10 signs your man is destroying you

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Anyone can find themselves in the role of a victim of psychological abuse, regardless of their life baggage, age or attractiveness. Take a closer look at your partner: is he showing signs of a potential tyrant? You should know about the 10 most common symptoms.

1. He tries to forbid you from seeing family and friends

A partner who uses psychological pressure in a relationship wants you to completely and completely belong only to him, and will make every effort to limit your contacts. He is unaware that in addition to your relationship there is a circle of people, communication with whom is important and natural for you: after all, these are friends, colleagues and family! If your friend tries to restrict such encounters, this is a clear symptom indicating a tendency to psychological abuse.

2. Insults and makes fun of

Remember that the derogatory nicknames that your friend awards you, supposedly as a joke, have a very specific purpose: to offend and make you “know your place”. Seeing your reaction, he will shield himself: he will accuse you of being too touchy, suggest looking at things easier and not looking for deep meanings in everything.

Intuitively, you know you don't deserve this treatment. Tyrants often try to convince their victims that abusive treatment is okay and that you are the problem.

3. Blames everyone for his failures

If your partner constantly blames others for their difficulties, and most often you, this can be a bad signal. Throwing a tantrum, he tries to prove that his fault is not in what is happening, declares that everything happens because of you. Avoiding responsibility and shifting it onto others is a sign of unhealthy relationships.

4. Drinks or uses drugs

Not all, but many people from the category of domestic despots are alcohol or drug addicted. Addiction to these things leads to inappropriate and uncontrollable behavior.

5. Instills fear

If your man makes you afraid, this relationship is very far from normal. The would-be home tyrant wants to humiliate and intimidate you.

If he deliberately puts you in a dangerous situation or, showing you his collection of weapons, hints that he will use the arsenal without hesitation when sorting out the relationship - maybe you should think about breaking up?

6. Punishes you for the time spent without him

Often this tactic is used in conjunction with the prohibition to see family and friends. It is worth going out somewhere or doing something without him - or even if you will be together, but your acquaintances will be nearby, wait for the punishment later! He will scream, insult, threaten or find worse methods, and all because you are not fully committed to him!

7. Expects slavish obedience from you

The psychological rapist considers himself to be an outstanding person in all respects and demands royal honors for himself. He insists that the partner take on the role of a willing serf, believing that you will obey unquestioningly and never need help.

8. Painfully jealous

Painful hypertrophied jealousy is a prominent feature of the emotional sadist. He is jealous of you not only for your friends, but even for dreams and goals!

The reason for this anger is the inability to take control of all the material and spiritual aspects of your life.

9. Controls you with his emotions

A person prone to psychological violence, as a rule, is a skillful manipulator: if you do not agree with his ideas and do not follow his orders, he will begin to sulk like a child, threaten to leave you, and will try with all his might to punish you for disobedience. He will try to make you feel guilty whenever you decide to voice your opinion and insist on what you think is right. From time to time, such people can feign reconciliation and love, but this “repentance” will not last long: as soon as he feels that you “gave up” and is ready to back down, he will immediately resume psychological pressure.

10. Uses physical violence

Relationships in which there is emotional aggression will naturally come to the next, more difficult level: ultimately, your "other half" will move from intimidation to physical violence. At first, your partner may "accidentally" pull you by the hair, push or grab your hand so that bruises appear. This is a sign that the situation may worsen in the future. If, moreover, he has an explosive temperament and previously showed a tendency to violence: in a rage he smashed objects that came to hand, pounded the wall with his fist or yelled until hoarse, it is likely that he will soon decide to go to assault.