When you can lie to your partner

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Popular wisdom says that lying in a relationship is unacceptable, but sometimes the truth can do much more harm than a slight distortion of reality. Relentless honesty can be fatal and cause many problems. The main thing is to know when it is time to lie to salvation, and when to be crystal honest.

There are many reasons for lying to loved ones: from avoiding conflict to trying to protect a partner from pain. Let's figure out when to tell the truth, and when to lie.

Little lie or deception

Before we look at situations where it is permissible to tell a lie, we need to clearly distinguish between small lies and deception. Letting lies take over your relationship will end badly. You can only hide something when honesty gives way to loyalty, compassion and moral principles. Do not allow deception in the relationship, as this is a direct betrayal of the trust placed in you.

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When you like someone

It would be great if love was a constant feeling that always keeps at the same level. But even in a relationship, you can still find other people attractive. If you really like someone, it is better to keep silent about it. Your boyfriend or husband doesn't need to hear about your sexy co-worker at all. These emotions are usually fleeting and quickly pass, and the relationship will not be complicated by your utmost honesty, which will make your partner jealous for no reason.

When the truth destroys his self-confidence

Fake orgasms will be a disservice in the long run, but sometimes when your boyfriend is struggling to please you, it will be more humane to show that his efforts have hit the mark. Help him get better both in and out of the bedroom, but don't tell him he’s failing, even if it’s true.

When you hate his friends or family

You can lie if the truth will lead to a grand conflict. Telling your partner how badly you think of his family or friends will offend him. This is a great example of how truth can hurt a relationship. They are part of his life, just like you, and your honest disapproval will lead to nothing but hurt.

When the truth hurts

Honesty and constructive criticism doesn't mean you should be unflattering about a dish that he diligently cooked for several hours. Find a balance between ignoring the little things and trying to help him become better, so as not to make him feel worthless.

When you overdid your shopping

If your purchases are hurting your overall budget, lying will only make matters worse.

Shopping can help with a bad mood, and it's also one of the times when it's okay to hide the truth if you've spent too much. Of course, this is only permissible if you were spending your money. If your purchases are hurting your overall budget, lying will only make matters worse.

When you want to end a fight

Sometimes you just need to give up to avoid conflict. Even if you are sure that you are right and he is not, constant fights over the same issue can be exhausting. In such a situation, a small lie is acceptable to allow you to end a protracted conflict.

When you are pessimistic

Pessimism and the ability to support a partner do not always go together. If you think your partner is going to fail and not succeed, it's best to lie a little. Try to support him without adding too much negativity to the situation.

Avoid Lying For Benefit

Lying that makes you look positive is a stretch on first dates, but it has no place in a relationship. If you cheat in order to exalt yourself, it will surely hit you later.

Don't lie about a serious matter

The most important thing is to admit lies only for insignificant reasons, which after a while will not make any difference. If you engage in serious deception in pursuit of long-term benefits, you destroy the relationship.