Ice and fire

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

What do women usually talk about in a circle of close friends? Yes, about ours, about a close soul and body: loved ones, husbands, children.

I have been in touch with my girls for 5 years. It never happens that someone hides something from someone. Sitting over a martini in the kitchen, we always go through all the latest news, the main topic of which is often sex. And problems, and joys, and successes, and embarrassment - and laughter, and sin, and tears. I don’t even remember how long ago the talk “about it” began, but what was immediately noticed was the strange stiffness and silence of Masha, a beautiful brunette with huge eyes and an excellent figure. The men always ran after her, and for some reason she was from them. I do not remember a single intimate detail that poured out of her mouth.

Nobody somehow touched upon the topic of her "strange behavior" and did not go into details.

Each of us has a "nickname", so to speak, which has been awarded either by life or by circumstances. So, we called her "Saint Mary".

About a year ago, I began to notice more and more how she went either to the bathroom, or "to call", or came up with another reason, when our chatter smoothly flowed into stormy explanations of the last details of intimacy. Someone got a lover, someone changed a partner, someone bought an interesting book in a stall and quoted the most "poignant" passages.

Somehow in the arsenal of new videos of Oksanka (a free young lady at whose apartment we always gathered) "light pornography" or "heavy erotica" appeared, somewhere in the XXL region. To be honest, we have never practiced watching such films in an exclusively ladies' society before. But once you have to try it !!!

Marya blushed deeply after 10 minutes of the painting, and after another 10 minutes flew into the bath - she felt bad. I don't know how we managed to get her to open the door and, after a decent dose of martini, get her talking.

It turned out that in childhood (early childhood) she was frightened by an exhibitionist, since then she has been haunted by the fear of any man. She is still innocent, although she has the desire and strength of purely physiological needs.

Here you sit and think about what to say in such a situation! We were, of course, shocked. Each began to offer some of its own options - the phones of psychologists, sex therapists, and so on. It is clear that all advice from the heart is good, but advice is answers to questions that we ask ourselves, moreover, answers that we ourselves know, but we do not like.

The next day she came to me and said that she had made up her mind. There is one amazing guy who has been achieving it for six months. I, of course, overwhelmed her with all sorts of advice, parting words, such as: "Do not be afraid! He will understand. A clever man knows that innocent ladies are a" tabula race "and the opportunity, having shown themselves, to remain in the memory" the most ". He has been waiting for this for a long time - why are you shaking. Speak frankly, explain - everything will be okay!"

And in the evening she appeared like death, still a scythe in his hands - and an exact copy.

- What's the matter? What happened? - one of the facets of my sensitivity is compassion.

- Nothing!

- How's nothing? I can see that something has happened!

- Nothing!!!

- You … you were … in short, you gave yourself to him?

- No!!!

- Yes, tell me everything! - I begin to scare her detachment and deathly pallor, I myself fall into a "quiet" panic. - Did you tell him?

- Yes, she did!

- So what???!!!

- Nothing!

- How's nothing? - I understand that I am almost yelling at the whole apartment.

- He didn't say anything … he just laughed!

- Just now ?!

- Laughed … laughed … whinnied like a horse !!!

She cowered, lowered her head and began to cry, at first quietly, then so that I could not stand it.

I don’t know, I’m always hurt by other people's problems, but I’ve never had such tantrums. I was just stunned by that mental trauma, as if they insulted me and humiliated me.

- Freak, asshole, moron, moron, moron! - all unformatted vocabulary is not enough to drown out this blow.

After successful soldering with valocordin, my mother brought us to a "satisfactory" state. Still, sometimes it is necessary to ask for advice from the elders, none of us guessed that first of all "experience", and then our theories about what and how can turn out.

She disappeared for six months. Nothing is heard, no one is visible, no one knows anything. Suspicions of a "light" character did not somehow enter our heads, and we simply did not bother each other with questions during the next "tea parties".

For about 2 months they did not meet at all. And last week she called and invited everyone to the wedding.

Here is a rat - do they do that ?!

They do it when the mountain is off the shoulders and the wings grow.

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And now a few facts.

Virginity - the lack of this person in the past and present sexual intercourse; in literature, art, everyday life is often used as a synonym for chastity. Traditionally, female virginity implies anatomical virginity, that is, the presence of an intact hymen and non-participation in sexual intercourse. There are cases when, due to the anatomical features of the hymen, sexual intercourse is performed without violating its integrity. In such cases, the woman is not considered a virgin. On the other hand, with traumatic or instrumental damage to the hymen, when there is no anatomical criterion for virginity, but there was no sexual intercourse, we can talk about the preservation of virginity. Male virginity has no anatomical criteria; a man who has not had heterosexual or homosexual intercourse is considered a virgin. There are doubtful cases when a person does not have a full-fledged sex life, but uses its alternative forms. It remains controversial whether a man who does not have sex but who practices masturbation is a virgin, or whether a woman with a preserved hymen, who has never had conventional sexual intercourse, but who practices petting or other forms of coitus, is considered a virgin. There is no final and consensual opinion whether to consider virgin women, initially practicing, only homosexual contacts or using blowjob.

At all times, the attitude towards virginity was different. There were cultures in history in which it had no social significance. Christianity, on the other hand, elevated the virginity and chastity of women into a cult, considered sexual intercourse permissible only within the framework of an official marriage and with the sole purpose of procreation. Currently, in connection with the rethinking of the scale of moral values and with the recognition of the full right to existence of many alternative forms of sexual life, the concept of virginity is becoming vague. Sex life, while continuing to perform the function of procreation, now serves to a greater extent for recreation, that is, relaxation, removal of emotional, mental, sexual tension, and sexual satisfaction of a person. This influenced the significance and content of the concept of virginity. The test results reveal a high percentage of young people who approve of sexual premarital relationships.

British researchers, who surveyed seven thousand students of general education schools, concluded that many adolescents who had an early sex life today regret it. Scientists posted a report on the work done in the May issue of the British Medical Journal.

Almost 20 percent of boys and 15 percent of girls admitted that they had their first intimacy before the age of 14. However, only 60 percent of them used any method of contraception. About a third of girls and more than a quarter of boys said that they regretted such an early loss of virginity.

For many girls, the main reason for regret about early sex was the pressure they felt from their partner. Many young men confessed that they too insistently demanded physical intimacy from their beloved and regret their rudeness.

It is indicative that a considerable number of schoolchildren entered into their first intimacy in a state of alcoholic intoxication or under the influence of drugs.