10 signs he is using you

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Whether he wants sex, money, a free housekeeper, or satisfies some other emotional need, you can always see signs that he is not interested in you. Even if you really like him, you shouldn't start a relationship with primitive use.

Learn how to recognize signs that he is using you to get away from that partner as soon as possible. Whatever his reasons, actions speak more than words, and sooner or later he will reveal his true nature.

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It does not open

If your instincts say something is wrong, trust them. If you understand that he does not open up to you or is wearing a mask instead of being himself, he may be hiding something, intending to use you. He may have trust issues from a previous relationship, so don't jump to conclusions based on this one sign.

It changes quickly

If at first he looks like the perfect guy, but then suddenly changes, this may be one of the signs that he is using you. When he wants to get your money, he pays first, and when he only wants sex, he will try to give the impression that he likes you, but these masks are always removed. If he's not who you want, just move on.

He speaks but does not demonstrate

It doesn't matter what motives move him in your relationship, it's easy to notice that he is saying the right things, but his actions do not reinforce the words.

Don't fall for his charisma when these are just words you want to hear, if they are not accompanied by action.

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He's busy when you need support

If you notice that he disappears when you need his support, it could be a sign that he is using you. Dating a guy who is only around when sex is scheduled, when you buy him something or satisfy his needs is not a good idea.

Messages and calls left unanswered because he didn't need anything from you are a wake-up call.

He treats you like a temporary companion

If your partner is always concerned with how sexy you look when you go somewhere, chances are he just wants to show off. If he is interested in you only because of your beauty or because you are above his level, he will demonstrate his feelings in public, cooling down at the same time, if you are alone. The other extreme can be a complete rejection of any manifestations of feelings in public, if he only uses you for sex or something else.

He is focused on himself

It is easy to notice if he is exclusively concerned about himself, and your feelings are not taken into account. One of the clear signs that he is using you is that he only sometimes pretends to be interested, but in fact it turns out that this is a lie. If any of your conversation boils down to him, he may just be selfish, but he may also use you.

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He only compliments when he wants something

If you feel like he only pays attention to you when he needs something from you, you might want to think about it. The habit of turning on your charm when needed and then turning it off again can be an unpleasant signal that shouldn't be ignored.

He doesn't keep promises

If he is not a genius actor, he will not be able to pretend all the time. That he makes promises that he doesn't keep is a sign of being used and not doing well. If he is right there when he needs something, but does not bother much in other situations, it's time to say goodbye to him.

He has not forgotten his ex

He posts your joint photos on social networks and at the same time tells how bad it was with his ex? He can use you for revenge or to show his ex how quickly he was able to move on.

Occasional dating with his old crush on dates can also be a sign that he doesn't really love you.

He doesn't like "shortcuts"

If he gets nervous when you call him your boyfriend, even though your connection is obvious, then he is most likely using you for sex. Drop it and don't look back, and next time be more careful in choosing a partner.