Video: Weekend husband
2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00
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Not long ago, with the word"
But times are changing, and morals are changing too. And now you won't surprise anyone with a husband who comes to visit.
The age of sexual revolution, which brought women the joy of sex without remorse and men the delight of orgasm without commitment, discovered a curious trend in society - the crisis of traditional marriage. The foundation of family relationships is crumbling under the influence of social changes: you can have a lot of sex, with pleasure, in a variety of ways and with different characters; for washing-ironing-cooking, appropriate technical devices, more compact than a wife, were invented and purchased long ago; for construction and repair work, there are special services, more qualified than the husband. A modern woman often earns money and values her independence no less than a man, and the need for a strict sequence "school - institution - marriage" is gradually losing its relevance. Of course, a husband as a part of life experience, if not obligatory, then at least simply interesting, but the question arises - what kind of husband?..
According to sociological research, in most countries, except for the Islamic world, family relationships are taking on more and more unusual forms. In pursuit of the dream of an ideal marriage, people try to invent an optimal model of family life that meets both age-old needs and new trends.
Modern civilization has several family options, from which you can always choose the one that is closest to you:
1) Traditional marriage: the usual form of the family, including registration, cohabitation, a common household, and, as a rule, a single budget and a head of the family who is responsible for making decisions. In fact, a church marriage looks similar, with the only difference that it does not entail legal consequences, since according to Russian law, only a marriage registered with the registry office is recognized as a marriage.
2) Trial marriage (civil or unregistered marriage): differs from the traditional one by the absence of registration, and from ordinary love relationships by the presence of a common living space and a joint household. As a rule, partners plan to "test their feelings" by harsh everyday life, or they believe that it is not at all necessary to devote the state, represented by official bodies, to their personal lives.
3) Seasonal marriage (limited time family): is concluded for a certain period, after which it is considered automatically terminated. Spouses re-weigh all the pros and cons of living together and choose: to part with them or to agree for another period of time. Supporters of this form of marriage are of the opinion that adults grow out of relationships like children grow out of shoes.
4) Communal marriage ("Swedish family"): a family with several men and several women. They are connected not only and not so much by common sex as by common household and friendly relations. If children appear in such families, they are brought up by all members of the "commune" who are guided by the idea - the more men and women before the eyes of a child, the more opportunities he has to learn about the diversity of the world.
5) open marriage: a traditional family in which the spouses allow hobbies and connections on the side. There can be all kinds of options: from disguising betrayals under the threat of rupture to an open discussion of the "adventures" of each of the spouses. In the extreme, it can be a family-wide hobby, up to joint participation in group sex.
6) Guest (extraterritorial) marriage: the couple is registered, but each one lives with him. From time to time they meet, have dinner together in a cafe, spend a married night, sometimes live together, but they do not run a common household. They go to visit each other, from time to time they spend vacations together. The rest of the time, each of them is free from family responsibilities and lives his own life.
In a world where relationships change every second, where people meet, fall in love, marry, and then get tired, quarrel and divorce, there is a need to create a new family model that will suit both lovers of freedom and connoisseurs of home comfort. Futurologists believe that it is the guest marriage that is the family of the future.
It would seem that at first glance it looks somewhat extreme. Husband on a schedule? Wife on schedule? We live with him for a week, a week with me, two weeks - a vacation ?! But this is only at first glance. Traditional marriage raises concerns that have long been studied and voiced: it often seems that the family, offering all the joys of shared responsibility and a shared life, is taking away the freedom it has hard-won from life. The husband becomes something from the interior of the room, and the wife becomes something from the kitchen utensils. In addition, as the classic said: "When you come home, you are sitting here" …
A guest marriage offers an alternative: you and your lover always wanted to be absolutely independent, (or you wanted to get married as soon as possible, and your chosen one has an established marriage phobia) - a family in different territories may be the best option. The primordial wedding farewells from "girls" to "marriage" are losing their relevance, such a tangible line between single and married life is erased. Whether it is good or bad, you will have to decide in each case.
They say that feminine perception resembles a hydra: formless, it often takes any form. And the world around a woman becomes, as it were, a component of her: a beloved man is perceived as something as dear and close as his own body. A guest marriage offers clear boundaries - it is not the usual "we", but a complex union of "me" and "me". Psychologists are of the opinion that the generalization of all life manifestations, which sooner or later occurs in any traditional marriage, is a woman's lifestyle, and clear structuring (in the logic "here is a wife, here is our life together, but here is a personal one") is typical for men.
The same psychologists believe that extraterritorial marriage is a male vision of marriage - and freedom is intact, and a wife is present. Naturally, one should not forget that the bearer of male psychology is not necessarily a man, just as representatives of the female way of thinking are not always women. A guest marriage is a family that men invented and which women like more and more every year.
And it turns out that the problem of everyday routine has been solved, there is plenty of free time, no one solicits the questions "when will you come" and "where have you been", and the husband is not a boring exhibit in classic sweatpants with drawn knees, but still interesting you a man, but … there is another important question - children. In practice, children born in guest marriages are raised by a mother, and absolutely all the same worries as in an ordinary family fall on her shoulders. But - without the daily presence of the dad's child in the life of the child, who wants to come to visit with cakes, dolls or cars, and does not want to - will spend a fun evening in the company of equally carefree friends or girlfriends. And you will not be able to influence this situation in any way - you agreed so! And if dad turns out to be a little more caring, then after a while your family will still look like an ordinary family, otherwise raising a child will be as effective as having sex on the phone or boxing by correspondence …
Whichever family you choose, remember, children often build the same relationships as their parents. And if the guest marriage suits you so much that in the future you will also like your son-in-law who comes to visit your daughter, good luck in building a harmonious guest marriage - the family of the future …
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