Did you happen to sit too long? How to politely escort guests

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Perhaps a guest who has stayed up late and does not think about leaving is even worse than an uninvited one. The feast is over, the tea has long been finished, the cake is eaten, and the birds of passage all chirp and wait for the continuation of the banquet. How can you politely dismiss those who are "a little" late?

Didn't I sit too long?

"Yes, for two hours!" - I just want to answer the late guest, but instead we squeeze out something like: “No, what are you. Everything is fine". To hell with excessive politeness - take an example from the classics! Namely, from Anton Pavlovich Chekhov, who had the peculiarity of courteously answering such questions: “No, not at all. Sit for another five minutes. " True, not everyone wants to hear the second sentence, but you can always remind that five minutes have passed and it's time for someone to fly home.

Shall we take a walk?

If there is an intellectual in you who does not allow you to take and put a guest out the door, get rid of him in the most polite way - offer to take a walk. To his house or to the subway. And don't forget to call and find out how he got there! And then suddenly he will decide to return.

At home, of course, you can do without such harsh methods, but the dishes should be removed from the table.

Thank you for stopping by

Remember what the waiters in cafes or restaurants do when the clock slowly approaches closing time? That's right, they begin to defiantly flip the chairs, thereby hinting that yours will be next. At home, of course, you can do without such harsh methods, but the dishes should be removed from the table. And there the guests will understand that they have nothing more to catch from you: there will be no food, no table conversations.

What's on the menu today?

There are those guests who come ahead of time and sit longer than anyone else, afraid to miss something interesting and tasty. So that your friends do not suffer in anticipation of the next culinary delight until late at night, immediately put all the prepared dishes on the table and season them with an entertaining conversation.

I was just about to leave

You thought your friends would only be with you for a couple of hours, so you made another appointment with your childhood friend. But 4 hours have passed, and lovers of long gatherings are sitting on your sofa, starting more and more new topics of conversation. To prevent this from happening, make it immediately clear to the guests that your time is limited, and then you will not have to put anyone out the door.

Square mine, round off

There is a word of quick action that awakens good manners at a party, but at the same time does not offend their self-esteem. So the word "round off" has an extraordinary power of influence on overdue and tired friends, the main thing is to apply it in time:

We have to get up so early tomorrow … Maybe we can slowly round off?

Insert a prepared phrase when you see fit, and the result will not be long in coming!

The word "round off" has an extraordinary power of influence on overdue and fed up friends.

I'm telling you…

Everything was fine, but then a nice conversation over a cup of tea turned into a heated argument, for example, about vegetarianism, which has been going on for several hours. And here is your dear friend, who ran for only "5 minutes", desperately trying to prove to the whole world that eating meat is harmful and disrespectful to our smaller brothers. In response to all his loud words about how delicious to chew celery, nod your head, count the jackdaws outside the window, thereby showing that you are absolutely not interested in this. You will not even notice how the guest realizes that he is not understood here, and will leave, thanking him for the tea and the "wonderful" conversation.

Leave the ceremony aside

Not only did this impudent stay up until the appearance of the first star, but also his arrogant behavior leaves much to be desired. You managed to check your mail 10 times, make an "urgent" call 3 times, and the shameless guest does not want to respond to your hints. Then, without much hesitation, make it clear that someone should go home a long time ago.

Good things come in small packages

Guests who stay up until midnight are flowers compared to those who stay with you for … a few days. In order not to wake up every morning from the smell of fried herring or the screams of a news announcer, mark the boundaries of what is permissible in advance. And if this does not help, then you will have to use weapons of mass destruction: tell them that from hour to hour, distant relatives will appear on the doorstep of the apartment, who have come from the North to visit their beloved grandniece. You will see that your friends who stayed behind will be blown away by the wind, and there will be order and tranquility in your house again.

Guests who stay up until midnight are flowers compared to those who stay with you for … a few days.

Perhaps, if you do not invite boring, shameless, lovers of chatting, and those whom you know little, then you will not have to resort to any of the above methods. And, most importantly, it is worth remembering a few rules, following which you will never become an unexpected or late guest.

1. You can come to guests with a delay of 15-20 minutes, but no more. But you shouldn't come earlier.
2. Warn your friends in advance about your visit.
3. The ideal time for a visit is from 12:00 to 20:00. If you were invited, of course.
4. If friends excitedly glance at their watches, remember some business and long-planned meetings, then most likely it's time for you.