Why isn't he calling? Explained by the men themselves

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

The first date is over. It would seem that you liked each other, but a day passes, the second, the third, and he never called. You've gone over all possible and impossible reasons. Is he really busy? Or lost your number? Or are you just not his type? "Why doesn't he call?" - for the hundredth time you ask your friend or yourself. Let the men, the perpetrators of our torment, tell about the typical reasons for this behavior.

He is not up to you

A man may simply not be up to you. And on a date, perhaps he went just to unwind, not counting on a continuation. Maybe he has ten such dates a week.

Ladies! Get out of your head the harmful thought that a woman is the alpha and omega of male desires. A man is focused on the outside world, on social activity, on competing with his own kind, on achieving goals, which regularly include the conquest of some young lady and a trophy in the form of a telephone or a sexual victory. And a woman is focused on a man, which is why she thinks so much about him and even for him.

Pauses

I never call a girl right after a date. I think that it is necessary to “marinate” it for at least a couple of days. Do not think that I am doing this out of some malicious motives, in order to mock me. No. Simply, firstly, I give the girl time to consider whether she needs me. Secondly, whatever you say, but passion is heating up.

Well, we’ll go on a date, and I’ll call her right away. She will relax, understand that she has hooked me, and there will be no maximum intensity. Why deprive yourself and her of the pleasure of strong emotions?

Now I'm dating a girl. It all started like this: invited me on a date, walked along the embankment, went to a restaurant. We realized that we were on the same wavelength. They clearly fell for each other. I walked home. I really wanted to call right there, within ten minutes after parting, but I restrained myself. For the above reasons. In addition, it was clear that the girl was already self-confident, and if I called her right away, it would be too normal for her. Withstood three days, called, asked on a date. We met, and I immediately realized that she was very happy to see me. So it all started spinning. Then she admitted that during those three days she managed to hate me, and when I called, there was such euphoria that she immediately realized: I want to be with him.

Nothing to say

Call? And what to say? "Hey"? In fact, most men call when they want to say something, and if there is nothing to say, then why call? Once I went to the cinema with a girl. The date didn't go very well. The whole film was silent, then went to have coffee. We talked about nothing. In my opinion, it was obvious that we simply do not have common themes. There was no spark. I didn't even call, of course.

Forgot about the date the next day. A couple of days later a call. “Hi, this is Katya. Why aren't you calling? And I have nothing to answer.

We chatted awkwardly for a couple of minutes. Then she called again. She offered to meet. I got rid of it somehow. He said that there was a blockage at work. And then she called again. I had to text her that I’m not goodbye at all. It's somehow inconvenient to say this live. I stopped calling, but the unpleasant aftertaste remained. And why call if everything is clear anyway?

Finances sing romances

Most often we do not call, of course, because we didn’t like something about the person on the date. But when I was a student, it was like this: after the first date I calculated and realized that one more date, and a hungry morning in the hostel is guaranteed for me. So he didn't call.

Although then years passed, I met her again, and when, having dined with her, I said that I simply had no money then, she answered with a smile: "What a fool you are … Is it so important?"

Thought I didn't like it

There was such a story with me: I met a girl, asked her out on a date. We walked for a long time, talked, sat in a cafe. However, all the time during this meeting I did not notice a single hint of interest on her part: I alone spoke, joked, entertained her, she either answered in monosyllables, or kept silent, or carried some kind of confusion. And in general she was very restrained and detached. In short, after taking her home, I concluded that I was not interested in her. Well, I thought. - I will not call, if she changes her mind, she will dial my number herself. No, so no."

Imagine my surprise when, after a couple of months, I accidentally learned from her friend that she liked me very much, and her behavior was explained by her usual stiffness!

It turned out that she was looking forward to my call, crying into her pillow and complaining to her friends. But she did not dare to call me first! We have been married for four years and still thank fate for the fact that I accidentally met her friend, who then explained everything to me sensibly.