My husband is cheating on me

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

You guessed about it, and you were afraid of it, and, nevertheless, it happened. Fear, like a piece of ice, settled down somewhere in the region of the heart. There is such silence in my head that you hear the already frozen blood pulsing in your temples. A person who is very dear to you and with whom you share your bed is cheating on you.

Confusion … Pain … Distrust … Fear …

But don't panic. Let's analyze the situation. There are two types of betrayal: one-time and permanent.

One-off cheating usually happens in a drunken state somewhere at a party: you are far away, but here"

But there are other betrayals - constant … They are much more painful and take longer to heal. In the evenings you draw or play with children, and then, having put them to bed, you hug the pillow and drops of rare, but very large tears fall on it, but the pain does not go away from this. What idiot thought to say that tears bring relief? You will cry for an hour, two, three, and exhausted, you will fall asleep on a lonely bed or in an armchair, or maybe on the carpet next to the fireplace, in front of which you once made love together until morning.

Where and when did you miss the moment and did not notice that he began to "linger"? When did the children get sick again and you took care of them? Or when you forgot to go to the hairdresser for the hundredth time? Or when, exhausted by the annual report, she refused him at night, realizing that she was not right, but she no longer had the strength to make love, saying the phrase on duty: "Sorry, but my head hurts"? Yes, somewhere you were mistaken, did not overlook. But somewhere he did not understand you, did not enter your position.

Now this is no longer important, now something else is important. Decide for yourself: you NEED this man or NOT. If you DO NOT NEED him, then everything is simple - you get a divorce. This is a very painful way out, but it is necessary for you, for him, for both of you, even for your children, who grow up and understand that between their parents there is not what should be between spouses. Divorce is like amputation: you stay alive, but there are fewer of you. But look at it from the other side - this is also your chance to get married more successfully. And if you need this man, what then? Then get ready for a long and hard struggle, in which you have a great chance of becoming a winner.

As a rule, those who have a constant mistress are constantly changing, and it is better to know the enemy thoroughly, and even better in the face. You need to look objectively: how much more well-groomed she is than you, how much smarter or stupider you are, how carefree or purposeful she is than you - everything that you can learn. But remember, you learn this not in order to become it, but in order to be able to fight it. Once your husband fell in love with you and married you, which means you can do it again.

Where to begin? Remember the legend of the Tower of Babel? People built it, and God was afraid that they would reach his power. Then he made it so that people began to speak in different languages and ceased to understand each other. As a result, the tower was not completed. Maybe you can't build your family because you speak different languages with your husband? In life, there are times when the most subtle trick is simplicity and frankness. Try to start with this. This should be a frank, calm conversation, without reproaches or accusations. You must understand how your husband wants to see you, and how you look in his eyes at the moment. In turn, he must understand what you lack.

Look in yourself for what is not there, but what your husband needs. They go to their mistresses because they (supposedly) understand, (supposedly) demand nothing and (supposedly) always love. And you become, for example, caring. In the morning prepare breakfast for him, walk him to the door, wish him a good day and a kiss on the doorstep. Trust me, it will make an impression. In the evening, cook him dinner, play his favorite movie, pout with the perfume he likes. But remember! You are a seductress, but sex has to happen on his initiative. It's like on the first date, and on the first date your goal is not to sleep, but to interest, especially since everything that you can give him, he has already received in due measure.

Perhaps he will disdain your attempts at reconciliation or take it with irony, or he will not react at all, but believe me, he will notice and remember it. The next day you can become erudite. You can give him in the morning, for example, the latest technological development in the field of mechanical engineering. In the evening, solve crosswords together. On the third day, you can become fun, carefree and windy. Sometimes men like it. After some time, he will pay attention to you and then the mistress will begin to make mistakes, one after another, as a rule. At this moment, you must be at your best: sweet, charming, understanding, caring. And then you are the Winner with a capital letter.

Cheating is a disease, a disease of your family, a disease of him and your soul. And it will take you a long time to heal, maybe a month, maybe a year. Even after your relationship improves and your husband becomes an exemplary family man, distrust, like a toothache that you never forget, will remain in your soul for a long time, perhaps always. And who promised that it would be easy? You yourself chose this path. You decided not to give up and emerge victorious in this fight.