To be in time everywhere, or the everyday life of a mother of two children

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

A woman who is expecting a second child already knows for sure that the thoughts of a serene baby, who, if not sleeping, then exceptionally enjoy life, are utopian. Of course, being a mother of two children is double happiness, but when another child appears in a family where the first child was born not so long ago, a woman more and more often has a desire to clone herself in order to pay attention to both and maintain peace of mind.

How to prepare an older child

The birth of a brother or sister for an older child is always a shock, and this one does not depend on his age. But if for some babies the process of habituation is more or less calm, then others begin to get jealous and strive to win the mother's attention in all available ways. The only sure thing that a woman can do in such a situation is not to break down on the older child, but to give him as much attention as possible so that the baby understands: with the appearance of the baby, the mother did not love him less.

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If the first child is old enough, then it is worth starting to prepare him for the appearance of the younger one in advance. Explain to your eldest that a small helpless crumb will soon appear in the family, and often remind you that you are very proud of him - after all, he is such an adult and independent. However, it is also not worth speeding up events, shifting part of the responsibilities to the older child, and moving away from him, motivating this by the fact that he is already big and can play on his own, too - such a sharp change can negatively affect the psychological state of the baby. As hard as it may be at times, remember that your breakdowns are like a signal for children. They instantly feel a change in mood, and your condition is transmitted to them, as a result of which the kids begin to be capricious, and you become even more nervous. It turns out a vicious circle.

Do not expect an older child to delight in having a baby in the home. There will almost certainly not be instant love for a newborn, because he must first take a closer look, get used to the baby, and responsibility and a warm attitude will come a little later, by itself. To make the habituation process more smooth and measured, allow the elder to help you with dressing, bathing and feeding the younger - he should participate in your life and the life of a newborn, feel useful and irreplaceable.

How to do absolutely everything

A walk is a great opportunity to spend time with an older child while the younger sleeps in a stroller, so it is best to walk with the children during the newborn's quiet hour. Outdoor games, joint picking of bouquets, cakes in the sandbox - if the older child receives enough mother's attention, then upon returning home he will not be capricious, but will calmly go about his business. It will be equally useful to synchronize the sleep of both children - then you can carve out several hours of time for chores that have not been canceled. If the older child is accommodating and can quietly play in his room, and the younger, on the contrary, protests and wants to be in the company of his mother all the time, then you just need a sling - you have a crumb with him all the time, but at the same time you are not tied hand and foot …

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Experienced mothers know that in order to get more done in less time, you should simplify everything that you usually do as much as possible. Do not cook pickles - the food should be tasty, but simple, so that you do not need many hours of duty at the stove, and as soon as possible, stock up on semi-finished products of your own preparation - a freezer full of cutlets and chopped vegetables saves time. For the same purposes, it would be wise to have assistants in the kitchen - a blender and a multicooker, which will greatly facilitate your life.

However, if feeding a senior is not such a big problem, then with a baby everything is somewhat more complicated. Breastfeeding ties you to your baby, and if your mom's attention is urgently needed by an elder, this can become a problem. In order for your youngest child to receive healthy mother's milk on demand, and the older one does not feel slighted, it is best to stock up on several things that will help kill two birds with one stone. First of all, you will need a high-quality breast pump and sterile bags for freezing and storing breast milk, as well as a feeding bottle from which your dad or grandmother can feed your baby. It must be chosen very carefully: the nipple of the bottle must be of a physiological shape: wide at the base and narrowed at the tip - this will allow the baby to reproduce natural sucking movements similar to that of a mother's breast, thereby eliminating "nipple confusion" and rejection of the breast in the future.

Do not be afraid of difficulties and do not try to insure yourself against everything at once. Fear has big eyes, but in fact, problems need to be solved as they arise. Everything that you plan may not come true, and what you are afraid of can be solved without problems. To reassure yourself, you should enlist at least minimal help - let you have phones in case it becomes very difficult. At the same time, it is not at all a fact that you will ever use them. Of course, it is more difficult to cope with two babies than with one, but do not forget to leave time for yourself, because babies need a cheerful and happy mother, not a tired and always angry mother.

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