"Coaching": what to do if you do not know how to achieve the goal

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Before the appearance on the TV screens of the series "Balzac Age, or All the Men Are Free …" I had no idea what coaching was. The comic-ironic intonation in the film helped me understand that coaches can be both professionals and outright charlatans. But this did not frighten me, and when the profession ceased to bring moral satisfaction, I went to the “personal trainer”. I will share: I became the author of the Cleo magazine and other successful Russian publications with the help of coaching.

All responsibility is on the client

The basic principles of coaching are as follows:

• focus on the capabilities of a person, and not on his past flaws;

• disclosure of human capabilities to achieve optimal results.

The word "coach" (coach) is translated from English as "coach / instructor / tutor". Accordingly, "coaching" is something like "instruction".

Communication takes place like this: coach asks questions and the client answers them. The coach does not give advice. Thus, it turns out that the client makes all the conclusions about his own situation himself, which increases his self-esteem. And, of course, the execution of one's own decisions is much easier than if it were some kind of instruction from “above”. However, in this case, only the client himself is responsible for the development of events. This feature is rather difficult for our Russian mentality to accept.

In Russia, coaching has been practiced since about 1997. Now such services are offered by almost all consulting companies and psychological training centers. So if you need coach - Call the practitioners in the city centers of this kind.

If you don’t find it, an airplane or a train to the metropolis and a computer connected to the Internet will come to your aid. Yes, yes, only the first meeting with the coach should be face-to-face. Subsequent ones can be carried out via the Internet: by e-mail, by ICQ or by phone.

How is the first meeting going

On first coach-session, and this is how the meeting of the client and the coach is called, the instructor will find out what goal the person has set for himself. The client gets a unique opportunity to understand whether this is a real goal or whether he really wants something else in his life. In the second case, the goal is corrected by joint efforts, sometimes changing to its opposite, and sometimes it is simply clarified, acquires important nuances.

Rate the quality of your life:

	I am completely happy with my life
	Not all is done yet, but I know the goal and go to it
	I'm not sure if I'm busy doing what I want to do in life
	Things are not going at all the way I would like
	Didn't think about goals seriously

- At the first session, everything depends on the person who came. - says Lydia Ishmurova - coach, holder of the certificate of the European Federation of Coaches. - There are three types of clients. The first is the "visitor". He does not decide anything, but simply asks, “what is coach-session". The second is the "complainer." He came to speak out and complain about life. There is no dialogue with him, but only a monologue from the client's side. The third type is directly a participant who came to solve his problem.

You yourself understand that it is better to be a participant. After all, only then your costs - moral, physical and monetary - will not go down the drain.

Why are coaches needed?

The tasks that coaching helps a person to solve lie both in the field of personal / personal life and in the business sphere.

Lifecoaching - life coaching. It can help, for example, to restore good relations with relatives, sell jewelry of the deceased grandmother, write a bestseller, get the post of head of department, become a star of show business, and the like.

Life story: Marina came to coachbeing a graphomaniac. She scribbled a lot, but everything was on the table. This did not seem to suit the talented girl, but she never sent her works to publishing houses.

After classes with coach Marina realized: she is afraid of recognition and fame. After all, all this implies for her an invasion of her personal life (far from ideal), as well as cracks in her relationships with friends.

In addition, it turned out that the theme of the works that Marina has recently begun to write is not close to her heart. The girl wrote ladies' detective stories only because she believed that they were the best quoted in the book market.

For two years of training with coach Marina has ceased to be afraid of journalists; tactfully prepared friends for the fact that soon her works will be read not only by them, but the whole country, and also reoriented to writing novels in the genre of "fantasy".

Now Marina has a contract with a major publishing house and a new book being prepared for release.

"Businesscoaching" echoes business consulting.

Life story: Larisa's business was going to ruin. At this time, she received an inheritance from a distant relative: a one-room apartment in the most non-prestigious area of the city. Selling the new property was financially unprofitable. An economist by profession, the woman understood this perfectly well without coach … But Larisa had no idea how to collect the amount needed to cover the debts of a failing business without selling her new apartment.

The price of one coach session varies depending on the city and the experience of the specialist - from 700 rubles to 200 USD. However, the coach can offer the client an individual system of payment for services. Coach Lidia Ishmurova said: “I can conduct coaching sessions at the expense of future money, that is, as soon as a person receives his first earnings - after working with me - he pays the amount from this money that we agree on in advance”. Often the first meeting with the coach is free for the client.

For three months of visiting coach she developed a strategy to cover all debts. Firstly, she moved to live with her daughter in an inherited apartment, and began to rent her own - a three-room apartment in the center and with European-quality renovation, and this money was enough for an "average" life. Secondly, I took a cross-loan to cover debts. And, finally, she sold the business, which was barely afloat, to her old acquaintance, albeit for a pittance, but the main thing was that the premises remained with Larisa, and the new business owner paid monthly rent to the individual entrepreneur. And Larisa sent this money to cover a bank loan.

The result of the story is that the woman has not lost faith in herself, and even though Larisa now works as an employee, she is still a business woman at heart.

We select a "coach"

By education "vital" coaches, as a rule, doctors, teachers and psychologists. “Business” coaches usually have a basic education in management, finance and economics. Rank coach people receive by completing additional training and receiving an appropriate diploma or certificate.

The most prestigious certification is the International Coach Federation (ICF) certification.

You can find "your" instructor by listening to the opinions of other people, as well as to your inner feelings during the first coach- sessions.

For example, Larisa chose coach according to the principle: "He drives a BMW and speaks on the latest model of a mobile phone, that is, he was able to achieve something on his own, and accordingly, he will help me with this."

Marina said: “I preferred the symbiosis of intuition and logic: the words of familiar people were supported by my personal impression of coach … And I will not hide: the fact that my coach and I, and this is a woman, had the same favorite perfume brand, "Chanel No. 5", also played a role.

In essence, communicating with coach, you learn to think independently, but at the same time and effectively, minimize the number of mistakes in life and bring yourself closer to happiness.