Examples of friendship

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

I blindly believed in female friendship and tried to prove that this phrase is also worthy to be pronounced proudly. But I was blinded. Until the pain in the eyes. Until loss of consciousness. As if she looked at the sun through binoculars. "Slipped, fell, woke up - plaster", you know? When I woke up, my friend was no longer there. She is in another dimension and smiles at me and waves her hand: "Chao, bambino, sorry!" And I stand in a puddle, and my shoes say that it has become wet. I sink into the ground along with my boots, a puddle and the whole world, my world, which someone dared to destroy so cruelly. Women's friendship sometimes dies, and this death has very specific reasons …

Why sometimes it seems that the whole world has turned to you … well, you yourself understand why. Maybe I didn’t pass the probationary period, or maybe friendship also has an expiration date and now it is over … but they don’t write out warranty coupons for friendship …

But friendship is not a commodity. Probably, this is an art, the ability for which not everyone has. For example, you have a girlfriend. No, at first just an acquaintance, let's not rush high-flown words. A wonderful person, you have a wonderful relationship, you help each other in everything, talk on any topic, consult with each other. You are ready to give her everything: your soul, your will, and the keys to the apartment, where the money, credit cards, a new home theater and a unique Persian cat Kuzya are. You think of her as your best friend. And she you? Are you sure the feelings are mutual? Not always. She may be good to you, but you did not sign the Selfless Mutual Friendship Act … When Barbie glasses fade or crack, it becomes sad. Very sad. But maybe you yourself are to blame? Wishful thinking?

It was here that it seemed to me that the cracks in women's friendship were by no means empty gossip of skeptics. In my opinion and the opinion of the acquaintances I interviewed, there are quite definite reasons for erecting too high walls between girlfriends. Friendship cannot exist with different rhythms of life, and in the presence of some outwardly imperceptible barriers, the rhythms do not sound in unison. Let's look at examples of friendship:

1. Love

You and your friend knew each other when you walked under the table, learned to kiss on tomatoes together, talked about your first "combat successes" in the fight against boys and competed in the number of bruises, constantly scolded the opposite sex, threatening to destroy the entire male world, and painted notebooks boys lipstick. Until … she fell in love. Yes, yes, to that same Genka from the senior class, whom you scolded all night long and came up with the most sophisticated methods of torture. Now attempts to stick chewing gum on his jeans will be accompanied by loud obscene exclamations from a friend. Even though you often liked to sit in a familiar cafe in the evenings and shoot the waiters' eyes to defeat. Now her evenings (as well as telephone conversations and trips out of town) are in his hands, as well as her heart. And the fact that he is a womanizer with many years of experience, and the hearts he has broken will be enough for a hundred cardiology departments, is unlikely to convince a friend of his asserting his highest point of male development.

Love sucks in deathly, not even allowing the last "Sorry" to roll. With the appearance of a loved one, a friend will immediately have a new circle of acquaintances (his acquaintances, of course), new hobbies (his hobbies, of course), new ways of spending the weekend (in the circle of his friends with his hobbies) and a new place to hang out (his place and places of his acquaintances).

Old ties will fall off like a lizard's tail. And before you have time to look back, you will lie with this tail on the dirty pavement, trying to prolong your life with a gulp from the puddle.

2. Appearance

You have never measured the length of your legs, the girth of the waist and the degree of bend of the hip. Believe me, your friend measured them for you long ago. And if attempts to fatten you with buns and chips to the point where men start confusing you with age-old oaks or a double-winged wardrobe did not bring the desired result, she will try to retreat, taking all your "male catch" with her. Have you not noticed that when you walk together, the guys passing by look into your eyes and at your feet, and not at her eyes and not at her feet, and come up to meet you? Have not noticed? Believe me, your friend noticed this a long time ago for you and is already developing a plan to make you less attractive in the eyes of others, especially of the opposite sex.

You always wonder why passers-by sometimes look at you in a strange way. Yes, it seemed to you yourself that the dress you put on did not quite match your grandmother's scarf, and in general it was a little too big. But my friend sincerely assured that such a "outfit" is the best fit for your figure, and grandmother's old scarves are just in vogue. Well, can your best friend give you bad advice? Moreover, she understands fashion better than you, because she became a fashionista back in the baby's cradle, when she categorically refused to tie a traditional pink bow, and pulled a decorative flower from Versace's neck from her mother's neck. How can you! It is no coincidence that she never once said a bad word about your appearance, even if you yourself felt that something was wrong. Continuous "Ah! How it suits you!"

Perhaps you do not find your appearance photogenic, when you see the camera like a tortoise you hide your head in the collar of your coat and are not afraid to return alone in dark courtyards, because you sincerely believe that with your appearance you only scare off the bandits, and take the rumble of the fallen guys behind your back for sounds " training alarm ".

