The illusion of his freedom

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Finally, it happened: next to you is not just a random companion who saves you from a secret fear of being an old maid, not just a good person touching your discerning mother and sentimental girlfriends, and even a sex toy that is not pleasant in all respects. Next to you is He, the one who resembles Mel Gibson in appearance, Zhvanetsky's sense of humor, and Einstein's intellect. He appreciates expensive wines, creative designers, Japanese prose, and you. But most of all, he values his freedom.

You can, of course, arrange a farewell bachelor party for him, where a not too pretty stripper will wave a pen to your chosen one to the accompaniment of lyrical music, personifying the fate of his freedom. And from that day on, organize a heavenly life for him with delicious homemade cakes, warm slippers and daily sexual variety, hoping that these delights will not let him be sad about the irrevocably gone bachelor life. But a man is a freedom-loving creature, like a proud petrel bird, and if he is not afraid that no one else will need him except you, then he will strive for freedom and independence, like an obsessed one. And the more you hold him, the more manic he will tear"

First, let's try to figure out what a man means by freedom. All discussions on this issue, from traditional kitchen conversations to conversations on television talk shows, focus on the main aspect: sexual freedom. And no newfangled tendencies and esoteric teachings that assert that sex is an everyday phenomenon (in logic, "the question was simple, raised a toast, ate a cupcake, had sex") can eradicate the centuries-old tradition. Tradition claims that sex is not a physiological need of the body, sent anyhow with anyone, but a sacrament that belongs to two, specifically: you and the one you choose. A sacrament that belongs only to you.

But practice shows that especially progressive male specimens with great enthusiasm share these very newfangled tendencies, perceiving the presence of numerous sexual partners not as betrayal, but as a result of their spiritual and sexual searches. And if you managed to run into just such a man, you will have to drag him to your point of view on your own, unless, of course, his "sexual freedom" seems to you a necessary element of your relationship.

Another thing is that real freedom is based on mutual respect and such a level of trust, which, at best, is a distant ideal for a couple, and in the usual case is simply an excess. Why are unnecessary complications and troubles needed, such as recognizing the legitimacy of a partner's "personal life", if you can smash some unnecessary thing on the wrong person's head, and thereby set him on the right path? Is it worth going into details such as his life values and priorities? Should he try to play on the role of not the only woman in his life, if he is confident in the benefits of polygamy? In the book of the American writer Richard Bach "The Bridge Through Eternity", which describes the difficult path of a man and a woman towards each other, to the masculine: "We are free to spend time with whoever we choose," the woman's answer sounds: "Cursed be your freedom! ". Can you answer differently? And do you have enough desire to accept the male understanding of freedom?

This is where the great power of illusion comes to the rescue!

That is, a man is sure that he is "free as a robber," but you know that this is just the result of changing a short leash to a long one. And on a long leash it is also possible to enjoy life!

There can be a lot of leash length and design options:

1) radical

You tell him: yes, dear, I am delighted that you also have Masha (Dasha, Natasha, Glasha - depending on the potency of the chosen one). Really boring, everything is just me, yes me, there should be variety in life. Just do not forget about condoms, I want to sit next to her in line to the gynecologist even less than buying gifts for your children. By the way, bring her for tea tonight, I baked pies with cabbage …

The old truth says that the forbidden fruit is especially sweet. And here what can you passionately desire, if everything is possible ?! Moreover, there is an amazing woman nearby, ready to go for SUCH for the sake of a relationship!..

2) mirrored

The beginning is the same as in the previous version. Only after all, you are not a stone statue, but a living woman, feeling a lot of things. Well, and you say: I absolutely agree with you, monogamy as a genre of living together is hopelessly outdated, borscht is in the refrigerator, whole, until tomorrow. How where? Misha (Grisha, Ilyusha, Kiryusha) is waiting for me, out there, walking around the entrance with a bouquet! By the way, call me in the morning - otherwise I'll be late for work …

A rare man will be delighted that you have a multifaceted sex life, most likely, he will rush to prove that he is the best lover in the world, and will really think about whether he really needs someone other than you.

3) offensive

Over the course of some time, you in every possible way demonstrate your dislike for the manner of your loved one to lie down on the sofa in shoes, for his green tie with an erotic ornament, for his eternally laughing friends, for beer gatherings in front of the TV with ritual dances after each goal scored, and the like. phenomena. Beloved, of course, in a couple of days goes berserk and calls you into a frank conversation about your misunderstanding of his male needs. You tell him in tears that you were raised that way, and that it is an impossible task for you to come to terms with his habits. He speaks to you temperamentally about the inalienable male right to friends and beer, while referring to the Constitution, the Declaration of Human Rights and international conventions. Finally, you: for your sake, dear, I agree to make such a sacrifice - call Vaska, beer in the refrigerator, hold the ball, my favorite bedside table will do as a gate …

Having gained freedom by hard work and imbued with gratitude to you, he will not even remember about other women.

4) psychological

In a calm atmosphere, with pleasant music and inhaling the smell of sandalwood oil, invite your chosen one to have a frank conversation. For persuasiveness, take in your hands a weighty work on the psychology of the unconscious, and unobtrusively scatter around the room popular brochures on the topic "how to build an ideal relationship." Darling, do you need freedom? Good. How do you imagine it? How is communication with other women? Fine. And by communication you mean sex? How, not only? Ah, sometimes to talk … Great. Well, we are adults and are free in our actions. Of course, I do not mind, but only for. Did you know that in the genital period you could have a fixation of frustration, as a result of which you, like a hidden cycloid, sublimate the phobia and drive it out of consciousness with the help of libido!

It is not so important what you say, the main thing is to do it as convincingly as possible. Not every man wants to look like an idiot in women's eyes. Moreover, now he is not up to love adventures, to deal with phobias …

There are thousands of ways to create illusions of freedom, it is not for nothing that there is such a kind of wisdom as women. With the help of this wisdom, you can create not only the optimal relationship for you, but also the confidence of your chosen one that you - and only you - are exactly the woman that he needs.

You can improve in this genre, or you can give up illusions once and for all, take the man you love by the hand and go towards real freedom. Just remember that this road is long and thorny …