I always want to call him

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-18 00:05

How not to bother your boyfriend ten times a day

You start to miss him 10 seconds after you break up. You are sure that he is also not indifferent to him, and you cannot understand why he never calls himself and so rarely answers text messages. You call and hear a voice devoid of enthusiasm (which overwhelms you!), And sometimes even an annoyed voice.

Friends advise "don't bother him." But do you get it? You just want to see him all the time, or at least hear him. And in general, you have to maintain constant contact, right? And the statement that your man needs a break from you from time to time seems to you nonsense: how can you want to take a break from your beloved? You are sure that you are persistent with the best intentions, and therefore it is not dangerous in any way for your relationship. It’s just not clear why lately he began to interrupt your telephone conversations more often under various pretexts and even cancel dates, which had not been observed before …

If this situation is familiar to you, let me remind you of the common truth:

• a man is a hunter,
• a man should be allowed to take the initiative,
• when there are "many" women, she becomes uninteresting to the man.

Are you tired of hearing this? Do you know all this very well yourself? Then why are you calling first again? Do you think there is a good reason for this? So: all (or almost all) of your reasons are nothing but tricks! More precisely, self-deception. You just can't resist, as if the enemy is pushing and whispering in your ear - call and call.

The enemy, together with his weapons, must be known by sight, and today we will get to know them. Here are ten of the most common cheating excuses and how to counter them. For your convenience, I have combined them into four groups.

If he wants, he will call

Hoax # 1. I have to plan the weekend.

That's right, plan, but … without it. If he then harmoniously merges into your plans - great! Does not work? Well, he will sit a little on a starvation ration. Or take a break from you.

Do you want to make plans for him? Not worth it, the man is unlikely to like it. Unless he asks you about it. But to ask, he must … call himself!

Deception No. 2. I promised to call!

It's easier to prevent than to cure. Don't make such promises, that's all.

Deception No. 3. What if he wants to call, but hesitates ?!

Give him the opportunity to show his courage and initiative, otherwise you will then have to do a lot first. Including a marriage proposal - he's shy!..

You are ready to talk about your love all the time. Does he need it?

Deception No. 4. I just really want to see him, or at least hear him.

But this is mega-self-deception! It would seem - really: you are two adults, you have a relationship, why listen to all kinds of psychologists, why not call your beloved?

Because you want it more often than he does! And a man, as we have already said, definitely needs to experience a slight feeling of hunger.

Hoax # 5. If I don't call, we won't meet at all!

Are you sure about that? Then leave this man immediately - it turns out that he just doesn't really need you. True, an internal saboteur immediately helpfully prompts: "I am a woman - it means that I am responsible for communication!"

"Build communication" and "impose communication": do you feel the difference ?! A well-sustained pause usually helps to build the desired communication - without struggle, importunity and humiliation.

I have an objective reason for the call. Is it so?

Deception No. 6. What if something happened?

Well, yes, you calmly walked from the bus stop through the park to the house, and your beloved - about one meter ninety in height - could not overcome a hundred meters from the car to the entrance …

Deception No. 7. I have to dot the i!

When we met, I didn’t say everything, I didn’t finish. And now he is silent, disappeared, went to the bottom, and what is happening ?! Here are just a few more phrases, and he will understand everything!

There is a much easier way to find out what is really going on - to go to the bottom yourself. What if he doesn't notice it? Well, then you have a reason to start a new romance.

Deception No. 8. I have at my disposal information that he really really needs.

He asked to find her, and I did it. Shouldn't I immediately call and tell everything ?!

Well, you will meet someday. Or he will call. So wait for this to report your find.

You can't, but if you really want to, can you? No, after all - you can't

Deception No. 9. I am bored, there is nothing to do, why not please myself by chatting with my beloved?

Think of something better as entertainment: call a friend or watch TV.

As an option: something happened to you (pleasant or not so joyful) and you want to share unthinkably. The answer is the same - to a friend, immediately!

Deception No. 10. He said that he did not like to talk on the phone (correspond by mail, send text messages).

So if I don’t call, we’ll never be able to talk at all?

Allow me, if he doesn't like all this, why impose such a burden (from his point of view) on him ?! On the other hand, each of us knows examples when absolutely non-contact and uncommunicative men sit for hours on the phone, communicating with the one and only important one …

So, it turns out that a man should never and for anything call? Of course, sometimes it is possible and even necessary. Typically in one of three situations:

1. He called - you did not have time to answer the phone.
2. He took the exam (he had important negotiations, a meeting, etc.).
3. He is ill.

And if none of these reasons are observed, and the desire to call literally strangles? In this case, one simple and effective trick comes in handy. By the way, with its help, some even quit smoking or lose weight.

Are you eager to dial his number right this second? Agree with yourself: I'll be patient until I do something (well, I'll wash the dishes or stroke my blouse there). Did you, but the desire to call did not disappear? Then the next step. Sit down and write - on paper or on a computer - whatever you were going to tell him. Only in detail, and then reread and correct the text. In nine cases out of ten, the urge to call will then dissipate.

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