If he - she (chief, boss, boss, leader)

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Women actively continue to occupy a dominant position in society. This process is going on and it is irreversible. It is almost impossible to bring a woman back to the gas stove and limit the range of her work only at home. The Rubicon, when it was possible for women to return to a purely physiological destiny, has been crossed. There is no turning back!

My sister, by the age of 26, is at the head of a serious enterprise. Since kindergarten, Galina has been a born leader. At first, she commanded parents and educators, then, in her school years, she was entrusted to stand at the head of the Octobrist starlet, the pioneer detachment, the squad … herd), but Pebble went to work from the very first year (with full-time training!), and by the third year she became the chief. And when, after receiving a red diploma, all her fellow students faced the question: where to get a job, - the sister was transferred from middle managers to the head of the company's branch. After some time, she changed jobs, but at the same time did not become lower on the career ladder.

It seems that she was already born with a clear confidence in her mission - to be a great person and an authority for many. Now I know for a fact that women leaders do not embrace management styles of their own free will. They are dominated by: a) innate qualities; b) circumstances; c) type of thinking. Since childhood, Galina was distinguished by her quick wit, perseverance, good memory, strong-willed character, the ability to set clear goals, the ability to argue her decisions and actions. It was her who was allowed by her parents to come home late, and when I arrived at the same age after ten, my parents made a scandal for me, saying that they were calm for Galya, and I, being unreasonable, could get into some kind of story. Mom could easily send pebbles to the parent meeting instead of herself, although our age difference is only 5 years. Absenteeism was said goodbye to her at the institute. She was constantly set as an example. The portrait of Galina, it seems, is still on the board of honor both at school and at the university - well, she is the best student, she has a great future …

I thought for a long time, seeing the example of my sister in front of my nose, why some women make good bosses, despite the fact that nature has prepared for us all a different role. And the answer was very simple: most of us were raised by women. We are used to obeying them, keeping an account of them, asking them for help … This is a fact. It's in the genes … So why not try to trust the female boss on a professional level? If we ignore who is your boss by gender, and see first of all in him a good leader, then it does not matter at all whether he wears a skirt or trousers … I think no one will argue with the fact that in the end any work collective turns, albeit in a strange and slightly distorted, but semblance of a family … So why is it considered that a woman cannot defend the interests of the collective, being initially - and at work too -"

Emotions … damn it. These emotions pay more generously for the work of subordinates, knowing from their own experience (housewives) how much tomatoes are in the bazaar, these emotions "grow" the business patiently, like a child, without leaps and adventures - and this makes things more stable … In addition, the eternal female craving for neatness and cleanliness saves a woman leader from reproaches for pettiness and nit-picking … And the spiritual grace of a woman allows her to give orders in a manner that does not hurt anyone's pride … Or do you prefer, like in the army: "Smyrna !!!! Fell - wrung out !!!!"

So tell me: why does everyone want the best … and managers continue to be appointed on the basis of gender, leaving "behind the scenes" business qualities? Why are about 90% of the top positions in business still held by men? Is it because men are often "gatekeepers" in major positions and can hinder the advancement of women in the service, eh ???

And what a stupid person came up with: "Women who do not have the opportunity to realize themselves in a purely female way, require too much power. And the point is not only in the mechanical ability or inability to give birth to a child (after all, children can be adopted) - the point is in all sorts of complexes and phobias, like a comet's tail, stretching from childhood. One was ugly in school years, and a successful career became for her the only possible means of self-realization. The second dad, who dreamed of a son, dressed in boyish clothes and forbade playing with dolls. The third saw enough of suffering. her mother - one hundred percent housewife, whom her husband reproached for every little thing - and vowed to have her own family."

What the hell is this habit of combing one size fits all? Again, I'll return to my older sister: she is beautiful, her parents still do not like her, she wants to have a family in the near future and is ready to give birth to a child … and in general, show me the dear authors of those lines, even though ugly and flawed heels in what women who have achieved success in business ?! Olga Slutsker is the owner of the World Class fitness club chain, Elena Yarmak is the head of the Helen Yarmak fashion house, Galina Volchek is the artistic director of the Sovremennik theater, Olga Dergunova is the head of Microsoft in Russia, Anastasia Vavilova is the general director of ZAO 36, 6 "… - they are all good as a picture, smart, adequate, have a business acumen, are excellent leaders and are included in the TOP" The most successful people in Russia."

