Self-development during quarantine: why isolation is beneficial

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

You have already stocked up on semi-finished products and have planned to watch a couple of TV shows in several seasons during the forced self-isolation. But over time, four walls and idle TV viewing bore even the most ardent introverts.

Lots of free time is a great excuse to introduce new healthy habits into your life. And one of these habits is self-development. To do this, you do not need a society: its opinion and influence can act as nothing more than distractions.

I, Julia Lanske, relationship expert, # 1 love coach in the world according to the annual iDate Awards 2019, want to give you recommendations on how to make the most of the forced break from the routine and what you need for this.

Free space for new habits

Now I will please you a little: the situation in which we all find ourselves, like nothing else, contributes to the increase and improvement of many physiological and mental processes of a person.

Here are just a few of the benefits of being out of touch with society:

• Concentration and memory. When you are around people, you tend to put less effort into memorizing information by relying on others. Alone, you focus better on facts, figures and events, keeping them in mind.
• Your interests are your priorities. Now is the best time to pay attention to yourself and get to know yourself. During normal times, you can put your own ideas and hobbies aside in order to satisfy the wants and needs of loved ones. Isolation gives you the chance to focus on yourself without worrying about what others think.
• Increased creativity. Undeniably, collaborative brainstorming is often seen as one of the best ways to generate new ideas. However, research has shown that people are often more effective at solving complex problems alone. Where group efforts are aimed at reaching consensus and joining the crowd, individual work is directed pointwise without social pressure.
• You become more empathetic. Research shows that spending time alone softens hearts and develops empathy and empathy for the people around you.

Of course, spending time alone is not always easy - thank the technology that has changed the way that solitude is spent. Sometimes, even without society around you, you cannot take a break from communicating with others. Either a message "pokes", then a notification that someone has rated your post or photo, then a bored friend decides to share an excellent cheesecake recipe.

turn off the phones and get … books

The current crisis, most likely, has already forced you to change your outlook on many important things in your life. And, looking at how the pandemic on the planet decides the fate, it's time to take a closer look at your own.

Men are attracted to women who never get stuck in their development, constantly strive to learn new things, increase their level of knowledge and competence. That is why I recommend accepting the temporary destruction of your established daily routine as a great chance to change your life for the better. And first of all - your feminine component.

The book is a wonderful tool for self-development. Ideally, of course, traditional paper editions rustling with pages. But both electronic options and audio format are quite suitable - to each his own.

The main thing is to discover information that will induce you to reconsider life, the direction of thinking. It will also allow you to evaluate yourself and your behavior, as well as shed a ray of light on how a man sees you, what he thinks and what he wants.

I do not exclude that you have already heard about many of the bestsellers. And nevertheless, I will focus on them as the basis for understanding male psychology, building communication and relationships.

TOP 3 books for women

1. Gary Chapman "5 Love Languages". If you have a man, I highly recommend that you both read this book. Practice shows that when partners come to realize what the author of the book is talking about, their relationship will improve dramatically. This book will help you do more than just give and receive love. With its help, you will learn to recognize the love language of different men (and not only), and then - to correctly build relationships with this person.
2. Steve Harvey "Act Like a Woman, Think Like a Man." Why men love, but do not marry, as well as other secrets of the stronger sex and, as a kind of continuation: "You know nothing about men." I heard that even men, after reading it, nod their heads approvingly, they say, everything is definitely true! These books are like a revelation of a brave representative of the stronger sex, who wanted to secretly give out everything that is going on in a man's head, so that the reader is happy. The book is written in simple language, and I am sure that every woman will find in it something new for herself for her relationships and attitude towards men. On the one hand, the author presents common truths. But, after analyzing what they read, many women begin to look at everyday things in relationships with men in a completely new way.
3. Erich Fromm "The Art of Love". In this book, you will not find a famously twisted plot, there are no precise definitions of love, as well as a step-by-step algorithm of how to learn this art. Despite the fact that the book was written back in 1956, Erich Fromm, a psychotherapist by vocation, very accurately highlighted in it the global problems of humanity associated with the ability to love, which are still relevant today. The author's point of view will clearly not leave you indifferent: in which - then you will want to argue with him, in some you will agree from the bottom of your heart. Read and find out, how do you love?

The flower that lives inside every woman

The list of those books that I would recommend to women would be incomplete without my personal contribution to literature. The book The Rose of Love and Femininity, released in 2017, is a practical self-study guide for women of all ages and statuses.

Based on the method of the same name, it includes training and a test to unlock your female potential according to 57 criteria. With it, you can discover the strengths and weaknesses of your look and polish them to shine to become desirable and attractive to any man.

In other words, this is a step-by-step guide to creating your attractiveness and the perfect look.

Many vivid examples from my practice of working with women, more than 85 exercises and techniques for each criterion of the image, as well as a light conversation with the reader, as with a good friend - this is what awaits you on the pages of my book.

I tried to create something like a study guide for those women who dream of charming worthy men, cultivating self-love and demonstrating value in the eyes of a man. I am sure that you will learn a lot of useful things for yourself, smile more than once and certainly feel the effect of my author's technique when you start working on yourself.

Here is the best teaching

A good book can entertain, give consolation, change your worldview, and with it your whole destiny. Use this time and challenging circumstances to grow and improve.

The current situation is a great excuse to get to that list of books that has long attracted you. And even more: it is an opportunity to develop a strong reading habit so that books become a meaningful part of your life, even when society opens the doors for you again.

I wish you that the time of "lockdown" will be the starting point for the ascent of your best version of yourself, the woman who will be admired by a worthy man. And let this wonderful book be your mentor in this!