Miracles of pregnancy

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

My experience in this area is based on the following positions: my one-year-old child, two nephews - the result of an older sister's pregnancies, and my best friend's pregnancy, which is taking place at the moment. In addition, I lay on the shelf for a total of three months (two at the very beginning of pregnancy and one before childbirth) and heard enough stories, admonitions and complaints in hospitals that I could write a book on this burning topic. As a result, for myself, I understood several provisions of the "interesting position", which I am happy to share.

1. Pregnancy is not a disease

There are diseases during pregnancy: toxicosis and the threat of termination, but pregnancy itself is not a disease. It is rather a period of somewhat different possibilities. And there is no need to neglect any opportunities. Pregnancy is a time when you can allow yourself and others to deal exclusively with your precious person. Starting from the 3rd month, I felt myself in the spotlight. They began to feed me delicacies, took offense at my unpretentiousness, took away heavy bags and gave way in queues and public transport. The latter sometimes happened not without my initiative. By the way, according to my observations, only women are able to give way without unnecessary hints. Men begin to shyly look away or bury their heads in the newspaper, which before my appearance was peacefully lying on their knees. I came closer to such men and gently stepped on their feet. After that, she apologized for a long time and warmly, sticking out her stomach - the most persistent gave up in the 3rd minute.

2. Pregnancy is very beautiful

Miracles of pregnancy: in addition to the fact that during pregnancy I had an amazing complexion, my hair and nails began to grow very quickly (I have never had such a manicure); I suddenly became happy with my figure. True, true, after all, all the minor flaws, which of course took place, were erased in front of the bulky shape of the abdomen. I have never felt so perfect in my life. Before, it never even crossed my mind to become a nude model, but in the last weeks of pregnancy I realized that in a few days all this beauty would end and made myself a great portfolio. Now I show pictures of a pregnant belly to my daughter and say: "These are your first pictures!"

3. A lot changes during pregnancy

The scale of values itself is changing. You realize the obvious truths that you previously brushed aside. During pregnancy, I received such a banal revelation: all problems should be solved only as they come, and not try to foresee. It's very simple, but it helps one hundred percent. I felt during pregnancy in a kind of cocoon that could not be broken by any unnecessary worries and worries. I didn’t think about what kind of maternity hospital and how I’ll give birth until this topic really became relevant. Why solve such issues in six months - it is not known how else everything will turn out?

Your lifestyle is changing too. But you shouldn't change it radically - abandon your friends and business. Give up bad habits - yes, it is necessary. But don't think that life is over. My pregnancy fell on the graduate course of the institute. I didn’t take the "academic" and go home. She lived in a hostel, and she wrote a diploma and defended it with honors. I stopped visiting some nightclubs (due to the stuffiness in the halls), and with regret I missed several screenings of the Moscow Film Festival (for the same reason). But I went with friends to summer cafes with pleasure, went out to all suburban picnics and even went fishing.

Sometimes the social circle changes during pregnancy. Some friends with whom I spoke extremely rarely because of their employment with small children, during pregnancy became my best friends.

4. During pregnancy, you are surrounded by well-wishers

As soon as the news of your new status spreads among your acquaintances, you will not have a hangover from those who want to help and advise. And when your bulging belly becomes noticeable to everyone around you, even the elevator ladies and watchmen will try to help you with good advice in any place, wherever you come.

In my opinion, the offered help should be accepted, and advice and warnings should be treated with special restraint and condescension. "Let them talk!". Do not succumb to a suspicious panic when they begin to retell stupid omens and superstitions to you: a pregnant woman cannot have a haircut, cannot eat ice cream, cannot knit (especially from red threads), and one cannot sit “head to toe”. I gladly accepted and instilled in my loved ones only two statements from a whole set of superstitions: a pregnant woman cannot be denied and nothing can be taken from a pregnant woman. All other warnings are nonsense. During pregnancy, I managed to knit a coat for myself, and exclusively from red threads.

You should only listen to the advice of those people whom you really trust. This also applies to your doctor. If you do not trust your gynecologist, you do not need to surreptitiously neglect his instructions, you just need to change him. My requirements were the following: the doctor should not hide the results of my examination from me (it happens that some get off with general words), and the doctor should explain to me in detail the reasons for prescribing certain medications (and not say: "Drink just in case!") …

It also seems to me that you can't take all pregnancy-related printed matter extremely seriously (this also applies to this article). Firstly, because they contradict each other, and secondly, most of these products are transferable. I have a book, an American one, it says that you need to take home plants, toys, a tape recorder with your favorite music and a husband with a video camera with you to the maternity ward. You understand that this has nothing to do with the majority of domestic maternity hospitals.

For some reason, during pregnancy, everyone asks you who you are waiting for, what you will name and whether you will give birth or agree to a cesarean. The last question did not bother me at all, I left the right to decide this to the attending physician, whom I really trusted. But I know that there are examples when a woman's vision is "minus 12", and she will restrain herself: "Only I will give birth myself, you will not cut me open!" In my opinion, this is simply stupid, you are risking both your health and the health of your child. Do not listen to friends who say that caesarean is unnatural. Everything is very individual and there are also advantages in "operating childbirth". You feel neither pain nor fear, and it will be easier for a child to be born. "Caesarian" children, as a rule, are much calmer.

You will hear a lot of advice and guidance regarding your menu. "Curd! Curd and only curd!" - repeated everything around. By the end of the 3rd month of pregnancy, I hated cottage cheese in any of its manifestations. Everyone scared me about the lack of calcium, and then in one wonderful book I found a list of foods rich in calcium and rejoiced: cottage cheese is not the only source of this necessary chemical element. There is plenty of calcium in my favorite cheeses, and just in milk, in canned fish - salmon, pink salmon, sardines, etc. I also started eating large quantities of figs (including dried ones) and sesame seeds. Also, in this wonderful book, foods containing iron were described, and it turned out that this is not only the eternal pair of "buckwheat-liver".

As for questions about gender, these are the next miracles of pregnancy, even with modern technologies there are incidents. And the name of the unborn child, I laughed it off for 9 months: "I give birth to a girl and I will call her Vasya!"Apparently I myself got used to my joke. When my daughter was born, I could not think of a name other than Vasilisa.

5. Nobody knows when you will give birth

If this is not a pre-planned operation called "cesarean section", then guessing the hour X is almost impossible. The day of childbirth is determined according to the following indications: the date of the last menstruation, the date of the first examination, the first ultrasound scan, the first fetal movement, etc. For example, I definitely knew the date of conception. When I got to the hospital, the doctor took out some tricky scheme and with the help of my card with all the dates, we began to calculate. According to some indications, it turned out that I had to give birth a week ago, according to others - in a month, and according to the third - right now. It turned out that this could happen any day. It was my birthday this month and I said, "I'll give myself a present!" My daughter could not resist a few hours and was born on the eve of my birthday, here are the miracles of pregnancy for you.

The simplest scheme for determining the day of birth: 3 months are subtracted from the date of the last menstruation, and then 1 week is added. Those. the last menstruation began on January 1, you take three months, it turns out October 1, and plus 1 week, you have to give birth on October 8. But remember that all these schemes are very, very relative.

Evgeniya Plyashkevich