5 seditious thoughts in family life. Get them out of your head immediately

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Even in the most prosperous family, sometimes the wife has an irresistible desire to crack her beloved log - the husband - with something no less a log (yes, heavier, heavier!) over the head, finish off the car enthusiast with a weighty reference book and cry out with a good sound:"

But Machin Denis - whoa! And my …

For some reason, at such moments, you immediately forget all the advantages of your beloved, but all his smallest shortcomings are picturesquely presented to your raging gaze in all their unsightly glory. And he can't stand the trash that day (so what if he's at work from seven in the morning to nine in the evening, you don't have to take out his batteries of empty beer bottles!), And he never took you to the disco, and the dishes have never been like washing, and what a flood in the bathroom he leaves behind! And it smokes incessantly, like a locomotive, and did not notice your new hairstyle until the next day, although I called you three times while you were at the hairdresser and you told him where you were. Isn't this the height of inattention and indifference to your own wife ?! Whether it is husbands and beloved girlfriends.

Denis Mashin is an inveterate theatergoer and only leads Marusya to new productions. Lyusin Dimka not only takes out the trash, he washes the floors and windows! A dream, not a husband! Nastin Lesha - does not smoke, does not drink, dedicates poetry to her, and recently ordered a vocal and instrumental ensemble of Spanish macho, put on a sombrero and sang a passionate serenade for Nastasya to the joy of her entire nine-story house. This is romance !!! And Holguin Arthur does not let her out of bed - this is her lover!

You are a smart girl, but you still believe in fairy tales? No, I do not want to denounce Olga for exaggerating the sexual appetites of her partner (although, what the hell is not joking?), And I'm not going to convict Lyusya of blatant lies. Let it be, but think for yourself! - the same Lucy and the same Olga will tell you with the same frankness about the shortcomings of their beloved. Let him not come home to spend the night at least three times, get drunk drunk to death, or forget about her birthday - you will never know about it. The men of your friends are no better - they are just different. An inveterate theatergoer may turn out to be a rare bore who will bore you after five minutes of talking one-on-one, and a pedant in bed. An ardent lover is a real Othello, capable of causing a scandal because of one smile or too short a skirt. The poet and romantic is the dirtiest in everyday life, and the floor washer is an avid fisherman who cannot be found at home in the summer.

Therefore, God forbid you to shout out in the heat of what wonderful husbands your friends have, and what kind of onion grief you got, and stop comparing your man with others. After all, you chose him, and there were some reasons for this? Now calm down and remember the wise saying: keep your eyes open before the wedding and closed after. So close your eyes to his flaws and accept him as he is.

I can find myself better

For the same reason, you should not go to extremes, strive to break off relations and rush to find a new spouse. Of course, if your chosen one abuses alcohol, cheats on you recklessly, more than once raised a hand on you, or for some other reason turned your life into a real psychological thriller in half with a horror movie, holding on to it is complete savagery and great stupidity on your part. You love yourself more than you love him with all his vicious nature, don't you? So be a strong woman and tell him, like Madonna in her song: "I love you, but you go, you know where!" But if your treasure just showed the bad habit of playing chess for hours with a neighbor, or, on the contrary, did not find your own car, apartment and dad-general, this is not a reason to give up on him. Yes, another man may be completely indifferent to chess - but it is not yet a fact that he will remain so indifferent to football and you will not have to grit your teeth with him to the stadium and endure the zombies on the TV, which he will turn into during the championship World Cup. Or another man may turn out to be an avid lover of bachelor parties and will constantly disappear with friends in beer bars, and your appearance within a cannon shot from a closed male society will be regarded as an attempt to control and disrespect his personal life. And the owner of a brand new Audi and an apartment in the city center …

Make it up yourself, okay? I do not want to paint you the horrors of a relationship with a new man, but be prepared for the fact that they, too, will be far from a fairy tale. So maybe your chess lover isn't that bad?

Divorce, maiden name and cactus between the beds

Divorce is the easiest way out of the created conflict and the easiest way to get away from the problem. It's like murder, because in fact you are destroying your family, destroying a piece of yourself and hurting your loved one. I know of several cases when, after a rash divorce and unsuccessful attempts at relationships with other men, women blamed themselves for their thoughtlessness and dreamed of returning to their ex-husband. Unfortunately, by that time, the former had time to get into the taste of bachelor life or already have a new lover, who lifted them to a pedestal, against which the first wives had no chance.

Some women in their hearts threaten to divorce in order to prove their independence from their husbands or to show that no matter how beautiful, intelligent and successful their treasure is, they do not particularly value it. In any case, to such an extent to tolerate SUCH indifferent (disregard, tyrannical, jealous - add the necessary) attitude towards yourself. And completely in vain. There is nothing meritorious about divorce; divorce is always a defeat, not a victory. And the woman's merit is not to ruin the family and get a divorce stamp, but to maintain a relationship with a person who is not at all a stranger to you, to reasonably resolve the conflicts that have arisen and achieve a compromise. And even now you puff out your cheeks and wave your arms, shouting that he will look at you again, it would be better for you not to drag your guilty spouse to the registry office, but to drag him into bed. Otherwise, later, when you have a certificate of divorce in your hands, it will be too late to seduce him.

He will change He will not change

Hoping for this is as futile as dreaming of the love of Brad Peet or Tom Cruise. By the way, these handsome men are also not a present in family life. Jennifer Aniston, by the way, in the first year of marriage with Brad discovered that he was a terrible homebody and lover of solitude, while Jen herself cannot imagine her life without noisy parties and parties. Fortunately, the actress did not create scandals and tried to understand her husband, who does not spend so much time at home and is very tired of numerous shootings.

You, too, should not harbor illusions and dream that your thrifty husband will waste money left and right, Othello will lose his jealousy, and a football fan will abandon his favorite sport. You will have to live with this all your life, and the sooner you understand this and accept it, the more whole dishes you will have at home.

He doesn't love me at all

The other extreme, into which you want to rush, is to accuse him of indifference and shout: "You do not love me at all !!!" Why pretend? After all, you know perfectly well what he loves, how much he loves, otherwise he would sit with you and watch Dom-2 on TV, forgetting about fishing and football! And you said this only so that he rushed to convince you otherwise. Therefore, urgently erase the offended grimace from your face and just kiss him back. Not because he wants it so much, but because you want it so much.

Calmed down, thought, changed your mind? That is great! It is high time to admit that family life is not a commercial for Bounty chocolate, but a whimsical cocktail of joy and resentment, delight and disappointment, bliss and bitterness. But what ingredients will be more in your relationship is up to you. After all, you are a wise woman who chose a wonderful husband for herself, albeit not perfect, but pleasant in many ways, and built her love, in contrast to the long-suffering heroes of the popular reality show. So save her, put bad thoughts out of your head and understand that this man is the best thing in your life.