Online addiction

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Sunday afternoon was hopelessly ruined, even with a walk in the park and dinner with excellent young wine. Midnight. It's time to relax, talk about the eternal and the beautiful, and move on to … well, you know, … Bummer! My beloved turned on the computer and simply disappeared into the ocean of the forum … There, on the forum, a whole party gathered on Sunday evening, life was in full swing. But I ceased to exist for him …

I had an infinite amount of time until the morning, and I began to ponder why communication with me, so alive and real, is worse than a virtual one ?! The first and only thing that came to my mind was that people simply have nothing to do, so they hang out.

In the morning I woke up with some sediment in my soul and decided to find out what was the matter? You might think I'm an old and callous prude. Far from it! The first confirmation of this is the article on Cleo! I wrote this phrase and broke off. Squeaked "ICQ", I answered my friend. We are sure to write off with her every evening. She left for Israel and misses Moscow very much. For her, I am part of the city and youth. Then not a day passed without us walking the dogs together. Now you don't easily go to visit, so at least take a drink, wash yourself.

By the way, email is the first thing I check, including my computer. I am often sent important materials, documents or just cute postcards. And there was love on the phone. Once my husband and I ended up at different ends of Moscow at night and arranged a romantic date. We called each other and in a single burst lit candles, put out the lights and poured wine into glasses. It didn't come to sex - there were too many good toasts. So I can easily understand correspondence communication. But only with familiar people, when there is no way to see. It is completely incomprehensible to me how you can sit for hours in front of the monitor, without even approximately imagining the voice, facial expressions, gestures of the interlocutor!

Although if ICQ blinks and avatars are unchanged, someone needs it!

How do you become forumists?

Like every person who has pressed the Internet connection button for the first time, you will definitely go through the stages of getting into online addiction … You go to the forum and love everyone, you feel like the center of the universe. Then, having mastered the virtual space, you either get fed up and enter only when necessary, or you stay there. In the latter case, the virtual world becomes real. In this world, everything is like in the present: dating, conflicts, love and even weddings. Almost everyone can find their other half here. Everything is much simpler and most importantly, forever and without responsibilities. So the people come off, feeling sheer impunity!

Who are they?

All forumists can be divided into three categories. The former are simply killing time sitting at work. The second need to find some useful information, and they climb on the forums from time to time to consult with knowledgeable people. And finally, the last ones. These people use every opportunity to get into the Internet and reply to friends-forumists. The first two categories are quite normal and self-realized people.

In thematic forums on statistics, only 30 percent are women, more than half are people under 25. Therefore, if you want to be noticed and heard, you must enter under a woman's name. Knowledgeable men deliberately choose their female names. Very often same-sex acquaintances are tied between them, even weddings happened. By the way, this phenomenon is quite common on the Internet. People do this not at all out of great love, but for the sake of a joke. Usually in life online addicts deprived of the attention of the opposite sex. Or offended by the attention of someone living nearby.

By the way, on the World Wide Web, on each of its nodes there are special dating forums. Everything is seriously organized and thought out there. Before entering it, you will have to fill out a questionnaire. Thinking of getting away with age and gender? No, it's not that simple. You will need to indicate the size of the chest, waist, hips, legs, height, weight, hair color and length, eye color, skin color. As additional information, biography facts, musical and literary preferences, as well as the presence of children and living space are welcome. Dating takes place exclusively on this profile. The second stage is no less important. You choose when you're ready to meet. There are several options to choose from: every morning, weekend morning, Tuesday and Thursday afternoon, Saturday afternoon. Such combinations for any employment (note: any marital status). No snot-drooling for you. Everything is concrete. You choose your object and make an appointment. Then you meet and.. And here real life already begins. I liked it - I was lucky, I didn't like it - bye-bye.

About 90 percent of dating has no follow-up in real life. People meet, even live together for some time, but still disperse.

Specialist comment

"People who sit in chats and forums," says psychologist Inna Diaghileva, "are often not realized or modest. Some have already suffered more than one fiasco in their personal lives. Often people with physical disabilities communicate in forums: lame, oblique, deaf, fat Due to their dissimilarity, it is difficult for them to find friends and just those with whom they could communicate. In the virtual world they live what is not given to live in life. A normal person will not spend life on the Internet when there are a lot of temptations in real life. Many of them on the Internet pretend to be who they would like to be. To illustrate, I want to quote a statement published on one of the forums: "And I also thought: maybe it is convenient to enter with different" nicknames "(pseudonym - approx. author), everyone can be allowed one thing that the soul asks for: one clever, another fool, one gallant knight, another gloomy boor … "People in life need to hide behind conventions, and not allow one of the qualities to dominate. illusion about myself and nothing else. You do not see the interlocutor, and he does not see you, no one will ever check who you really are. It is possible that people, on the contrary, open up too much and appear completely naked."

Why everyone is happy, but without a happy ending?

In the network, the relationship is really developing very well. AND online addiction comes imperceptibly and there is a completely legitimate explanation for this. First, people come in with a certain mood. Only when they are focused on communication. Secondly, at first you can observe people from the outside and tune in to the wave of your potential interlocutor, understand what he likes more and how you can captivate him. And the circle of friends can also be chosen. Thirdly, on the Internet, communication takes place only in writing. It's always easier to write. The person at the other end does not see your lively reaction, but you can throw a neutral phrase and you can understand his reaction from the answer. In addition, we choose expressions according to our chosen image. But the greatest charm of the Internet is that at any time you can turn off the button and no one will ever know what is hidden behind your belligerent or peaceful avatar (the picture next to your "nickname").