The main female mistakes at the beginning of life together

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

When a relationship is at the candy-bouquet stage, it seems that nothing better can happen to you and cannot: a man carries you in his arms, gives flowers, strews with compliments and admires your beautiful eyes. And the only thing you want even more than just seeing him on dates in the evenings is to be with him all the time, wake up and fall asleep in the same bed, cook dinner and drink tea in the same kitchen, hang clothes in a shared closet and enjoy the fact that now you are almost a family. However, life together is not always so rosy, and our ideas often differ from reality. Especially if we make one after another gross mistakes and break what we have not yet managed to build.

If it seems to you that living together is just moving things to his apartment, and then enjoying your morning coffee in bed, then most likely you have not yet had to take such a crucial step. When you meet on neutral territory, but each sleep in your apartment, it is very easy and simple to create the appearance of who you want to be in the eyes of your beloved. With him, you are a beautiful, charismatic, well-groomed, athletic, real girl-lighter, and an hour before that at home, in a hurry, wash your hair, pick up an outfit, scattering all your things around the room, clean your ears and forget to throw used cotton swabs into the trash can. As soon as the moment of your reunion comes on the common living space, the man will have to see everything that was so carefully hidden from his eyes for a long time, and you should take care that he does not lose interest in you. In general, you probably already realized that starting a life together is a very important step for all couples, and you need to take it seriously.

It is not for nothing that they say that true relationships must withstand two tests: distance and general life. So, before you put the last blouse in your suitcase, take the time and read about what mistakes you should never make, so as not to come back with the same suitcase in a month.

A la nature

Of course, you should not jump out of bed even dawn, so that while he sleeps, apply "war paint" and appear in front of your beloved fully armed - after a couple of weeks of such a regime you risk falling off from lack of sleep. However, it is also not worth teaching a man that now you will always walk at home without makeup. Firstly, he did not fall in love at all with a fighter for naturalness in a bathrobe, and, most likely, you prepared for dates to the maximum: mascara, shadows, lipstick, and also a beautiful dress and high-heeled shoes. And, secondly, when you declare to your beloved that the make-up is not needed at home, but when you are going somewhere, put on makeup like for a beauty pageant, you offend him very much. The man understands: she wants to be attractive to others, but not to me. Therefore, try to take care of your appearance, even if today is Sunday and you are not planning to go anywhere. Don't relax.

Under control

For some reason, many women believe that living together with a man gives them some powers and now they have access to what was previously prohibited. The favorite way to cover a man with a "cap" is to constantly inspect his pages on social networks, read SMS and incoming mail, and also track all his calls. Sometimes it reaches the point of absurdity, and women demand an account of every step: where they were, with whom they spoke, what they saw, what they ate, whether they blew their nose into a handkerchief, etc. Agree, you would not tolerate such an attitude towards yourself, so why should he? Plus, this behavior is similar to maternal care, and your man already has one mother, you should not turn into a second one.

Agree, you would not tolerate such an attitude towards yourself, so why should he?

Prohibited

Feeling that now they have much more rights to their man than before, women go into a rage: in addition to total control, they also include the “ban” regime. From now on, very, very much is prohibited: Saturday trips with friends to the bathhouse (“What if you bring women there?”), Joint viewing of matches in sports bars (“There are a lot of women around who want to fool you”), as well as the football games themselves or weekend volleyball (“You probably don’t play at all, but go to women”). Some "almost spouses" become obsessed and try to plan the time of their beloved on their own: in the morning to work, then resignedly to go home (no friends!), From there for groceries to the store, and then to Aunt Masha for potatoes. Tell me, are you ready to give up gatherings with friends, shopping and cafes? Unlikely. Such a life will be like a cage. Do you think a man wants to sit in a cage, and even on a leash?

If he loves, he will understand

The beginning of life together is a very difficult period also because in one place the orders and laws of two different families suddenly collide: yours and his. Mom taught him that the dishes must be washed immediately after eating, and you are "sinful" and put it in a neat pile in the sink. Your father never threw socks around the apartment, and your lover now and then leaves them behind a sofa or under a chair. It is clear that some things will annoy you, and in no case should you be silent about them. Do not rely on his telepathic abilities and think that a loving person will understand everything without words. Will not understand. Therefore, calmly, without hysteria, explain to your beloved that his socks make you nervous and he would really help you if he put them in a basket for dirty laundry. Just do not be in a hurry to be offended when he asks you to wash the dishes immediately after eating - everything is fair with you.

Do not rely on his telepathic abilities and think that a loving person will understand everything without words. Will not understand.

Yours, mine are ours

Would you call all your relatives to your beloved's house without warning him about it, if you did not live together? Of course not! It is also not worth doing when the living space becomes common. This does not mean at all that your mother's visit must be fully approved, but you can tell the man simple: “In a week, mom will come to us for a couple of days” you can. It's not difficult for you to warn your loved one about an imminent meeting with your mother-in-law? In the end, having chosen you as a life partner, he did not choose your whole family and, unfortunately, should not be happy with absolutely all unplanned visits.