How not to fall into the pickup trap

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

All women dream of great and pure love. Everyone wants a real prince next to them - reliable, gallant, noble. Of course, a white horse can be replaced with a good car, and a palace with an apartment in the center of a metropolis, but in fact, even this is not the most important thing. The main thing is that he loved, respected, carried in his arms and - for a start - beautifully looked after. And it is precisely this weakness of ours - to admiring glances and passionate speeches - that ladies' men use, who collect their "victories" and, as a rule, disappear the very next morning after a night spent together.

These seducers are called pickups, and their movement has existed for over 15 years. Young people and men learn how to "hook" girls quickly and with the least amount of money, and then put their knowledge into practice and brag about each new name on the list of "trophies" in front of the same "hunters". It would seem that one should be born with such a skill, or, if unlucky, learn some secrets from experienced friends. However, everything is much more complicated: today, pick-up artists do not share seduction techniques in the kitchen over a glass of beer - they attend special trainings and seminars, pass exams and even receive a document confirming that now they are pick-up masters. Why do men of all ages need this (statistics say that the role of professional seducers is played by representatives of the stronger sex, on average, from 18 to 40 years old), and whether this attitude towards women makes them happy - today these are open questions. At least for us girls, in whose value system family and respect are central. And it is much more important not to understand the mental anguish of pick-up artists, but to understand how not to fall for their bait, so that one day not wake up alone and feel abandoned after the first sex.

They are original

Such a womanizer would rather start a conversation with the unexpected: "This dress suits you so well, but I am sure that without it you are even more beautiful."

Not a single pick-up artist will follow a template when meeting, and templates for them are banal phrases like: "Girl, can I meet you?" or "Can you tell me where the nofelet is?" (although the hero of the film of the same name, played by Alexander Pankratov-Cherny, can also partly be called a pick-up artist). Real professional seducers are much more inventive. Their task is to "hook" the girl from the first minute, to interest her, to sink into the soul, so to speak. Such a womanizer would rather start a conversation with the unexpected: "This dress suits you so well, but I am sure that without it you are even more beautiful" or "You have been standing here for so long, probably waiting for me." It may seem to you that the young man is extremely resourceful and original, but this is only a mask, and his phrases are memorized and have already been tested more than once in practice.

They don't spend money

Or spend them to a minimum. For pick-up artists, this is generally the height of skill - to drag a girl into bed without ever opening a purse: without paying for a cocktail in a club, without buying a bouquet of flowers, without taking her to a restaurant. Therefore, if you see that the new gentleman, as if by chance, bypasses all questions related to monetary investments, then you should think about his attitude towards you: most likely, he is either a curmudgeon or a pick-up artist. You do not need either one or the other.

Soulmates

Of course, you want to meet someone who will understand you perfectly and share your views on life. But remember all the relationships that you have ever had: unless a man, tuned in to a serious and long relationship, would rush off the bat and say that he was looking for you all his life, he dreamed about you at night and painted your portraits, even without being familiar with you. Most likely, an accomplished and adult person looks at the new lover, and he does it carefully - so that it does not hurt in case of failure. Pickupers, on the other hand, deliberately stir up passion, repeating now and then: "It seems to me that I have known you for ages, we are so similar." Be vigilant with those who, without soap, crawl into your soul, trying too quickly to "grab" a place for themselves there.

Ham and rude

Know that if a boor turns to you, then let him know that in the further conversation you do not see the point.

Most of the pick-ups are men who are courteous, polite and interesting. At least that's how they want to appear. But there are those among them who like to try out new models of behavior, since all women are different and each one needs its own approach. Some seducers deliberately start a conversation with some kind of rudeness and look at your reaction - "rolled" or not? Someone really likes it, apparently, adrenaline is not enough. Therefore, you should know: if a boor turns to you, then let him know that in the further conversation you do not see the point. Pick-up artists, as a rule, abruptly take off the mask of the "bad boy", and the real rude ones, as they were, remain so.

The magic of touch

What can we say - we, girls, sometimes enjoy the casual touches of handsome men. And the pick-up artists know this very well. Such a seducer can, as if by chance, touch you with his hand and then delay it, enhancing the effect of tactile contact, or say: "What a velvety skin you have." Needless to say, in the arsenal of pick-up artists there are still a lot of similar techniques: they can easily pat you on the back or roughly grab your "fifth point" - whoever likes what.