How not to be afraid to take risks

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

We all want change. We dream of finding a high-paying job to our liking, moving to another city, establishing relationships with a loved one, or, conversely, breaking off an already exhausted connection. But we are afraid to take risks. We don't know if it would be better if we radically change our life now. What if we lose more than we gain? Whether it is worth the risk - in the reasoning of the author of "Cleo" Alexandra Dudkina.

Once in my life there came a moment when I had to think about deciding on a rather risky act: to leave my old place of work, to leave my usual but unloved office with all its benefits and benefits and radically change my occupation to a more desirable, “free , But less secure. I understood that I was doing something different from what is customary in our society, where being linked to an office and a work record is a guarantor of your future safety. I heard a lack of understanding in the words of relatives and friends, and therefore, naturally, I doubted the correctness of my deed.

Only a person with absolutely no survival instinct will give up in case of failure.

In an attempt to understand something and, finally, make up my mind, I turned to my close friend, a realist. After listening to my: “What if I don’t have a job: today there are orders - tomorrow there will be no? What should I do then? What if I can't get a job later?”, My friend looked at me calmly and gave a rather cynical, but dispelled my doubts:“You can get a job. There are two options - either you can, or you will die. " Yes, rude. Yes, not literary. But the salt of this statement is precisely in its such "unrefined".

And I thought - really, only a person with absolutely no survival instinct in case of failure will give up. The other will flounder like that frog from the well-known parable. Or maybe you don't have to flounder - who knows, perhaps by risking, you will find what you have been looking for for so long.

But how can you overcome your fear of possible failure and decide on a risky venture?

Assess your current position

As a rule, people think about the time to take a risk and change something when they are not at all satisfied with their current situation: work, family relationships, place of residence. If the decision that you eventually make will be fateful for you, approach it with all seriousness: understand what is wrong now, what you want to change, and how critical it is. If you really hold on to an old job solely because of a warm and familiar place, secretly hating it, you should probably take the risk and start doing something that will bring pleasure.

Do not be afraid of the unknown

What scares you the most when you struggle with the risk-not-risk dilemma? Unknown. You cannot be sure what will happen to you if tomorrow, say, you take a train ticket and leave to live in another city. But think of just one thing: every morning you don't know 100 percent what will happen tonight. But all the same, you leave home, go to work or on business, hope for the best - for a scheduled meeting with a friend, for a trip to the circus with your child. The same mechanism works here. Of course, you cannot compare the decision to radically change your life and a simple shopping trip, but the unknown is present in both cases. So why not try to open a new door once, not even guessing what awaits you behind it?

Think carefully

Risk is only good when it is carefully thought out. It would seem that this statement contradicts the idea of "hospitable suspense." But in fact, it is still worth spreading straws for yourself. Therefore, analyze the situation and make at least a mental business plan for achieving the cherished goal: consider the possibilities, identify the risks, as well as the strengths and weaknesses of your venture, consider what you will do in case of failure, talk with knowledgeable people who can suggest how to do this. failure to avoid, etc.

Without risking to achieve what you want so much, you risk ceasing to enjoy life altogether.

Imagine what you can lose

Without risking to achieve what you want so much, you risk ceasing to enjoy life altogether. How many times, fearing to be mistaken, did we not raise our hand in class when we knew the correct answer? Hundreds. The same thing happens in adulthood: the rejection of risks is sometimes equivalent to missed opportunities. We don't enjoy winning because we don't even step into the game. And it is vitally important for a person to realize that at least in something he is successful.

If you are still in doubt whether it is worth committing a reckless (according to many) act, think about this: is there a guarantee that you will become happy without changing anything in life, undergoing the fear of failure? People who are dissatisfied with their position will answer in the negative. Now for one more question: Do you have a chance of success if you accept the risk? I think now your eyes lit up with excitement.

I want that in … twenty years, both I and you look around you and suddenly realize with surprise that life has changed for the better, because once we have done the right thing. After all, he who does not take risks does not drink champagne!