The whole truth about men's sexual fantasies

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Scientists have found out that, on average, a man has up to six sexual fantasies per hour. This can be both "painting" of women's legs under the skirt, and scenes, like from a porn film. It is believed that men's erotic dreams are much more varied than ours … After reading about their secret desires in a women's magazine, sometimes we forget to check if the partner really wants to try something “like” in sex? What do our men really dream about?

Behind a few days of exploring the Cleo forums and sex encyclopedias. I tortured my own husband, brother and his friends (colleagues at work were ashamed to ask) about the sexual fantasies of men. Oh, and I had to go through a difficult time, still hard work - to get men to talk! With an impenetrable look, I tried to convince the "test subjects" that I was conducting the investigation for a good purpose and that their names and personal data would not be disclosed. A lot of them turned out to be tough nuts and generally denied that they had any fantasies. The husband was silent as a partisan, most likely thinking that these questions were tricky, and that at the first opportunity I would recall all his "dreams" to him. For these few days he looked at me as an enemy of the people and did not approve of my desire to get into other people's heads, even out of work necessity.

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Once upon a time, sexual fantasies were considered a sign of some kind of mental illness and studied from this point of view. But very soon scientists came to the conclusion that erotic dreams are a demonstration of human needs, albeit not always realized.

Anonymous polls in Internet forums have become a lifesaver. The answers were very diverse and, as a rule, similar to those that I heard from friends. Among the respondents, there were also those who openly stated that they fantasized about "having sex with a Japanese woman and a French woman at the same time." However, most have confessed to me that all these standard notions of male sexual fantasies are nonsense.

I came to the conclusion that most of the erotic dreams that are attributed to every man are not so interesting to them.

So, the ten most common, according to scientists and sexologists, sexual addictions of a strong half of humanity in the field of sex and the opinion of men themselves on this matter.

Fantasy number 1: in bed with Madonna

I don’t think you’ll like it. Making love to you, he imagines Britney Spears, Kylie Minogue, Brigitte Bardot or Angelina Jolie. Sex with celebrities and unfamiliar beautiful women is number one in all ratings of men's sexual fantasies.

However, the representatives of the strong half of humanity themselves often say that this is a myth. Men are not so alien, they feel the same way as women, and most of them have enough sex with one woman. "If you chose her, then she suits you, and dreams of others - why?" they say.

Fantasy number 2: a lot - not a little

Two or more women of completely different builds, colors and nationalities caress and "love" only one of them. This also probably includes the fantasy of group sex with a change of partners.

This dream can hardly be called a myth: swing clubs work with many partners for sex lovers, many men post ads on dating sites looking for “two girlfriends”. And about swing, and about sex FFM or FFM, we have repeatedly written on "Cleo". At the same time, 45% of the respondents admitted that they simply may not be enough to satisfy several women. As for group sex, most men are owners and are unlikely to withstand "watching a porn movie" with the participation of their girlfriend. So it usually does not come to the point here.

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Fantasy # 3: oh yeah

It is believed that the manifestations of female passion in the form of screams and moans “Oh, yes! Yet!" during sex they turn on men a lot. But it turns out that they don’t need this good for nothing. They feel like they're doing a cheap porn movie. And from the cry "come on, come on, pierce me through and through" all desire may disappear altogether. The word “still” does “break off” at all, as it makes you think that your partner is not enough and that he will soon die from zeal right in the process, without giving you the desired pleasure.

Fantasy number 4: the third is not superfluous

The myth of wanting to try exhibitionism is also quite common. Frankly, I myself was sure that many men would like to have sex in front of strangers.

It turned out that even those who have such fantasies would not want to make love to their wife in public in reality. They explained it by jealousy. Perhaps the point is that in practice everyone is not as daring as in their dreams.

Fantasy number 5: on the other side

They say men like anal sex. This is a fairly common desire indeed. But there are exceptions here too. Many people consider this kind of sex "dirty". The rest are just ashamed to offer you this. I found out that there are such men who will refuse, even if you want new sensations.

For anal sex, a man needs to be relaxed and confident in himself, and this, alas, is not so common. And yet, no matter how funny, there are those who are afraid that a woman armed with toys from a sex shop can offer them the same "pleasure" …

Fantasy number 6: rubber and latex

By the way, about toys. Men are credited with loving all kinds of unusual accessories.

They don't mind spending time with a rubber girlfriend instead of a real one and orgasm at the sight of a woman in lingerie from a sex shop. Indeed, such aspirations occasionally arise among our insidious tempters, but they certainly do not reach the status of the leading sexual fantasy of men.

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Fantasy number 7: affectionate and gentle animal

Another fantasy refuted by my research is sadomasochistic scenes that arise in a man's head. After all, men are, in essence, very affectionate animals and will never hurt their soul mate for anything in the world.

Usually they are not at all enthusiastic about sex with the use of brute force. And if they dream in the style of sado-maso, then they often imagine themselves not as a rapist, but as a slave in the hands of a charming, but cruel mistress, forcing her to fulfill any of her whims.

Fantasy number 8: in a hammock

Sex in unusual conditions can turn the head of every second person. Making love in nature, in the car or in the sauna, in the bathroom, in the midst of a club party has always attracted them.

In fact, there are only a few such extermals and hotter lovers. Would you have sex in the woods, exposing yourself to the delight of ticks and mosquitoes? Or in a car at high speed? Exactly. Why then do you think that your beloved would become?

Fantasy number 9: eating in bed

Chocolate is sticky, and fresh strawberries can stain everything. Alas, sweet things are sexy only in movies. In real life, the men unanimously said "no" to such toys. None of them dreams of being covered with jam. But if you bring him a snack after sex in bed, you'll get a lot more gratitude.

Fantasy number 10: consumer

Sex with a prostitute gives you a lot of choice. Today a redhead with a magnificent bust, tomorrow a thin brunette.

But again, the devil is not so terrible as he is painted. Most of the men surveyed admitted that they did not accept such sex, if only for fear of contracting a sexually transmitted disease. However, more than half of them still had sex with a prostitute, mainly, as they put it, in their youth. And, mind you, no one called it their fantasy!

Of course, there are exceptions to any rule. But if your beloved has fantasies that you don't really like, don't be upset!

Remember that fantasy is fantasy and reality is reality. It's one thing to dream and quite another to do. A crazy sexual idea and its real embodiment are often divided by the deepest abyss.