificial feeding, begin to abandon their breast. The nipples of modern bottles are made as similar as possible to a woman's breast, so that the child does not even feel the change.
• Don't try to make a copy of your nanny or grandmother. Yes, she sings to the baby not his (but rather your) favorite song at all - and so what? If the rules of hygiene, safety and really necessary recommendations are strictly followed, your child is not in any danger. Let him learn more often and you will see that he will grow up savvy, curious and courageous!
• Don't panic if the baby cries when you get back. It happens that the baby defiantly throws a tantrum when the mother comes home and even pushes her away. Do not be angry at all: smile and blow him a kiss, tell him that it was not easy for you too and you were bored. By crying, he does not at all show irritation towards you, but on the contrary, only shows how much he is attached to you.

Children are great at adapting to everything, and they are interested in finding themselves in new situations, and overprotectiveness can sometimes become a much bigger problem than short separations, even at a very early age. Remember the main thing: if you are calm for the baby and leave him in a reliable company, then he is calm for himself - the connection between the mother and the child is so deep that your feelings and emotions are transmitted to him, and in the end he completely trusts you.