How to celebrate a wedding?

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

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On the very day when the handsome prince of blue blood saddled a white limousine, and, taking with him my friend, a green-eyed charming girl, disappeared behind the threshold of the registry office, I thought that all of us, modern, independent and self-confident girls (and this after all, this is so, right?), we are in captivity of our dreams, illusions and beliefs. And that, in fact, our dreams are not much different from each other …

The fairy tales on which we grew up are turning into reality. Sooner or later, our ideas about life come true, clearly showing how naive and romantic we were. Or how pragmatic and cynical. But at some point, life clearly shows: what is happening to you now is the result of your thoughts. Eric Berne's book "Games People Play" has triumphed all over the world, and now everyone, from an ordinary janitor to a doctor of all kinds of sciences, understands transactional analysis and knows that behavior is determined by a scenario laid down from childhood. What is the basis of the girl's desire to see herself without fail in a white robe, next to a frightened beloved, holding in her hands a bunch of roses and twigs, which will have to be thrown to unmarried girlfriends, who are also enchanted by the ceremony? And not a joke question: how to celebrate a wedding?

For starters, let's not forget about tradition. An unshakable rule is passed from generation to generation: "A decent girl should be married at least once in her life." According to information from recruiting agencies, an impressive percentage of women, filling out the questionnaire, write in the column "highest achievements in life": "Got married." And, most likely, this characterizes not an excellent sense of humor, but the primordial realities of a woman's biography. In addition, you must marry without being either a sympathetic spinster or an outrageous woman of unencumbered behavior. At a certain age, with the same misconceptions about living together, and most importantly, according to strictly defined rules. The attributes and ceremony are sacred and unchanging: a white dress, a carpet runner, a registry office worker who solemnly utters platitudes, a Mendelssohn's march that sickened, and a trip through the city center, and a restaurant where there is a chance to meet the crowd of their own relatives for the first time., - no wedding can do without it. In addition, it is customary to marry only a man, and no more than one at a time …

On that day, which many girls consider one of the most important in life, when you so want to be not only loved, but also the most beautiful, unusual and unique - brides differ from each other no more than poor sheep, which are counted for the night. That is, of course, white and fluffy, but … no zest. And at a wedding, as in life, there should always be a place for feat.

To do this, you will have to throw away all the love stories in paperbacks, ending with the passage "on her thin ring finger a gold ring has been glittering for a whole minute, and tears of happiness glistened in her wide-open eyes." Not to be imbued with great confidence in Hollywood films, where the final close-up "kissing" against the background of a kilometer-long limousine personifies the harmony of future family life. Forget all the comments of relatives of both sexes and the recommendations of friends who want the best, but advise as always. Parting words from neighbors and brochures on the topic "How to make this day unforgettable" with rhymes differing in "love-carrot" rhymes are completely contraindicated. In general, we will have to give up what we all get used to sooner or later - the standard. From formulaic dreams and incubator behavior. From being sucked into a swamp bog, comfortable "like everyone else". And although this is not at all bad, we are like everyone else - it is sad if you are like everyone else in everything …

Have you ever noticed that a wedding ceremony resembles a performance? There is a script, roles are assigned, costumes are prepared and the scenery is arranged. In some cases, there are rehearsals and dress runs, in which the nuances of the ceremony are honed. And what girl did not dream of being an actress as a child ?! In a beautiful dress, with flowers, and most importantly, in the center of attention, because she is the main character! But there is a difference between the main heroines of Mexican TV series and heroines, for example, Fellini … Some psychologists believe that the passion for theatrical ritual acts arises from the feeling of everyday life. And they warn against the typical mistake of the newlyweds: to replace the individual content of the relationship with a typical form of the ceremony.

But after all, every bride is going to marry not a typical representative of the middle strata of the population, but the very best man in the world. And you yourself are not at all the standard young lady from the advertising of toothpaste! Therefore, in choosing the style in which you want to spend your wedding day, it is better to focus on your - and your chosen one - individual preferences.

And then it just turns out that there is no and cannot be any advice on "how to celebrate a wedding," because every union of a man and a woman is unique. You can only try to come up with an idea that suits you best. After conducting a small survey among newlyweds, I found such

Non-canon wedding options:

1.excellent

Immediately after registration, you take to the skies in a small plane, taking with you a bottle of champagne and parachutes. And, circling over the beauties, make your wedding jump! Just do not forget that this requires not only the courage of the immediate performers of the jump, but also the strong nervous system of friends and relatives awaiting your landing. And, in addition, it is necessary to undergo preliminary instructions and try not to confuse anything in the wedding excitement. But the result is impressive.

2.natural

The whole crowd of cheerful guests go to the forest, set up tents and kindle a fire. Boil mulled wine in a boiler. Instead of a white dress - white sneakers. On the head, instead of artificial flowers, there are dandelions. Mendelssohn's March is played on the guitar, everyone who is not lazy kisses to the shouts of "bitterly", you sunbathe, the groom collects fly agarics. In short, a field-wedding idyll. In the evening, ribbons, bells and a sign are hung on the wedding tent: “Caution! The only thing is that for this method you yourself must love a free life without a jacuzzi and have appropriate friends available. Uncomplicated, inexpensive, unusual.

3.naturist

In summer, you can go to the nudist beach, at other times of the year - to the sauna. Of the clothes, the bride is wearing only a veil, the groom is wearing a tie or bow tie. Towels are at guests' disposal. The ceremony is as follows: steam, bathed, raised glasses, made a toast, kissed the bride. They told the guests a legend that a new family life would begin with the purification of body and spirit. The method is good because it is not only unconventional, but also good for health. Only, firstly, a large number of naked friends can look frightening, and secondly, it is important not to get carried away with ancient pagan rituals and not indulge in sin. Otherwise, the wedding will turn out to be too unforgettable …

4.individual

No guests, just you and him. Also waiters and musicians. It is possible in a pre-rented restaurant, in a cozy house on the river bank or on the deck of a deserted ship … Velvet wine, bright candles, violin music … Gentle hugs, quiet conversations, sincere promises … it turned out that they had absolutely nothing to do in each other's company. Not cheap, romantic, calm.

And how to celebrate a wedding and whatever wedding style you choose, remember that it determines the way of your future life. And it shows how much there will be a place for creativity …