Giving birth

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

If a couple of decades ago, women dreamed of getting married as soon as possible, hiding in this way behind the broad back of their husbands from the troubles of life and hoping for a cozy family nest filled with love, warmth and children's hubbub, now, having seen how modern men have been crushed, ladies want freedom, equality, having a good job and a high salary, and a child … who does not know his biological father.

According to statistics, about a quarter of young prosperous Russian women are ready to conceive a baby, and after a positive pregnancy test result they get lost in space and time, without telling the owner of that crazy sperm that he will soon become a dad. And 5% are already raising a child in splendid isolation. But, they say, soon mothers giving birth to a child"

Undermined by the post-war years, when men were worth their weight in gold, and therefore indulged in every possible way and grew up in greenhouse conditions, the character of the obviously stronger sex leads to a lack of masculinity, which is more than covered by the decisiveness of feminist-minded personalities called Women. We conduct business negotiations no worse than the Adam of our time, fearlessly fly into space, descend to the bottom of the ocean, teach, heal. We try to keep up with our male colleagues, and sometimes we are ahead of them. We understand politics and cook well, we know how to respond insolently and slip into the green eye of a traffic light, being late for a child in kindergarten … We adapt to everything and work to the utmost, while men arrange endless smoke breaks, talk about the futility of the tradition of giving on a date flowers to the lady of the heart and are afraid to upset their mother with a late return.

Only by dragging a certain person into bed, the newly-made Casanova frees up, straightens his shoulders and feels himself the master of the situation. He is ready to dictate the terms: "top-standing-bottom!" - and insist on being protected, initially refusing to enter into responsibility and partnership. He is afraid to let the situation get out of control, afraid to be cornered by the statement "I'm pregnant!"

Many ladies who decide on an incomplete family reason like this: the participation of two in raising a baby is very good … But sometimes on the way there are representatives of the stronger sex that no father at all is better than a bad father. Of course, we must wait and hope for a miracle … For that very, reliable, strong, kind - to be there … and to want her children. After all, a family is not just a dream in a common bed or joint breakfasts in the morning. This is much more. But! If a woman by the age of 30-35 has not met a man who agrees to share responsibility with her for another life (loves, appreciates, protects and wants to be with her) … plus a woman herself feels that she can raise and educate her child - then it is necessary to give birth as if "for yourself" … So that a ship called "Happiness" sailed to her harbor. To be a mom. This is a difficult decision, and a toddler will not replace a man … but he will be her child … It's even difficult to explain … Why children? Do not know. We will assume that this is an instinct or a biological clock (with a cuckoo) … If both parents are amazing, this should be appreciated and tried in every possible way to maintain and strengthen the relationship. But people are not insured against unforeseen situations. A loved one can go to another woman, get sick, die (pah-pah-pah) … and you will have his child, his part. Is it bad? Children are definitely needed! By the way, French women, they say, have very high requirements for husbands and men in general, and the state helps single French mothers, which is why many prefer to give birth to themselves at 30 years old.

But, deciding on a "solo voyage" with a child, each mother should clearly realize that she first of all gives life to a new free personality, that a child is not the best way to get away from loneliness, despair, melancholy, emptiness. When a mother is overly selfish about her child, there is a possibility that in the future she will reproach her grown child, saying that I put my life on you, did not sleep enough, alone raised you, and you grew up as an ungrateful egoist. And what to do when a grown-up child wants to study beyond the distant lands, in another kingdom-state, or to marry early? How, then, to deal with melancholy? Give birth to another one for yourself?

It would not hurt a woman to first reconsider her views on life and learn to rejoice already at least that you woke up and the sun smiled at you, tickling your hair that was disheveled during the night, that the cloud, seeing your formidable appearance, disappeared behind the horizon, that the sparrow arranged demonstrative performances with eating crumbs just for you … Look for positive moments in everything, do not dramatize life, hope and believe to the last. "There are many men in the world, I will find at least a dozen of them for you!" - so said the famous joker Truffaldino from Bergamo.

The child will not solve all the problems at once, because he is not a toy, after playing enough, you cannot put him in the closet … it is cruel to give birth alone, in relation to the baby. Yes, and it is terribly painful to walk a pregnant woman in splendid isolation, to understand that the one who is now in your tummy is not needed by anyone except you, that no one is worried about how the birth is going there when you are in the hospital, that you need to choose a stroller and buy yourself, so that when you leave the hospital, your beloved will not fill up your midwife with a heap of flowers. So what is next? Years will pass and, perhaps, your growing baby will not ask unnecessary questions: "Where is my dad?" - but his eyes will eloquently tell you everything, looking at every man entering the house with secret hope.

The opinion of men on this matter is extremely categorical: "As for the desire to" have a child for yourself "… in relation to a man it is extremely dishonest - to use his sperm for such purposes without his consent. and those that build relationships with a woman on mutual trust. And if a woman deliberately cheats, says that she is taking pills, or that she has a spiral, or that the day is safe, she acts meanly towards her partner. lies … This, you know, is somehow … unpleasant, at least."

Summing up, we note that if you give birth to a child, then from your beloved man. With romantic music, scented candles, champagne, flowers, on snow-white sheets, with long foreplay and mutual caresses than from a cold test tube or a distant person. Don't deprive your toddler of the joy of having two parents.