Beautiful girls are cool

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

An entertaining evening in the company of a friend with whom it is fun to chat, to smoke a hookah thoughtfully and to hug innocently ended with approximately such a dialogue. The morning before dawn came unexpectedly and was sobering with the phrase: "I would never have thought that you can take off your friend's clothes." Oh yes, dear, yes - friends are needed for something completely different …

How often do we want to be liked! We try to be charming, a little moody, a little thoughtful, but sincere - beautiful girls - funny … We attract many men, not expecting favors from nature, for taking them is our first priority. We allow ourselves a lot, including not worrying about the "conventional". We allow ourselves to be anyone - whatever we like. We allow ourselves to be funny. A funny girl who is overgrown with acquaintances, meetings, relationships, like a spring tree with lush foliage. This is how male friends appear in our lives, unable to resist our charms, but also not turning into our beloved. After all, is passion possible in half with irony?..

Surprisingly, many psychologists believe that a sense of humor is the first enemy of falling in love. “Now I want to meet not just a beautiful woman, but a woman who can make me laugh,” the hero of “Sex and the City” said approximately so; but he was cunning. What is allowed for a character on the show for women is not allowed for a real man. And it just does not come to mind, arranged in a completely unfeminine way. And more likely, this is what will come:

"I really appreciate the sense of humor in women, but this is a clear sign of intelligence. And if this intelligence is extraordinary, then it is almost unnatural to be in the same bed with its owner", - the opinion of Vladislav, 32 years old.

"We have known Anya for a thousand years: she is funny, easy to talk to, perceptive. Last year we became lovers, quite by accident. But I cannot perceive her as a lover - there are no secrets between us, there are no forbidden topics, there is no serious relationship." - Igor, 27 years old.

"A sexy woman can't be funny. If she makes you laugh or, worse, plays ironic mind games, she's certainly gorgeous. And beautiful girls - funnybut unwanted. Of course, things are different at first. But then it becomes so sorry to lose an interesting interlocutor in her face that it is easier to find another mistress, "- the opinion of Anton, 35 years old.

So, funny girl:

Whether this definition applies to you is easy to understand. Without hesitation, choose the answer that is closest to you.

a) heterosexual;

b) metrosexual;

c) one and a half metrosexual.

a) can I kiss you;

b) you know, I would like to try more like this …

c) dear, if you are going to leave, take your trash with you.

a) how wonderful you are;

b) how unique he is;

c) what girl he met yesterday.

If your answers are mostly last options, congratulations: you are a textbook funny girl. Hmm, what if you feel completely different? If you would like to be languid, mysterious and charming, and not funny at all? If you want passion, not friendship?

There are recipes! Although laborious

1. Give up the initiative if possible. Don't make appointments, don't start conversations, don't be the leader. Then the man will feel like a conqueror and will not relax, discussing with you someone other than you.

2. Do not comment on his words. Before you say anything, try to mentally count to ten. Ideally, your reaction should boil down to "yes, honey", "okay, honey", "whatever you say, so be it, honey."

3. Do not notice the reasons for the joke. First, learn not to be ironic, then - not to smile at your thoughts. Avoid non-verbal communication: use only direct agreements without any nuances.

4. Take offense. Not everything can be understood, as you thought before, there are egregious things. Asking you to evaluate the sexuality of a naked girl on his monitor is not normal.

5. Introduce the healthy principle "you - me, I - you". Do not allow yourself any altruistic gestures. Forget that giving orchids to a man in the middle of the night ("and for what? - just like that") is a spectacular and soul-warming artistic action.

Oh, and this is just the beginning. After all, you will have to change a lot in yourself, and most importantly, your individuality. This is probably not always a bad thing: some values are inevitably replaced by others. Remember the old Funny Girl movie? In the finale, the heroine of Barbara Streisand becomes a loving, beloved, mature and extremely unfunny woman. It would seem a happy ending. But something sad creeps into the soul, and it becomes pity for the other - funny and a little ridiculous - but loved first of all by herself, and not by a man.

Maybe you shouldn't get rid of the funny girl? Pretty girls are cool or maybe she is the best that we have? Maybe she - scary to say - the embodiment of our freedom?.. Besides, the opportunity to be yourself is such a rare pleasure. A juicy cherry on top of a cold crème brulee …