Why are we putting our lives off until Monday

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

How many times have you promised yourself that starting Monday you will go in for sports, go on a diet, start reading classics, and sign up for an English course? Okay, you can not count - this is a pointless idea. Moreover, most likely, even now you have a couple of bold ideas about a "new life", which you will certainly implement from next Monday. Why not do it now? Even if today is Tuesday (after all, you didn't buy a gym membership yesterday, right?), It doesn't stop you from doing what you want. However, no, we are stubbornly waiting for the next week, the end of the vacation, the beginning of the new year, as if January 1 will turn our life upside down and open up huge opportunities that did not exist yesterday, December 31. Why is this happening, argues the author of Kleo Alexandra Dudkina.

When I was writing this article, it was November 1st. Not Monday, of course, but a good date to start a new life. And to be honest, I have a lot of important things planned for this day. Needless to say, in the late afternoon all the pieces of paper with notes like “sign up for fitness”, “go to the library” (I like ordinary books, e-books for some reason do not create the right mood) and many others went to the trash can? And my plans were smoothly postponed to an indefinite date, but, most likely, to the next Monday. Poor Mondays - we give them such a big responsibility! According to the plans of a good half of humanity, it is on the first day of the week that the most important and fateful deeds should be performed. And if they did not come true, then - well - not that Monday, we will choose another. And not everyone thinks that responsibility should be assigned first of all to oneself. You can change your life abruptly (and not very much) on Wednesday, Thursday, and even July 28 or April 15. Why can't we understand this in any way and finally start living here and now?

Not every person is ready for such changes. For many, they are simply frightening.

We are afraid of change

Take at least the same sports - we know very well that they will make us healthier, more beautiful and give us confidence. But even despite the indisputable benefits of physical activity, we do not go to the gym. Hundreds of thoughts appear in my head: “How am I going to keep up with everything? And you need to buy a suit, but there is no money. What if everyone looks at me and laughs? And this applies not only to sports: whatever we change in life, we will change our whole life. Things will shift in the usual schedule, additional cash costs will be required, a new circle of friends will appear, etc. Not every person is ready for such changes. For many, they are simply frightening.

We're not sure if we need these changes at all

Tell me, was it a friend who just returned from London inspired you to learn English? Or did you come to this decision through long reflections on the future of your career, where advancement is possible only if you know foreign languages? If the latter, then everything is much simpler - sooner or later (better still, early) you will find both the time and the strength to go to language courses. Well, if the desire is caused solely by the example of a person who seems successful to you, then it will be much more difficult to decide on changes. The point is that we will always do something that seems necessary to us. Desires to change life or improve it, based only on envy or someone else's success, while not backed up by the confidence that we need it, will always remain the points of the plan, nothing more.

We're sure there are still tons of Mondays ahead

The illusion that one Monday is separated from another by a "huge" period of time of 7 days, and from November 1 to December 1, we have as many as 30, allows us to relax and think that we still have time. We cannot make up our minds on bold actions immediately, we believe that we need to prepare, all the more so there is no need to rush anywhere. And everything seems to be right - you didn't do it now, you will do it later. Better late than never. But the main thing is to understand that the best thing is on time. We cannot know what awaits us tomorrow. And I don't want to scare you, but remember the stories of people who find out that they have six months or a year left to live. Some give up, but there are those who understand: there is nowhere to save, you have to fulfill your dreams. Only by truly appreciating life, you can stop constantly preparing for it and finally start living.

We are not ready to take responsibility for what is happening to us here and now

Today we go with the flow and convince ourselves that such are the circumstances that are beyond our control. But on Monday or the first day, God himself ordered to do something decisive and bold. As if it's not possible on Wednesday or Friday. The problem is that it is difficult for us to take responsibility for our life and realize that it depends only on us whether it will bring happiness or not. It is in our power to do better in everything that surrounds us, but only when we are ready to bear responsibility for every day we have lived, and not to wait for us to be beaten by a passing current to the next Monday.

It is in our power to make everything that surrounds us better, but only when we are ready to bear responsibility for every day we live.

… So, November 1 has passed, Monday too. What, now wait until the next one? No, I won't. I understand that nothing depends on the name of the day of the week, just like whether it is summer outside or winter holidays, which promise us something completely new right after the chimes. I want you, like me, to realize that it is possible and necessary to decide on the implementation of plans at the moment when these plans came to your mind. Do not preserve them, do not put them on the back burner - it may well be that they will remain there forever.