Swing: cheating without cheating

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

How many years have you been married? In recent years, you began to notice that feelings are dulled, sex no longer brings such pleasure, and have you forgotten what euphoria is? You are not alone. According to statistics, in half of families relations deteriorate over the years. What to do and how to deal with it? Many simply coexist, for example, for the sake of children, and the habit is stronger than love for many couples. Some people manage not to lose their feelings, someone gets a banal divorce … But there are those who fasten the bonds of marriage, bringing in them unusual, new, bold, for example, new partners.

The story is not your romance

"The agitated Olga and Anton sat in front of the phone, drilling it with their eyes. The air was filled with tension. The call. The voice of Vika, Vadik's wife, was in the receiver. usually - in a friendly way, but in a different way … With a smile on her lips Olga nodded to her husband. In this crazy world it was difficult for them to find a mate. Yes, of course, there are many clubs, but they do not always help. For them it was not easy act, but something more. And Vika and Vadik suited each other the best way possible - friendly, pleasant. This will help them find a way out of the dead end in which they once found themselves. Well, let, that this method is a little unusual ".

Every third swing pair can tell about this. Indeed, we can say that adherents of "unusual sex" are divided into those who hide their "preferences", and those who try to tell the world about how wonderful it is, and involve as many people as possible in a small paradise. Moreover, many couples consider swing their salvation.

At first glance, this is an ordinary family living by certain standards, which has its own foundations, rules and habits. Everything is like everyone else. Except for the "small" detail. In the matrimonial bed, though not always, they have completely different preferences.

It is difficult for many to imagine such a thing. And you? Can you understand these people? You think: "Do they have nothing else to do? It would be better if the children were raised." But do not rush to condemn, let's figure it out a little. If you never allow this in your life, then you should at least think about the fact that swing gives great pleasure to someone, and you need to reckon with it. This is not a call or a guide to action, but you must understand that everyone has the right to their little happiness.

You + she, and me + he?

In the literal sense of the word, the term "swing" means an exchange of partners. Yes, yes, I guess what you might say. But so much time has passed since the start of the sexual revolution! Nowadays, many people live according to the principle of "who is good for what", and what was previously considered a shame has become the norm. Maybe the whole point is that for many years it was "impossible", and then everything immediately turned upside down. People, like hungry wolves, pounced on what was previously forbidden.

Each person has their own attitude to swing. Some look at it with a smile, the second are ready to live such a life, the third is disgusted with just one word. Swing can be disliked and misunderstood, but you should always treat people with respect in whose lives it occupies a certain place.

Never say never"

Many people confuse swing with group sex. But they are far from the same thing. Of course, from a purely physical point of view, yes, since this is also sex with several partners. The difference is in the attitude of partners to each other and in their feelings.

Swing came to us from "America beloved by all." It was there in 1957 in a magazine with the respectable name "Mister" that an article about the exchange of wives, absolutely indecent at that time, was published. And, as you might guess, immediately made a lot of hype. But at the same time it aroused great interest of readers. The old truths and teachings were flushed down the toilet. The conversations were filled with details of intimate life, which from now on the audience of "Mister" was not stingy.

Well, if you think about it - would you change your husband with someone? I probably would not. However, many women do not care. Some families consider swing to be a departure from everyday life and not only entertainment, but also the meaning of life. Orgy proponents swear that these "sex parties" are one of the main keys to a happy marriage and have a positive effect on everyday sex.

Svetlana and Sergei, swing couple: "Instead of having an affair on the side that will only destroy the marriage, it is better to participate in orgies, in which, due to the secluded atmosphere, it is difficult to fall in love with one of the participants. People do not come there for romance, but in order to refresh their feelings, which were dulled after several years of marriage."

Juliana and Pavel, swing couple: "A huge number of people practice not swing, but banal betrayal, because it is much easier."

Nastya and Anton, swing couple: "Swing is much less jealous than in other forms of sexual pastime. Although it is believed that this applies only to classic swing. We have many familiar swingers who prefer more extreme forms of swing: with elements of romantic encounters, betrayals, passions and love relationships. We have everything in order with trust in the family. We love and understand each other, and swing brings only additional pleasure and variety into our life."

Usually, this topic does not touch and somehow passes by. Well, talk to your girlfriends, maybe you will condemn, or maybe you laugh and forget. But in fact, you can't even imagine how many such couples are around you. Or maybe these are the two who met you yesterday in the park and looked at you with a smile, or your neighbors, because you noticed long ago that they have too many friends?

To be or not to be…

You can find a lot of information on this topic. It is enough just to go to the Internet, type the words of interest - and before your eyes flashes: "If you are a married or an established couple, you want to relax and spend your vacation in an unusual way …" the first time how to move a husband or wife to swing.

So, each person should first decide whether he wants swing or something else, because it involves group sex strictly married couples. There are, of course, some exceptions, but this happens quite rarely. Then you need to think about what can happen to you and your family relationships in case of failure, because the success of such an undertaking is not one hundred percent. And of course, you need to understand whether you are ready to see your partner in an "interesting position".

The more we love a woman …

Basically, for seducing wives, men are given the following tips:

1. Before the conversation, it is necessary to give us a little alcohol to drink, so that we relax and our sexual emotions, so to speak, can break out.
2. To completely forget about male logic and turn not to our thoughts, but to our feelings.
3. Let us feel our exclusivity and consistency.

Finally, we women need to be given the freedom to assert ourselves in swing.

And the most important thing that amazed and surprised me is that men are asked to answer all our questions: "I want to surprise you, dear."

It is also interesting that there are many more steps involved in seducing our husbands to swing and there are many subtle points. And so it turns out, dear ladies, that it is much more difficult to persuade a man to such an action than a woman.

I don’t know about you, but I, reading all this, laughed heartily. But seriously, there is nothing for us to be surprised at such a life. Yes, many believe that the sexual revolution is to blame for everything, but still it is the choice of each individual person. And in response, we can say that the need for this kind of relationship has always been in society. It's just that different people perceive reality differently.

But perhaps the most important thing is that each of us needs to find a middle ground. You have to be honest (first of all, with yourself), but not too natural, not a doormat and not a saint: do not go to extremes. No need to waste yourself on unworthy things and restrain yourself if your heart is so rapidly striving for something that does not contradict either your principles or the principles of your man.