Misunderstandings in relationships

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Women have many claims to men. And rarely does any of us resist the temptation to bring down the whole stream of our discontent on a poor man's head. For what, for what, and we cannot be accused of secrecy. You readily inform your man that he has scattered socks all over the room again, emptied the contents of the teapot past the bucket and stuck the TV remote control somewhere. And only in one area do we keep an unapproachable silence. When it comes to the intimate sphere, you just can't get a word out of us. But after all misunderstanding in relationships, unlike socks and garbage, men listen to this information very willingly and almost always meet our wishes.

1. Neither gasp nor sigh

Every time you try to take the "steering wheel" into your own hands and take a dominant position from above, your man seizes the initiative, throws you onto your back, and then everything develops according to his program.

What does it mean? This means that in front of you is a person with a leader complex. He is afraid of losing the initiative and letting the situation out of control. Having got used to dispose of everything and everyone, he, willingly or unwillingly, transfers this relationship to the bedroom.

What should you do. Try to explain to him that in this way he does not give you the opportunity to prove your love to him. And if, in addition to the bed, other areas of your life also begin to fall under control, flee until you are left with horns and legs.

2. And there is silence around

In the heat of passionate love, you want to hear words of love and admiration. Instead, strained panting and unromantic puffing delights your ears.

What does it mean? Yes, yes, this is how men are arranged that at the moment of "crossing of arms, crossing of legs, of crossing souls" they can only pant and sniff. They are so focused on the process itself that they are simply not able to conduct small talk at the same time. And an attempt to show gallantry, alas, can cost them sexual arousal.

What should you do. Let your partner shut up at this crucial moment. But if even after the "process" he is unable to squeeze out a couple of affectionate words from himself - it is worth thinking.

3. Conditional reflex

As soon as you decide to do your housework and grab the broom, He immediately grabs you, and everything happens right on the dirty floor next to the broom. The initial acuteness of sensations is gradually replaced by slight irritation (the floor is not swept away all the time) and some fear of picking up household utensils.

What does it mean? Spontaneity may well become a pattern. A couple of repetitions are enough for this. The first time sex in an elevator can give a lot of new sensations. But the second time, from fears that you will be "caught", you can easily get a nervous breakdown.

What should you do. Try to hint to your partner that it's time to come up with something new, otherwise everything is somehow in "planes and planes." It is best to try to alternate regular "bed" sex with new ideas.

4. Guess three times

You are trying in every possible way to hint to him that you have long dreamed of having sex on the kitchen table, and He persistently pulls you into the bath, although it is wet, slippery and generally disgusting there.

What does it mean? It means that your hints do not reach him. Men hardly decipher our "messages", this must be reckoned with. To your meaningful: "Something I'm cold" he can seriously offer his sweater.

What should you do. Speak directly. And then your misunderstanding in relationships will not lead to anything good. Don't mislead your partner with florid phrases and veiled wishes. You will save a lot of nerves both for yourself and for him if you express yourself as accurately as possible. True, you should not overdo it either. Don't go over to the commanding tone. Phrases: "Do this!", "Don't do this!", "Faster!", "Hush!" - inappropriate in the bedroom.

5. Past and thoughts …

Three years ago, he wanted you always and everywhere. And now only occasionally, and even then somehow sluggish and boring. You seductively put your foot out from under the blanket, and He, lazily kissing you on the cheek, turns to the wall and a minute later falls asleep to the baby.

What does it mean? Time is not sex's best friend. Over the course of the past years, the acuteness of sensations is lost. And instead of "African passions" everything is somehow more drawn to lie on the couch, watch TV, read a detective story.

What should you do. Try to make changes to the usual mode. Meet your husband in the evening from work not in a dressing gown with a plate of cutlets, but in a seductive bodysuit, stockings and, of course, stilettos. Light the candles, pour the champagne, turn on the quiet music. I think a stormy night will be provided for you.

6. Early ordeals

You are one of those people for whom "the morning is never good." And just at that moment, when you are trying with difficulty to open your eyes and in every possible way delaying the moment of parting with a warm blanket, He pounces on you with the fury of a wild tiger and the fury of a primitive man.

What does it mean? More than half of men experience a surge of strength and desire in the morning. And a rare woman can boast of the same. First, because I really want to sleep. Secondly, in the morning we are usually not fully armed. And, thirdly, you need to have time to have breakfast, make the bed and apply make-up, and all these procedures take a lot of time.

What should you do. You should not absolutely categorically deny your beloved in the morning joys. Suggest to alternate night sex with morning sex or postpone "this thing" to the morning of the day off.

7. Maundy Thursday

Every time a passion suddenly overtakes you, you rush into the shower with a powerful jerk to put all the necessary places in order. But He does not at all share such a desire for cleanliness, and even your "hygienic" impulses irritate him pretty much.

What does it mean? Maybe you are not very confident in yourself and it seems to you that without brushing your teeth or rinsing other parts of your body, you will push your partner away with unpleasant odors.

What should you do. Whatever one may say, but the partner has a reason to be unhappy. With your "demarche" you deprive him of the pleasure of enjoying sudden, unplanned sex. What a surprise, if you have to wait for your partner to take a shower, rub herself with lotions, style her hair, etc. In addition, as polls show, for 99% of men (straight men) "the smell of a woman" is not unpleasant. They are much less satisfied when "from there" it smells of strawberries, vanilla and other perfumes. Cleanliness, of course, is a guarantee of health, but sometimes you can forget about hygiene and surrender to feelings and emotions to the fullest.

In all ages there has been misunderstanding in relationships and if you have something to say - say it. Not to mom, not to a friend, not to a neighbor, but to the person with whom you go to bed every day and are going to do this, at least for the next few years.