Raising a polite child

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

All adults are delighted with well-mannered and polite children. They do good deeds and do not forget to say "magic" words in time. And every parent dreams that his child would be just like that and even a little better …

But how to teach a child to communicate with people so that good manners and politeness become the norm for him? Here are some simple rules to help you get the job done.

Personal example

Children, like sponges, absorb everything into themselves! Including the daily behavior of parents, their communication style and actions.

In your family it is customary to communicate in a raised voice, to solve problems with the help of shouting, and not with the help of requests and contracts? Then there is a high probability that the baby will grow up rude and ill-mannered. Even if you teach him to speak words of courtesy and read several books about good manners, there will not be much result.

But if the child grows up in an atmosphere of love and understanding, sees how mom and dad greet neighbors, help elders and do not forget to say words of gratitude at home, do not hesitate - he will copy this demeanor. The kid will eventually understand what and when to pronounce polite words, how to behave with peers and adults, how to act so as not to harm others. And impoliteness will become impermissible for him.

Politeness as a way of life

But memorizing the right words doesn't mean being polite.… We also need to learn how to apply them to the place.

Sometimes parents themselves cannot decide why their child should be polite. They cram with their child "thank you", "sorry", "please", "hello" and "goodbye", but they cannot really explain in what situation to use these words.

It is very important that politeness for your child becomes not an obligation, not an imposed role, but a way of life.

And then it happens, funny things happen. For example, a neighbor's boy greeted you politely at the entrance and let you go ahead. And then, with a noise, he took the candy from your baby and ran away. You will hardly consider him polite after that …

Therefore, it is very important that politeness for your child becomes not an obligation, not an imposed role, but a way of life! To do this, you do not need to memorize the rules of behavior - it is enough to observe them in different life situations.

Explain to the child the meaning of the phrase “do to others as you want to be treated to you”. Tell him that his actions may only please him alone, but cause discomfort to others.

The skills of a polite and well-mannered person:

• It's polite to ask, thank, and apologize.
• Greet and say goodbye.
• Do not get into someone else's conversation for no reason.
• Consider the requests and desires of other people.
• Observe the rules of etiquette at the table.
• Be neat and take good care of your personal hygiene.
• Observe the rules of conduct in public places. For example, give way to elders, do not litter on the street, do not pick your nose, do not point your finger at others, etc.

Tactful teaching

We often forget that even the smallest child is a person. “Where are you going?” And the kids get lost, they don't know how to act correctly in this or that situation …

So, if you want your baby to grow up as a polite and decent person, stick to some rules:

• Speak without yelling or harsh words, especially in front of strangers. Better to explain privately to your child why he was wrong.

  Do not insult the child's dignity

• Take an interest in his opinion, state, desires.
• Try not to make comments all the time.
• Encourage good behavior and independence.
• Do not forget to praise for the "magic" words and good deeds.

We take games and fairy tales as assistants

But teaching your child about the rules of conduct in an adult language is unlikely to be successful. Here the best helpers are games, fairy tales and poems.

After reading a fairy tale or verse, discuss with the little one the plot, the behavior of positive and negative characters.

Children's books mainly teach children such life values as kindness, friendship, understanding and politeness. After reading a fairy tale or verse, discuss with the little one the plot, the behavior of positive and negative characters, and also clarify how the baby would act in their place.

Also now there are many wonderful children's publications on this topic. For example:

• “ABC of Kindness”, “ABC of Politeness”, “ABC of Friendship” from the series “Encyclopedia for Little Geeks”;
• "A Lesson in Courtesy" by Samuil Marshak;
• "Tales about Masha and Oyka", "Caprice and Malicious" by Sofya Prokofieva;
• "Etiquette for Girls and Boys" by Anastasia Zhadan;

Perfectly help to understand different situations and role-playing games.

Play with your child as if you are on transport, on a playground, at a party or a hospital. Or come up with a fairy tale story with his favorite cartoon characters, where a tricky situation will be played out. Then discuss together why it is unacceptable to misbehave and be impolite.

Do not forget that we all come from childhood and a lot depends on us, parents! Thanks to such simple advice, a friendly atmosphere in the family and mutual understanding, your baby will definitely grow up to be a polite and decent person.