Can a man forgive treason? Life stories

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

They say that men are very hard on the betrayal of their beloved. Harder than women, men's hikes "to the left". Does it happen that a "walking" woman is forgiven, and the couple lives on as if nothing had happened? We conducted a survey and found out that men are quite capable of forgiving and forgetting offenses.

The former lover forgave me the betrayal, which was at the very beginning of our relationship with him and never recalled it to me in quarrels. Itself admitted to it. After that, they never remembered. There were no reasons at all. They adored each other. I was little then. All mistakes are made. This is generally the only jamb in my relationship, we broke up for a completely different reason. But I've learned a lesson for myself for life, cheating is not worth the consequences.

I gave myself to another man, I was bored with my husband. But now my husband has become even more disgusting to me. And we have a family and children. The husband knows about the betrayal, but closes his eyes, and I despise him for it.

It is necessary for the man to love very much or to be very dependent on the girl (materially or emotionally). The guy I was keeping turned a blind eye to my betrayal.

I cheated, I was forgiven. Didn't do anything to be forgiven. I didn't care about the one I cheated on, and the other I left, although he suggested that I start all over again. If I go for treason, then my old man is no longer interesting to me.

I was forgiven. True, the betrayals were relative - during periods of temporary parting due to quarrels. At the same time, the man himself was faithful both before and after. I knew that I love only him anyway, and “cheated” out of resentment.

An acquaintance of mine got into trouble in the summer with another, without stopping to meet with her current one, and he forgave. Because he loved so much. But the way he runs after her - it's just … Well, he is not a man, but under her thumb. In general, if you forgive - then, it seems to me, you need to be wary! This is not a man!

I also had those who forgave, and we never remembered about it at all (and after such an attitude, the desire to change no longer arose), but there was one who said: "Well, now I have official permission to change you." After that, I cheated on him more than once. However, she also did not forbid him to do what he wanted. We parted pretty quickly.

And I changed; my husband knew, and nothing, he is just afraid to tarnish his reputation and his name. And I'm comfortable, but I don't like him.

In my life I only once had a betrayal on my part - I was forgiven, but the relationship quickly ended after that, although the man probably loves me to this day. After the betrayal, they could not live together, discomfort and innuendo constantly hung in the air, it was hard.

Mine forgave me, and even then blamed myself for not feeling that turning point when I decided to build a secret relationship with another. After this incident, about 2 years have passed … So far, everything is fine, that topic was discussed at first and we do not return to it anymore. Only someone who has built a new relationship with an old partner will understand that sometimes cheating is even beneficial. In reality, then you just get an outlet and mentally say thank you for the experience, how to behave in such a situation.

I have a matter of divorce. On my initiative. The husband knew about the betrayal, but was not going to divorce. There were no scandals either. I was burned out because there were reasons for my betrayal. I didn’t want to live like that.

He seemed to have forgiven the betrayal … But with my spinal cord I felt that everything was not the same between us. Yes, and sex life has become completely different, cold and rare, despite the efforts on both his part and mine. Later he confessed to me that the knowledge that I was with another man terribly prevented him from going for true intimacy with me. That is, in his heart he did not forgive betrayal, although outwardly he was adequate and sweet. Well, it all ended nevertheless in divorce.

I once told a guy that I had changed (there were kisses in the moonlight on a warm summer evening, there was no sex). My boyfriend then went to college in another city, and I visited my grandmother in the summer. Some devil pulled me six months later to tell him about it. Conscience, damn it, tortured me. Nightmare … Tore, metal … But forgiven, of course. An already jealous guy turned into a maniacal jealous … And I stupidly drew a lesson for myself: never under any circumstances tell, and even if you are caught by the hand, you always have to stand your ground! My opinion: if a girl is cheating, then it means that she is simply looking for a replacement for herself, and not for entertainment, as it usually happens with men … (My case was just a test of childhood love, I was crazy about that guy from the first grade, and then there was such a chance, so I tried it. You never know, but suddenly fate was).

Previously, at every opportunity, he reminded me of my betrayal, after about 4 months he stopped doing that, it is clear that he did not forget, he remembers, but he does not hurt so much, the wound healed. And yet, I also forgave him when he physically cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend. But still a shiver comes when I remember that situation. Cheating out of revenge is not an option.

I changed at the very beginning of the relationship. We still did not love each other, and the relationship was incomprehensible, not strong … I, of course, am not looking for excuses for myself, it turned out how it happened. I was silent for a year, but I couldn’t take longer, it bothered me very much. I knew that I could never do this to my beloved again! And she wanted to confess, and was afraid that she would not forgive … As a result, she could no longer carry it in herself and told a year later …

The next day I came to him, we talked … He forgave me, said that he loved me.

My friend for 13 years had a lover, her husband knew and loved her more and more, did not say a word. He loved her, but respected her and admitted that she might have her weaknesses. She was an excellent hostess, wonderful children. And what do you think: the lover's roof has gone, by itself the relationship has ended. And my friend and her husband have a wonderful relationship. And she always appreciated him, he is a very good person and a valuable specialist. And she didn't work. She sat at home, the lover had his own business, which did not require a constant presence somewhere, he just came to her or she to him. Moreover, he was at all their birthdays, including children's, holidays. He was a man of their circle, everyone knew him, as well as the fact that he was her lover. With many, she discussed all these relationships. The children said that this is my mother's friend.

I had such a situation that I cheated on my man. And after that she herself told him about it! Of course, at first he was very aggressive, but after a month he came and said that he loved me and was ready to forgive me everything!

Still, it is better not to take such steps, because a beloved man may not forgive treason.