On a powder keg

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Recently I got to know the story of one family very closely. From the outside, this is an ordinary family with good income, very friendly people: a husband, wife and two adult children live together in a four-room apartment in the city center. There is a car, a summer house and everything you need for a normal life. Before, I looked at them and quietly envied them: such successful people, a strong family … Unfortunately, soon I had to change my mind.

This is the conversation I had with Boris, Marina and their children - Denis and Masha.

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: "Mother torments all my girls. I want to get married and start my life. When I meet a good girl, I immediately take her home to introduce her to her parents. Mom smiles at first, more and more often invites my friend to visit. And the same thing is repeated three times. story. My girlfriend moves to live in our apartment, we apply to the registry office, everything is going well. Then one day I come home from work and see that my beloved packed her things and moved out. I start to find out what happened. It turns out that my mother is in mine. the absence of my girlfriend begins to scoff, constantly tells her nasty things that she is a bad housewife and unworthy of me. I wanted to live separately from my parents, but my mother has a weak heart, and her father beats her. If I leave, she will be left without help, I can’t leave her. My sister doesn’t help at all. So I sit and endure all the antics ma we, because I love her and I regret it."

: “I don’t consider Denis for my brother for a long time. His parents have suffered so much: they gave a lot of money for his studies at the institute, but he left the institute. Then he got carried away with drugs - got into debt, got involved with some gangsters. he was treated for drug addiction and hid from the criminals he owed. And after a while his brother robbed his father's company. It turned out that this was not his first crime - his mom and dad had to run around the courts and hire lawyers for another year. And now he is 22 years old. He works a security guard, has no education and is stupid as a cork. I would not care, but I feel sorry for my parents. They have suffered so much - they swallow validol for a couple in the evenings. And Denis still likes to drink. When he comes home drunk, he immediately starts to climb up to me - with his fists So far he only managed to bruise. When he starts beating me, my father immediately intercedes for me. Drives him out of the house, yells that he doesn't need such a son. And here I sit every evening and pray that everything would be calm at home tonight … It’s scary to realize that I feel safer on the street at night than in my own home. I have already tried a thousand times after the next attack to call the police so that this moral monster would be taken there. And my mother immediately burst into tears - she says that she cannot live without him and without me. So I endure this whole nightmare just for my mother. And in order not to run into Denis, I try to appear at home less often - I spend more nights with my friends."

: "Yes, I do not have a family, but a bunch of idiots. My wife did not raise children, but some animals. I am generally like a stranger to her: she only pulls money from me, but what is going on in my soul does not interest her at all The son is a criminal, there will be no sense in him. The daughter has completely forgotten where her house is. She walks, anywhere and does not know what. And I still have to feed and dress them all. I thought my son would get a job - he would stop asking for money. So he has a salary - a penny, which he spends on drink in two days. Now, the time is such that my business is going badly. And nobody cares about me. Therefore, all my life I digest everything in myself, I solve all problems myself. family ungrateful? So I'm an orphanage. I have no one else in my life except them. So I put up with this wretched family, so as not to meet old age alone - I do not deserve it."

This is such a family: everyone with their claims, everyone tolerates each other and suffers. And none of them sees a way out, because they have been "stewing" in their problems for many years, and no one wants to leave such a dysfunctional family - to finally break this vicious circle. In fact, these people do not have the strength and courage to change something in their lives.

But in every family, with every person, something similar happens. Everyone has problems that cannot be resolved in a couple of hours, but are transferred to the heart throughout their lives. And if a person is weak in spirit, he agrees to endure as much as necessary all the hardships that befall him. And not everyone has the strength to stop what they don't like.

We, the Russian people, apparently have a habit in our subconscious to endure all troubles and misfortunes. After all, what have we not experienced: tyrant rulers and tyrants, wars and revolutions, hunger strikes and inflation. And today, not everyone lives well, and a large percentage of the population of Russia is below the poverty line. But we live and do nothing. We live and endure all unsuccessful government reforms, as well as tolerate insults and bullying from others. And this is so familiar to us that we have already ceased to notice that we do not like certain things. It often seems to us that if we want to, we will stop the injustice that reigns in the world. But in fact, although we are strong women, we are strong - in the little things. We can gather courage and demand an increase in salary or one day pack up our things and leave our tyrant husband. But there are things over which we are powerless, which we will endure forever. Whether it is a weakness or a great power of love is up to you. But we will always be ready to endure troubles from our children, we are ready to go to Siberia for our beloved in exile and courageously endure all the hardships of hardship.

Where is the limit of a woman's patience? I began to write my material with the words that sooner or later a person's patience may burst. And this actually happens very often. And moreover, I am inclined to believe that you really cannot tolerate those things that do not suit you in life. But there are exceptions to any rule. And in our life there are often such cases when we understand that to endure something unpleasant is not so bad and humiliating, if you do it for the sake of your loved ones. Believe me, our female patience is limitless. And this is a very noble quality. But thought is weak without action. If we women find the strength to endure everything, then we will find the strength in ourselves to fight for our happiness and not suffer from oppression and resentment.