Husband's friends are like a curse. Life stories

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Sometimes the husband's friends can be a real problem for the wife. They drag him off to go for a walk in nightclubs. They gather in the family nest and have drunks. They shoot money and need help all the time, and when the husband needs help, they are not around. Etc. So, what should you do if people often appear in your husband's life that you definitely don't like? Read life stories.

Dangerous buddy

A friend with whom they had not seen for 20 years showed up at my husband's. This comrade was sitting (it seemed like he was framed), when he came out, he did not communicate with her husband (I suspect, because everything in his life was good).

Phoned, found. First meeting (fortunately, I went with my husband). Just as an indicator. Friend: “Come to my dacha in Khimki. Let's sit smartly. I will introduce my family”. We are coming. With goodies (bottle of whiskey and pineapple). There is nothing on the table. The people don't even have cigarettes, they were shooting mine. Then my husband drank it and gave his friend some money. A taxi was immediately called for a trip to the store. Along the way, it turned out that the dacha was not a friend at all, but one young girl who in a completely indirect way refers to this family (the girl of a stepson's friend). And this friend was crucified, showing us the site, that he was tired of all this and he would sell it in the near future. This was the first meeting. His subsequent communication with my husband was hell for me. As a result, the man was completely cut off. When he already owed my husband 400 thousand rubles, then my dear could not stand it. I neatly followed up on the phone calls of this friend. He told me that I was a fool, a girl of easy virtue and jealous of my husband towards him. He said that he would have all our money.

By the way, this person is very pleasant to talk to. Educated. Cute. Very religious (seemingly). He constantly boasts of how he got married with his wife in Paris. Into the furnace of such friends. And my husband is also a naive fool, he believed that now he is the best friend for this type, and was ready to give him everything he had.

Bottle for three

He and his friends had fun in the evenings to go to a cafe and drink a bottle of vodka for three. When we started meeting, he was with me in the evenings, then he drove home, and on the way "quite by accident" he met his friends and went with them to that cafe.

I don’t know for whom how, but for me, drinking alcoholic beverages 3-4 times a week is drunkenness. When I first said that, apparently, we were not on the way, he thought that I was joking, and a couple of days later he went to drink again. And the second time I got into it.

Now we meet with friends on weekends, we go to watch football or invite them to our place. Fortunately, there are no drunks every other day.

An effective trick

There are such "makeweights" from idle times. It all depends on people, their preferences and behavior. With my ex, I did one trick twice and got rid of two of his friends. The situation made me angry that these friends of my husband came to visit us without warning, with drinks, girlfriends …

About one I told his wife that he urged me to “have dinner” … After that, his relationship with our family soured once and for all, because I was a “lying rubbish” for him, and for my wife - “rubbish, which she encroached on husband . I give a way! 100% effective.

When the intensity of their communication decreased, I told my husband that his friend drunken repeatedly drove me up to me, invited me to dinner, invited me on a trip. There was no way to check it, but if I told it “in a fit of frankness”, they believed me.

Show interest in them

From my own experience, there is no better way than to make your husband jealous. Moreover, it is not even necessary to flirt, it is enough to emphasize the dignity of these friends several times (preferably exactly what the husband considers his most valuable qualities). A couple of times to initiate their invitation myself … And that's it, the husband himself will not want to see them.

Obsessive friendship

My husband had such a "friend". At first I thought he was nothing like that. And then there was a lot of him in our life, he constantly came to us, then he just called my husband and dragged him away for the whole day to solve some of his problems. I already quietly hated him. Once we had houses, he began to jokingly prove to me that a wife is not important, and friends are eternal and will not go anywhere. It just finished me off, the more it became, the more we had quarrels with my husband. It was a nightmare. I saw the person through and through and tried to explain to my husband that he was a rotten person, but he did not understand. I slowly dripped on his brain, expressing my opinion about this subject with examples from life (I had a lot of them, because this type has practically already settled with us). And then a friend of my husband just stupidly threw money, arrived on the day of her husband's paycheck and asked her for an urgent matter, knowing that besides this money there are simply no others in the house. And he did not give it away. Then it dawned on her husband. The "friend" came up with excuses not to return the money, then he simply stopped taking the phone, then changed the number and did a lot of other nasty things. As a result, my husband said that I was so right, and poured all the other “friends” into the same place as this comrade, finally listening to my assessments of their personalities and realizing that I was not mistaken in any case. And subsequently, all these people only confirmed by their actions what I thought about them. Now we live happily, and my husband believes that there is a family, and he does not need all these friends, because he never saw anything good from them.

Show him an alternative

I did nothing to stop my communication with friends. My husband gradually got tired of the same conversations on the same topics with friends: the game "Warcraft", beer and that's it. My husband graduated from university, wrote a diploma, I helped him, introduced him to interesting people from the field of music directing (which he really wants to do) and then began to notice that my husband began to communicate much less with previous friends, perhaps outgrown. At the same time, I never said that I didn't like my husband's friends. And I didn’t like them, because the guys didn’t develop and, in my opinion, they were morally degrading: casual sex, beer and “Warcraft” - this is the meaning of life!

And they called and still call her husband "the henpecked" and "henpecked".

Moral: distract and show an alternative.

Does your man have many friends?

	Yes, complete.
	There are a couple of relatives.
	He has one good friend.
	Probably not.

Real check

Themselves resolved on the sly after the birth of the child. It was too lazy to buy gifts and help with the child, and when they came, the baby was constantly crying, it was impossible to sit in the apartment. They are tired of it. Now there are only good friends of her husband and very few.

Wedge wedge

I also somehow had such problems. I acted according to the proverb "they knock out a wedge by a wedge". She persuaded her friends, they somehow came to us and began to behave, to put it mildly, ugly. They brought a box of beer, fish, sat, neighing and discussing the men. Oddly enough, it had an effect on my husband. We later discussed this topic with him, he said that he understood how ugly it all looks from the outside.