Why new love relationships arise

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

The phenomenon, which will be devoted to the following articles, is called treason and jealousy.

"Lyuta, like the underworld, jealousy, her arrows are arrows of fire, she is a very strong flame." Solomon.

In some cases, this causes condemnation, in others it is just an idle interest, and for some, the collapse of life. Cheating can be a fatal mistake or the only right decision.

Religion also contributed to this issue, consolidating the relationship between spouses and calling adultery not only the corresponding physical action, but even thoughts in this direction.

Blessed Augustine proclaimed many centuries ago: "He who is not jealous does not love." And people took this position on faith, but the deeper meaning lies in the fact that "not the one who is jealous who loves, but the one who wants to be loved."

However, it is believed that jealousy is good for love. Most likely, it's all about the proportions - after all, even the most healing medicine, applied without measure, can cause harm. Marcel Ashar wrote that a man is jealous of his predecessors, and a woman is jealous of those who will come after her. So we will try to figure out what jealousy, love, betrayal are and how not to turn it into a tragedy or a farce.

There can be many reasons for cheating: sexual dissatisfaction, a psychological problem between spouses, as well as self-interest, which includes sex for promotion at work, or just for the sake of money.

- Cheating for psychological reasons is most common. A woman is not satisfied with the signs of attention from her husband, while the husband is dissatisfied with the way his wife treats, for example, his parents

- Cheating on a physiological basis, although not the leading cause of adultery, is still quite common. They come because of the sexual dissatisfaction of one of the spouses in connection with the reduced potency of the marriage partner, different rhythms of sexual activity or problems associated with the individual characteristics of the structure of the genitals.

I would like to name in some classification causes of love affairs … Each other classification of cheating has its own strengths, but it will be useful for you to read these suggested ones.

- Feel more attention to yourself. Very often, the motivating reason for a new love relationship is the desire to feel like an object of passionate and deep love.

- Sexual curiosity. The main variable in sex is your feelings for the other. Changing partners just out of curiosity can very easily discover how small your payoff is if there is no genuine intimacy each time. Relationships based primarily on sex appeal are usually short-lived and not a good enough reason to end your primary relationship.

- Excitement. An unlawful relationship can seem significantly more exciting than a legalized relationship. Sometimes an excess of well-being makes the relationship look dull due to a complete lack of challenge, and a sudden romance with its risk revives you and makes you perceive sex more acutely.

- Sexual dissatisfaction with a partner. A casual connection can reveal what is bad about your relationship with a long-term partner, and even help improve it. However, there is some risk that a new relationship may be an easier choice than working with a long-term partner on their problem, so you may prefer to push the problem aside rather than actively address it.

- Accelerating the onset of a crisis in unsatisfying relationships. This should not mean that you want to replace your relationship with another long-term attachment. Wait for the new passion to subside and your true feelings are revealed.

- Moral catalyst. Sometimes a new love affair is used to compensate, to restore faith in oneself undermined by service failure, or to repay a partner who has been found to be unfaithful.

- Finding the perfect partner. This is the excuse of a woman who claims that she is monogamous at heart and would remain faithful if she could find a worthy companion. She's almost certainly deceiving herself. If you constantly change partners, it is unlikely that you will be able to fundamentally change the usual life.

A partner's side relationship is a symptom of his need. It may be a need that you are unaware of or do not sympathize with, but if you learn about this need, you can understand what is broken in your relationship. It is important to understand that a single case of infidelity does not mean that your partner has gone all out. Many couples go through episodes of infidelity and maintain a relationship that is undoubtedly changing, but can nevertheless become stronger over time as mutual understanding improves.

When is jealousy justified? You will read how to deal with this feeling in the next article. Ask your questions, argue, make your suggestions. We will treat your words with attention.

See you soon.

Psychologist Levchenko Yuri Nikolaevich

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