Do not be late

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

As you know, happy hours are not observed. If we consider the inhabitants of the planet on this basis, then almost all women should be absolutely happy creatures! We are always and everywhere late. Moreover, almost all the fair sex unanimously affirm:"

So, after observing some of my friends - representatives of the beautiful half of humanity, I drew some conclusions for myself and was able to subdivide delays into several types. Of course, this division is subjective, but still there is some truth here. I want to acquaint you with them so that in the future you do not make such mistakes and are not late!

Being late to impress. The most, I think, common tardiness among women. You always start preparing for a date or an upcoming meeting with friends well before the appointed hour. Perhaps your hair is already styled, you are dressed and dyed, but you still sit and look at your watch. You seem to be programmed to be late and you will definitely do it!

My sister is always late for dates. When she had a new man and, naturally, she did not come to the meeting at the appointed time, neither the first time nor the second, he simply decided to be late more than she, in order to teach her a lesson. It turned out that my sister was 15-20 minutes late, and he was at least 30 minutes late. Thus, no relationship came out of this ridiculous situation, although the man was very nice and pretty. It's a shame! The conclusion my sister drew from this story is that being late for the sake of attracting attention is simply stupid!

If you have no intention of being late, pack early and leave the house 5 minutes before the required time. It is better to wait a little this time somewhere near the meeting place, so as not to come first, than to be late and make the man wait. Of course, the moment of waiting, you say, is sweet and pleasant. Should disappoint you, only we think so. Ninety-nine percent of my male acquaintances answered that they do not like being late for dates, and 45% of them also noted that being late is an extremely negative moment in relationships with women.

Being late as inability to calculate the time. So they are late for business meetings and work. This is highly undesirable. You just can't get yourself out of bed in time to get to work on time. You cannot leave 15 minutes earlier for a meeting, even knowing that there are traffic jams everywhere. Or you forget your keys at home, an important folder with documents, your own head, finally.

Such delays can play a cruel joke on you. Firstly, many serious companies are fined for being late for work, especially systematic ones. Secondly, you will be considered insufficiently responsible, non-punctual, which can seriously hinder you in moving up the career ladder. Thirdly, the contract that you have been waiting for almost six months can easily go to your more punctual colleague.

If you are systematically late for work because you wake up, perhaps the reason is a lack of vitamins, especially in the spring. Stock up on vitamins, drink more coffee or green tea to wake up, exercise, take a contrast shower and set a loud alarm. Of course, you will suffer for a couple of weeks, but then your body will get used to it, you will be cheerful, and coming to work on time will seem more exciting to you than constant explanations with the boss.

There are things that you absolutely do not want to do. For example, to meet with a longtime acquaintance who talks incessantly or to go to the "do it yourself" club, which your friend loves so much … The body simply refuses to perceive these events as entertainment and relaxation. Then the opposite reaction is obtained - being late as a kind of protective means.

When my friend Alice had to come somewhere at the appointed time, and she did not crave it at all, her car always broke down, she forgot her wallet at home and did not turn off the iron. Thus, she was late for all such meetings. It is difficult to "recover" from such delays, because you simply do not want it.

By the way, when a sense of duty outweighs desire, then being late is far from the worst protective reaction of the body. The same Alice, for example, always has a fever or a sore throat when she has to go to visit distant relatives, whom she does not even consider as relatives.

Late always and everywhere. This is already a difficult case! It is almost impossible to recover from such delays. You are always late: for dates, for important and not very important meetings and meetings, concerts and meetings. And no matter how hard you try, it's still impossible to arrive on time. It is an integral and ineradicable part of your lifestyle.

Even if you decide once and for all not to be late and on Monday you wake up with a new motto for life: "That's it! Enough! From today I have time for everything on time!" Do not build illusions, not to be late at all - a completely unrealistic idea. Quite often, our delays do not depend on our will: traffic jams, accidents, blocked roads, breaking alarms, etc.

Moreover, note that an overly punctual person is usually unhappy and annoyed, constantly finding himself in place before the appointed hour. He constantly has to wait for others. So, instead of scolding yourself and accusing yourself of lack of will, it is better to think about the true reasons that prompt you to be late, and try to get rid of at least those that depend on you!

In order to somehow lead my thoughts to a conclusion and some kind of logical conclusion on this topic, I would like to cite a few opinions of my friends - representatives of the stronger sex, from whom I tried to find out how they relate to being late (ours and others), why this happens and so on. This is what I got.

Alexander (25 years old):.

Zhenya (27 years old):.

Incidentally, tardiness is treated differently in different countries. For example, in the Middle East, it is quite normal to stay for half an hour or even an hour. Similar morals prevail in Latin America, moreover: it is impolite and unreasonable to come to visit on time, because the owners may simply not be at home!

In Europe, the following rule applies: the farther north the country is, the stricter. If in Spain or Italy a half-hour delay is not something extraordinary, then in Germany or Finland two minutes is already a reason for bewilderment and resentment. Apologies are accepted, of course, but the reason must be valid. The same rules apply in Japan. But in Denmark, USA, Canada it is quite acceptable to stay for a few minutes.