What Sexual Fantasies Talk About

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

No matter how embarrassed we are to admit it, each of us no, no, and will imagine something like that. Either sex with a stranger, or intimate threesome games, or frank pole dancing in a strip bar - sexual fantasies are so diverse that you can choose for every taste.

As a rule, this choice occurs unconsciously, and sometimes we cannot even understand why such an image appeared in our head and excited us so much.

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They come to us unexpectedly: sometimes in a dream, when we peacefully sleep in pajamas with pink bears, sometimes at a meeting with a business partner, and sometimes at a doctor's appointment when he examines our throat for redness. It is not at all necessary to be in some kind of sex-suggestive circumstances to suddenly feel like you are overwhelmed with desire. But some women out of nowhere emerged fantasies and, most importantly, their content, to put it mildly, puzzled, but in a simple way - frightened. We tried to figure out whether it is worth being afraid of your imagination and whether it has anything to do with what is happening in your bed. Perhaps sexual fantasies speak of aspects of life that, at first glance, have nothing to do with intimate relationships.

Fantasy one: sex with a stranger

If you imagine having sex with a complete stranger, whom you met, for example, in an elevator, train compartment or in a nightclub, then most likely you want romance without consequences: easy and non-binding. This does not mean that you need to immediately leave your husband (if you have one) and go flying from one flower to another. Such a fantasy, rather, suggests that you feel rather constrained in bed with your man, you cannot liberate yourself, and your imagination now and then draws pictures where you are free to do whatever you want, without thinking about how you look with sides. No remorse or embarrassment - only sex and pleasure.

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Fantasy two: sex with another woman

Do not think that you have a lesbian inclination, your fantasies do not indicate anything like this. Sexologists believe that women who every now and then imagine having sex with other women and “get turned on” after seeing such scenes in the movies, do not have enough foreplay in bed with their beloved. There is an opinion that girls know much better what they really want, and only they can be as gentle with themselves as they need it.

The other woman in your fantasies is the image of a sensual lover who pays due attention to foreplay.

Fantasy three: in front of everyone

If you imagine that you are in a rather scrupulous situation (dancing at a pole, having sex in a public place, masturbating or just naked), and a lot of people are looking at you, then most likely you want others to pay more attention to your person, than you get it in real life. Perhaps you think that you are undeservedly forgotten, they do not listen to your opinion, and all this speaks of low self-esteem and self-doubt, which you want to compensate for the admiration of others.

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Fantasy four: under duress

Some women imagine that they are having sex with a rude brutal man who "takes" them against their will. Someone slightly transforms the fantasy, imagining that the force is used by their boss or the kidnapper who took the woman prisoner. If your imagination has started such a game with you, then in reality you want your man to be tougher and more decisive. Perhaps he is overly romantic, and you lack the feeling that you are in bed with a "conqueror" who knows what he wants and takes it.

Fantasy five: you are my slave

When it is you, and not your partner, who play the role of the one who “comes, sees, wins”, it means that in real life you do not find the courage to stand your ground, prove to everyone that you are right and be tougher in communication with those who sit on your neck. If in fantasies you are an imperious empress, and he is a slave who obeys all orders, then it is possible that in bed your man takes all the initiative upon himself, leaving no room for freedom of action for his partner.

Sometimes girls in such a situation feel like only toys, and not full participants in intimate games.

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Fantasy Six: Group Sex

Even the most innocent representatives of the fair sex sometimes imagine themselves in bed with several partners of different genders at once. Participation in group sex excites those who find their life boring and monotonous. It seems to them that they all the time receive less pleasure in reality, and in such erotic scenes they see pleasure that pours out as if from a cornucopia, especially if both men and women "make them feel good" for them.