What is unlucky and how to deal with it

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

No one is immune from failure. Streaks of blackness of black happen in the life of any person. Sometimes these periods can be prolonged. But there are people who seem to attract problems to themselves, the dark phases of their lives are rarely replaced by light ones. What to do when chronically unlucky? What if you are labeled as a poor fellow?

They are not born a chronic loser, they become a chronic loser - I came to this conclusion recently, observing and analyzing what is happening around. Often people themselves are to blame for luring problems and troubles to themselves with the fierceness of a maniac. It all starts small.

It is possible to recognize the future "unlucky" by some marker phrases. If a colleague, for example, accidentally knocking over a vase of flowers on the floor, immediately says “I knew that I would knock it over”, this is bad news. How, one wonders, can it be known that it is you who will overturn the vase? It is not a premonition of misfortune that is present - its formation. If something falls and breaks, there is a good line: “Oops! Something I am all so sudden today! ". Shrug your hands and smile.

Moving on. "I had no doubt that I would fail!" This terrible phrase ruined many plans and dashed many hopes. Her options:

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  "I would not have been given this position anyway …"

• "I would never have time to submit the report by the deadline …"
• "He wouldn't marry me anyway …"
• "Mom always said that I have only problems …"
• "Last month my car was scratched, it's just karma …"

This approach inevitably leads to the abyss, and neuro-linguistic programming here works in the most unpleasant way - against us.

If now you recognize yourself in these marker phrases, then grab your head and immediately say out loud … no, just not “I knew I was damned!”, Not that. Now we will do a short work on the mistakes together. So:

• I'm already tired, but in this position I would have gone crazy. I'm going to sign up for fitness, since I have free evenings. And in general - horses die from work.
• The report, of course, is a good thing, but happiness is not in it. And then, if no one has time to pass it on time, then the time is wrong! They need to be extended … for a week.
• Not married - and thank God, you won't have to get divorced. And with his character, it would have been inevitable. Better to find a normal guy and live happily ever after with him. Or two!
• Mom also said that I should eat semolina if I want to grow up beautiful. And what, was mom right? Yeah, if I ate this porridge, I would weigh a centner. Beauty would be unearthly!
• Scratched your car? Nonsense. But I have it, a car!

This is how we change position, turning big failure into little luck. Where will you find, where will you lose? - nobody knows. The glass is always half full until we have finished it to the bottom. I will reveal a little secret, in our world there are no clearly expressed successes or failures, everything, literally everything, depends on the assessments that we give to things and events.

For example, one will consider the purchase of an apartment a great happiness, and the other - a mortgage hard labor. One will rejoice at the birth of a third child - the other will be horrified and despairing at the appearance of the first. One will believe in the victory of the Russian national football team, no matter how many times it loses in disgrace in the qualifying round. Another will think that everything is over here, everything is lost, and we have no future here. And because we are unlucky here, all the luck remained for those, others - overseas. Their grass is greener …

I don't know what kind of grass they have across the ocean, but the fact that our obsession with bad luck is very common is an indisputable fact. Let's imagine a situation. The man lives. A normal comrade, not deprived of anything, nothing special did not stand out. Age - twenty-five years, two arms, two legs, "Ford Focus" on credit, higher education, tourism manager. Live and rejoice, as they say! An, no. Not ready. “I was not lucky, I was born in … Moscow, Uryupinsk, Taganrog. Now, if I was born in another country (city, continent, climate), I could become … a composer, artist, sculptor … In a word, a great man. " Do you think such a character is fiction?

A journalist friend of mine, a talented young guy who drinks a little, ate our bald head, shouting that here, in "our swamp", his talent was lost. He would rush off into the distance, on an airplane, he would send brilliant articles from there, from distant countries, four times a day. What do you think made a journey for him. And even around the world, for a year. Six months later, the boy returned, turned back somewhere in the Vietnam region. Life "there" was not picturesque enough for him to create something worthwhile. And in the hotel the bed was uncomfortable.

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A tendency to bad luck is an ideal explanation for lazy people, unassembled, unpunctual natures (I will always collect all the traffic jams in the city!), Inattentive, ungrateful ("What is your name, again? I have such a bad head, I was lucky with my genes … I don't remember anything!" ").

But what could be worse than such "bad luck" in life? Only one thing is to fall in love with such a manipulator. And try to save him. And how could it be otherwise, if such an unfortunate person, who was so unlucky before you came into his life, was so unlucky! How can you not help him ?! It is necessary to bring order, peace, tranquility and happiness into his life. Here you need to stop for a second and ask yourself in all seriousness - do you need it?

A loser is used to failures like crutches, he will not want to give up them for the dubious pleasure of taking responsibility, growing up and moving forward. Rather, after long torment and grief, you will be disappointed, and when your strength comes to an end, a professional loser will sigh and say: "Well, I knew that sooner or later you would leave me too." And you will have to fully experience the weight of the guilt that has been transferred to you. So, do you need it? It's up to you to decide. If so, well, good luck!