A friend may have a different opinion on this matter, but an encouraging compliment: "What are you clever!" will turn out to be an unrestrained outburst of envy.

3. Interests

Examples of friendship are different, here's another option: with graduation from school, admission to an institute (different institutes), change of place of residence, place of work, the general background of life changes. You and your friend can, out of habit, meet once a week, call up every two days, tell the latest news, but the daily social circle will still change and sooner or later it will pull you head over heels.

Imagine that you have become a militant feminist, and she is a romantic Turgenev girl "for marriageable". You tell her your ways of breeding men like cockroaches. And she admires a bouquet of dandelions presented by another Romeo, and in her mind makes a list of guests for the wedding.

Or you became a cheeky "punker" with a tart-green mohawk on your head, and your friend turned into an intelligent nun with a starched collar and rectangular glasses on the bridge of her nose. You tell her: "Healthy, dude!" And she to you: "Hello, Maria!" You invite her to a bike show not to come off like a child, and she invites you to a lecture on crocodile breeding in captivity. You tell her what kid yesterday you "threw" on a bottle of beer, and she tells you about the methods of fighting for chastity before marriage.

Or maybe she became a specialist in discos, nightclubs, bars and other nightlife establishments whose noise prevents you from falling asleep before a working day. She is a spree girl, a dick girl, a wind girl, collecting guys as underwear sets. But you, always devoted to your first love, are looking for a way to drag her to a cafe just to have a heart-to-heart chat.

Having exhausted shared memories, you are unlikely to find mutually interesting topics of conversation. And the constant pushing against the wall of misunderstanding will further alienate the once inseparable laughter girls from each other.

4. Money

In a children's sandbox, everyone is equal (unless, of course, this is a sandbox with differentiation by class). In adolescence, translation difficulties already arise. Just friendly relations and spending time together at the dacha in the barn cannot yet be called friendship. She enthusiastically tells you about the new foundation from Lancome or Nina Ricci, which she bought - "hmm.. for only 3500 re" and you are proud of how cleverly you bargained as much as 300 rubles from the seller on the market!

She advises you to dress in stores … yes, you have heard such names out of your ears, they are all located in the area of Tverskaya or Kutuzovsky Prospekt. You even tried to enter, but for the first time you were not allowed to go beyond the front door in disgrace due to the inconsistency of the dress-code, and the second time you ran out yourself, having lost the ability to count the number of zeros on the price tag. Yes, for the cost of one bra, you could buy an awesome fur coat in your native Cherkizovsky market!

She has just returned from a month-long tour of Europe. I had a great rest. The Leaning Tower of Pisa is not so leaning, and frogs are like our chicken. You just returned from your summer cottage, where you also "talked" with frogs (and also with mosquitoes, gadflies, bees and Colorado beetles). The nature near Moscow is brilliant. And it does not matter that the toilet is outside, and variable rains develop into constant sluggish ones. She shows you Italian haute couture boots, and you show dirt on your grandma's rubber boots.

Are you afraid to ask what is the difference between lifting and peeling and tuning, and whether "tattooing" is really the diminutive name of the Tatu group, but she is embarrassed when she sees a VHS-VCR instead of the usual DVD: "I thought they were only in antique stores. remained".

5. Achievements

Not having time to get out of your prom dress, you rush to put on your office-business "troika" and rush to immediately look for work, joining the ranks of chronic workaholics. You write letters only by "e-mail", you talk only to the computer. Your friend, after the prom, calmly went to sleep and slept for three years, like a sleeping beauty. Swallowing the cake entirely, you tell your beloved friend about intimate conversations with Dima Malikov with a "machine-gun burst", ask for advice on whether to answer Pierre Narcissus's invitation to dinner, and remember with a smile how Dima Bilan had to go after the "Klinsky". This is your job and your life. The friend, in response to your sincere speeches, is suspiciously silent, pretending to be studying the patterns formed by coffee stains on a cotton tablecloth.

While you were running around town with a bunch of job advertisements, rubbing blisters on your computer keyboard, she studied hard, walked diligently, and danced in clubs on weekends. Now your life rhythms are out of tune. You live under "Oh, mom, chic yes, chica ladies!" She - under "Not even rustles are heard in the garden."

However, everyone has their own way of being friends. And the behavior that you mistook as signs of the end of the friendship can only be a characteristic feature of your friend.

One friend of mine gathers friends like mushrooms in a basket. She is so happy with the new white that she completely forgets about the boletus collected earlier. Although she also has a simple explanation for this: "I have a collecting instinct. I bring new friends to old ones, and I am faithful to my once made choice to the end. Only the best will remain, and we will live with them as one big family. This is the highest level of Friendship ".

Perhaps my opinion and examples of friendship about female friendship is subjective and someone will strongly disagree with him. But it is derived from our own experience, which means that the lion's share of the truth is already here.