Men who play games and games that men play

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

What is a game? This is a way of spending time, which requires heroes who perform strictly assigned roles, the rules of the game and decorations. The protagonist of any male game is himself. The rest can only be accomplices, allowing the hero to play a known scenario …

How is the game different from real life? For the main character - nothing, because this is life, events and circumstances are strung on it, like beads on a string. But if you are not in the game, you can see from the outside how fake, or funny, or tragic it is. There are a million and as many games in which men participate throughout their lives, but upon closer examination you can always find one, the main one!

Game # 1:"

surrounding.

A guy who came to classes in a suit, but barefoot, studied with me at the university. And once he arrived on a skateboard, and the road from home to the university took him 3 hours. At the dean's lecture on the history of journalism, he defiantly did a manicure for himself. And at our whispering, he turned around and shouted to the entire audience: "Well, I'm a fagot, fagot!", Although I was not noticed in such an orientation.

At first I thought that he was sick, and "on the whole head", well, there are such deeply offended people who cover up their vulnerability with shocking and aggression. Then we somehow managed to talk in a human way, and it turned out that even though he was not beaten in childhood, there is still a reason for vulnerability and is terribly commonplace for such an original: provincialism, which he was ashamed of, like a pimple on his nose …

As a rule, if a man behaves demonstratively, shockingly, this does not at all mean that he is all of himself "non-systemic" and free. Usually, on the contrary - inside he is a strict conservative, and with all his behavior he seems to deny that IN HIMSELF that, as it seems to him, is wrong from the point of view of those around him. He is afraid to be real, himself, because he is not sure that the Real-He will be able to attract attention to himself.

Such a man is easy to control. Do not ooh-ooh, do not be indignant, but on the contrary - encourage and admire. After a while, he will look into your mouth and become completely tame.

Game number 2: "I know what you need"

girls and his friends.

Such a Maine is obtrusively gallant and lusciously sweet in speech. He makes a bunch of compliments to all the ladies around him, strives to touch you with his hand, hug you by the waist, stroke your hair, which cannot but annoy you. For your birthday, he will definitely give you a stuffed toy and conspiratorially whispers in your ear that, they say, I know, you will put it in your crib. He writes love letters or poems in such a pretentious and romantic style that experienced cynics may have a heart attack, and sober young ladies - an attack of vomiting. He turns away from him, although many girls (especially younger and "simpler") like him very much, since by his behavior he is the personification of the main character of some sweet ladies' novel or television series. It is alarming that he seeks to charm all the ladies in a row, even the girls of his best friends. And also: in a purely male company, he plays another game - the other side of this one: "I know what these stupid chickens need, so I can fuck each one."

Well, if you still need it, of course, you can try to replay it. This can be done in one way: to become significant in his eyes, different from other "chickens". For example, tell them that your dad is Bill Gates or your mom has her own company, and you spend every summer in the Bahamas.

Game number 3: "I decide everything myself"

a family.

There seems to be nothing wrong with that. The man decides everything himself - well, it's nice, it's even commendable, pictures-associations immediately appear in my head: a kind of macho … strong-willed chin … a bold and stern look, staring into the distance … Let's separate the flies from the cutlets! The macho you drew yourself is completely different. It will not be enough for a kondrashka at the sight that you bought your child white sandals instead of red ones (as you agreed). He will not scream like crazy when he learns that you changed your gynecologist without consulting him. He does not yell at all, but goes and does (well, in my fantasies about an ideal man, that's for sure!).

And here is a different picture: there are many conversations, few things to do. He is very afraid to make decisions himself, so he believes that you should arrange family councils for any reason. Moreover, the results of such meetings will be considered HIS decisions, if they are correct, and YOUR, imposed on him, if they are incorrect. And he will also discuss your decisions with several other people, for example, parents: "Mom-Dad, here with Lucy we decided to buy an ironing board … Well, why? Well, Lucy wants to … Well, what, probably, blue … Green is better? Yes, you right. Probably better green. " "Lucy, I just thought, let's take the green one …"

Carefully inculcate your desires-ideas-solutions to the faithful under the guise of his own.

Game number 4: "I am a victim of circumstances"

close relatives, distant acquaintances, the whole big and "such an unjust world."

The tediousness of this "unrecognized genius" goes off scale beyond the norm. He sincerely believes that the whole world has taken up arms against him, taking pleasure in small and large intrigues. Even the rain comes in spite of him, because today he did not take an umbrella with him. Hypothetically, he is going to get a job, but it is on the day of the interview that he suddenly starts to have a headache or a runny nose.

So it turns out that he has good intentions - it seems like he wants to make humanity happy with his genius and talent, only the case still does not turn up! He always finds an explanation for someone else's success: the one - the parents helped, this English knows, the other - generally "nosy", sends his resume to different companies. So I "got a job". And he CAN'T THAT. He always has a million "excuses" at hand. When discussing a new business (work, purchase), he already makes a reservation in advance that he will not succeed … "Part-time job? Yes, you know, it was this weekend that I wanted to take a break, come on sometime later", "What? People are required for the company, should I go for an interview tomorrow? Yes, I probably won't, I can't do that right away … ". So it turns out that all around are "sneaks" and "grabbers", and he still stands on the sidelines of life. And it is not he who is bad, but all of us around are bastards and mediocrity, who are simply more fortunate in life.

Hmm, if this is your husband or a regular partner, and you want to continue to maintain a relationship, then you will probably have to arrange it somewhere in a modest place. But! It is very difficult to do this, because he will not go to all places (he is legible), he has a long list of requirements for the employer (!) And it is very important for him that the team is good!

Game number 5: "I am a chocolate hare"

admirers and admirers.

Everyone loves me! It is impossible not to love me! "Ay am ze best," is written on his forehead in large letters. Even if he is "meter fifty in a jump and in a cap", he has no reason not to consider himself Apollo. Everyone around him has these reasons, but he does not. When he starts talking about himself, your ears may break down and fade, but he is unlikely to notice it. He loves himself "in all poses," in the sense that he is convinced that everything in him is wonderful, there is nothing to complain about. And if you try to criticize him, he will not even be offended or doubt that you are ?! He will simply be surprised: how can you think so? And he will immediately forget all your claims, like stupidity and misunderstanding.

Do not be surprised if he develops a vigorous activity around his person: he opens his own website, on which he lovingly "reviews" his witty gems. The site of such and such with the obligatory sections "My photos", "My life story" ("I came to this wonderful world of such and such a date in such and such a year … Since childhood I was a cheerful and pretty boy, everything is loved … Once I thought of blowing bubbles and learned how to do it so masterly "… and other blah-blah-blah)," My pearls "(witty jokes that he made into the world and laughed at them himself)," My teachers "(friends, girlfriends) …

There is only one way to win here - to withdraw. But if your desire is still stronger than common sense, look for … mom. Yeah, his mother, who adored him so much since childhood and told you to.