A little over 30: the age of important changes

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-15 15:29

The 30 candles on the birthday cake didn't make me happy at all. I was worried about the coming changes.

Upon learning of this, my mother said: “Take it for granted - they are inevitable. And you shouldn't be afraid of them."

But I, of course, did not obey. And only later I was able to be convinced from my own experience: 30 years is just another round in development. Parting with an easy and cheerful youth and a new life stage filled with important events.

Briefly about personal

Already at the age of 20, I began to wring my hands in despair at the thought that in just ten winters this difficult transition awaited me. Transformation from a girl with her dreams, grandiose plans and any lack of responsibility into a "lady" in whose life there is nothing but work, household chores and sadness for the lost youth.

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But I had to cross the 30-year-old milestone. Soon many of my close friends and just friends followed me. And what is surprising - nothing terrible happened to us!

On the contrary, many of us:

- voluntarily assumed responsibility for another person: created families and became mothers;

- with tripled enthusiasm and energy, we took up the maintenance of physical fitness and health;

- suddenly switched from career and professional growth to creativity and spiritual development;

- felt a craving for those hobbies that seemed frivolous at the age of 20, and succeeded in this.

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It turned out that there is life beyond thirty, too, and what is more: bright, cheerful, intense, but no longer reckless and unbridled.

The accumulated experience now helps to make the right decisions, instead of leaving the vigor of body and spirit - to rush into "balanced" adventures and enjoy them without consequences.

And most importantly, we continue to develop, grow, learn new things, master the unexplored. Life did not stop and dim, did not come down to everyday issues and maniacal fear for children, to loneliness and disappointment - inalienable, as it seemed at the age of 20, companions of "mature youth."

How can you continue to live fully and enjoy all the benefits of the new age? It's simple. We need to prepare for the changes that the G30 brings with it.

As a rule, the main changes during this time are taking place in the areas of physical and psychological health.

Health after 30

This age is no longer a carefree youth, but not an approaching old age! My friends call this age "flourishing", "golden mean", "the height of the holiday" and "blooming summer of life." And I agree with them.

I don’t deny that the 30th birthday brings with it some physical changes. But it's easy to adapt to them if you take care of your health. This attitude towards yourself will make you feel vigorous and active for a very long time.

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So, after 30, a woman needs to pay special attention to:

• On the condition of the chest and genitourinary system. If previously there were no problems in these areas, it is enough to make it a rule to visit a gynecologist and mammologist once every six months.
• For the presence and frequency of headaches. Many women "over 30" complain about too frequent "meetings" with them. The reasons are commonplace: regular physical and emotional stress, a sedentary lifestyle, blood stagnation in the collar zone, a changed hormonal background, taking contraceptives.

An excellent prevention is to make it a rule to go to the gym twice a week, spend one day off with friends "dancing", eat vegetables and fruits, read 10 pages of a book before going to bed and train your eyesight for 10 minutes every day: look out the window, translating look at the horizon, then at closely spaced objects.

The level of iron in the blood. Lack of it is called anemia. And this diagnosis is also common in women after 30.

Symptoms of iron deficiency - muscle weakness, general loss of strength, decreased immunity, dry skin, brittle nails and hair loss - are experienced by almost every third representative of the weaker sex.

Doctors have only one piece of advice for this: regularly take iron supplements, eat beef, beans and lentils, eggs, broccoli and dried apricots.

On the condition of the skin of the face. It can fade and become flabby. Many of my friends complain about these so-called signs of early aging.

These symptoms are a signal to the body that it is in dire need of vitamins and antioxidants, fluids, adequate rest and sleep.

In order not to join the ranks of “aging early”, I drink fresh juices and green tea every day, eat one fresh fruit or vegetable and a lot of greens and drink at least one and a half liters of clean water.

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Naturally, I radically revised my daily routine, abandoning "night vigils" for work or fun and allocating additional time for sleep and relaxation.

Psychological aspect

But what do psychologists say about crossing the threshold of 30 years? Basically, they are convinced that it is not worth attaching too much importance to this figure. And in this I completely agree with them.

Yes, in the psyche of a woman during this period, there are serious changes. And a positive attitude towards them will in many ways be the key to a harmonious transition to a new level of life.

There are several main points that prevent a woman from "correctly" treating her age. If you realize them, it will be easy and pleasant to exchange your fourth dozen.

« It's time to already know everything about yourself and decide!"- this is how a friend recently exclaimed in response to my doubts about the next vacancy that captivated me.

However, from her remark, "knowledge" did not come. I just felt ashamed of my "adult" age and such insignificant knowledge about my capabilities.

And now, it would seem, a vicious circle: shame, disappointment, despondency and inaction, which causes self-pity and … shame again. But it is easy to get out of it - it turned out that it is enough to accept the fact that it is impossible to know everything about yourself at any age! And I immediately stopped putting labels on my life: "this is a dead end!" or "things are not going according to the scenario."

If you think that everything you experienced, created and achieved was in vain, you need to immediately … breathe out. And then try to see yourself from the outside and understand that doubts and anxiety are a temporary state of mind that is normal for a person of any age. Therefore, to be tormented by them or not is your personal choice.

At 30, some of my acquaintances suddenly decided reconsider your life values … They removed some from the pedestal and erected others. Often the opposite.

But have they become happier? I have never received an affirmative “yes” to this question.

Yes, at this age, many are taken for summing up large-scale results in the professional, family, personal plans and … regret the missed opportunities.

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Two very popular misconceptions are especially common in this situation: a woman does not become a Woman if by the age of 30 she has not given birth to a child and has not realized herself in the professional sphere.

These erroneous judgments do not bring anything good, but only an acute rejection of the current life situation in general, dissatisfaction with the environment, lack of joy in relation to oneself …

The result of following these social cliches can be real depression

Only the understanding that such a view of life, to put it mildly, is biased, will save her from it. You can deceive yourself and devalue your life experience as much as you want, but all those numerous examples of how women become mothers after 30 and make a brilliant career continue to be obvious. And you don't need to go far for them, just look around.

But the most important thing is that at 30 you have the opportunity to do exactly what you have always wanted. After all, now your tastes and interests have finally taken shape.

What to do with all this?

30 years is the age of change. And the front of their offensives is obvious. It remains only to develop tactics of behavior in the new conditions of existence. For example, this:

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• Do not compare yourself and those around you, do not judge or pass judgment. Now is the time to show all your categoricalness and … accept yourself for who you are, and then continue to move forward. After all, the experience of 30 years of life gives you a deeper and more mature view of what is happening. With such a tool, making up for lost time becomes a real challenge.
• Do not withdraw into yourself. Communication with like-minded people, pleasant and attractive people to you will help not only strengthen your own positive opinion about yourself, but also broaden your horizons, get carried away with something new, both in an amateur and professional plan.
• Pay more attention to yourself and your hobbies. Enjoy every opportunity to read, watch, and listen. And make the most of it.
• Take a walk in the fresh air, pay double attention to everything that you see around, look positively at familiar things.
• Don't lose sight of your health. In addition to preventive examinations and visits to specialists, go in for sports, dancing, swimming. Physical activity will provide not only an excellent appearance, but also energize, giving rise to the desire to create, develop, master new things, just love life.
• Feel and accept that change is inevitable and even beneficial to you. 30 years is the time not only to take stock, but also to learn lessons, set new goals and move towards them.

Crossing the 30-year mark is a vital event that marks upward growth. Perhaps difficult, in places - a painful stage. Tempering, making you wiser, stronger and more enduring. And in the end - happier.