The only Achilles' heel of some women burdened with power is their unsettled personal life. The problem lies in the character of the lady boss. After all, a person is extremely indiscriminate in models of behavior: how he behaves at work and in the family.

A woman-boss who is accustomed to commanding and in her personal life unwittingly tries to subjugate her partner, enters into competition with him, the essence of which is to prove her own superiority. She is used to making decisions, taking risks, giving instructions, being always in good shape and showing by her own example how you can work hard. She demands the same from her subordinates and from her beloved man.

And he cannot help but relax like her, and he considers it beneath his dignity to obey his wife. Although, psychologists say that initially slave men who are afraid of responsibility and who need a "mommy" are attracted to a woman-leader. It turns out a vicious circle: to live with a "weakling" for her, strong and confident, is not interested, and it is almost impossible to find the same leader as herself. After all, a man-leader as a life companion is also looking for a follower woman. One of the solutions is this: a woman-leader can find an agreeable, unambitious husband and take it for granted that she is the head and breadwinner in the family. There is nothing offensive here for either man or woman.

Elenka - my sister's friend (also in command) - is married to a military man. It's not a secret for anyone what pennies the defenders of the Fatherland receive. Therefore, in the family, she is the main earner and breadwinner. At first, Alexander tried to earn some money on his days off duty: he taxied in a car, got a job as a watchman, even traded at night in a stall for some time. But then I realized that he neither counts nor earns money. Together with Lenka, they gathered a family council and decided: she loves her husband as he is, and if he does not have a commercial streak, it's okay. As long as the family does not need money, let everything go as it is. And if suddenly something happens, they will think about how to live on. Sasha is still serving in his military unit, and coming home before his wife does not consider it shameful to fill the typewriter with dirty linen or cook something for dinner. He picks up the youngest child from kindergarten. He checks his daughter's homework. At the same time, it is impossible to call him a rag and henpecked. He is a military man - he commands his wife and children as if on a parade ground!

A sister's friend says that it is not difficult for her to switch from the role of a strict and fair boss to an obedient and good wife. Like, once a good psychologist advised her to do the following: firstly, at the end of the working day, you need to take paper with an adhesive strip and write on it what needs to be done tomorrow (point one, second, etc.). Then the list must be hoisted on the monitor - right in front of the nose. Turn off all equipment, close the office and you can go home with a clear conscience. This technique makes it possible not to spend the rest of the evening at home with the thought: "what needs to be done tomorrow, I have not forgotten anything?" You can write another note: "what to wear to work tomorrow, what to take from home?" - and put it in your bag. This will help cut down on some of the time you have to get to work in the morning.

I know one male boss who follows the advice of a psychologist with a "piece of paper" in his own way: before leaving the office, he describes in detail his activities at home: "kiss his son before bedtime, ask his father-in-law what to give him for DR, thank his wife for a good dinner ". This, of course, is a kind of bias, but it is better to let the husband do everything in accordance with the plan on paper than to do nothing.

Secondly, on the way home, the ladies-bosses are advised to go to the store and buy some trifle there for the husband and children: cake, chocolate, a bottle of wine, fruit. This will set her in a homely mood and alienate her thoughts of work.

And a few more pluses about the leader in a skirt:

Women's fickleness at work turns into another, very important quality - flexibility. This flexibility allows the female executive to maintain an even relationship with both partners and employees. She is also easier than a man to adapt to unexpected changes.

A woman's pettiness usually plays a positive role. Men have a strategic mindset that fails in situations where it is necessary to pay attention to detail. The woman does not miss anything. She never refuses from small matters, from small orders, from possible lucrative offers. Even what she cannot apply at the present moment, she postpones for the future.

Maternal instincts are also good for the cause. Women, as a rule, treat their business like a child and are ready to do anything for it. They also treat employees, feeling responsibility for everyone. That is why it is difficult for them to part with unnecessary people - it's a pity.

However, the main thing - professionalism - does not depend on gender. Therefore, if the boss: is able and knows how to take the initiative; able to see farther and be more discerning; not afraid of risk; ready to be an arbiter in interpersonal relationships; able to bear responsibility for the prosperity of subordinates; knows how to defend their interests … and so on. - it doesn't matter if he is a man or a woman! I am personally ready to work under anyone's leadership, if it is reasonable and not to my detriment.