The era of advanced feminism

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

the motto of our time

The fact that a man has gone petty today does not surprise anyone for a long time. Another thing is surprising: that young, pretty and successful women still need this creature! Moreover, it is precisely this that still excites us and prompts us to all sorts of active actions: girls have to be at their best outwardly, and not pump up with personal growth, and not to bury their sexuality in the ground, and have time to make a career, and from family happiness refuse, and much more …

Kitchen Sociology

Puzzled by this question, I turned to where these questions are most relevant. Namely - to coffee and cognac cuisine. The evolution of masculinity can be easily traced through traditional girlish conversations:

- I met my former lover myself, in a club. And she did it with a typically male"

- When we just started dating, Igor studied our astrological and psychological compatibility and sincerely said: I think it will be better if you make decisions in our relationship. It will be easier and more comfortable for both of us. - Alena, 21 years old, teacher of oriental dance.

Modern psychology

In pursuit of equality, the modern woman of the modern man not only caught up with, but also surpassed, leaving him, surprised, far behind her. Feminism, transferred from Western theory to Russian reality, has produced unexpected results. Looking at an earning, attractive, active girl (often with the qualities traditionally attributed to men), men begin to compensate. Namely: slowly but surely overgrowing "feminine qualities": they become capricious, infantile and inconsistent. The masculine "no" can now mean not only a firm "no", but also "yes", and "maybe", and "very possibly" … Does this remind you of anything?..

Psychologists, sensing this fertile ground for new developments and concepts, cheerfully rushed to study the problem. And they found out this: in order for a man to develop an active (that is, natural, "male") beginning, he must feel like a hunter. That is, to chase after someone and to achieve someone. And for this, accordingly, someone must run away from him, and in general, resist the conquest in every possible way. What do we have? No one has been running from anyone for a long time (bad form, and they will not understand); women not only do not mind, but they themselves are ready to propose, moreover, they are often ready to run themselves. What can I say, even if the flirtatious serial "all men need only one thing!" turned into a real marital problem: "I want sex more than him!"?..

Private experience

Once, on a free evening, I called Oleg, a man I know who is listed in the "potential fan" section. I said a neutral text, implying an easily guessed subtext - there is time and desire, I will consider the possible options. He readily responded: "What will be the proposals?" And I was already talking about a photo exhibition, which I had been planning to attend for a long time … when suddenly my imagination drew an unambiguous picture. So I come on a date, knocking my heels and enveloping him in a light scent of perfume, presenting him with a large tea rose. I'm taking you to a restaurant, interested in dessert preferences. I lure into theatrical novelties, seduce to the sounds of enchanting jazz. I make an offer, choose a ring for him … No! This is what women’s initiative leads to!.. Quickly turning off the conversation, I decided: enough is enough. I have no suggestions. Wait no more. From now on I will turn my nose and be capricious. You can't lure me into the crooked path of feminism …

Male gaze

Having shared my doubts about women's initiative and nostalgic about the bygone times (where Brave Knights and Beautiful Ladies reigned) in the company of Ilya, my old friend, I heard this: "Ha, dear, you seriously thought that as a result of the general victory of feminism, men were nothing When was the last time you heard that a man had a woman? You want - fine, you don't want - all the best. There are a lot of other young ladies around, always ready for conversations and other sex."

I think my parents were the last people in this city to have a full courtship. My dad - yes, he really won my mom, while other men beat their foreheads. But today such a story would look simply unrealistic …

… And what to do?

The primordial "who is to blame?" and "what to do?" this time they are powerless. Maybe we, in pursuit of independence and success, have really adopted a number of masculine qualities and often act according to the scenario of the "strong half". It is even possible that women's conditions will not be so uncommon: "we are free to live with whoever we want, and my freedom is my main value" and a timid male protest: "Darling, maybe we'd better get married?" But it is unlikely that the world in which you are knocked down from fatigue after endless business negotiations, and your husband is calmly tying a pink hat, will seem especially nice to you. And I doubt that the process of courting the Man of Your Dreams (including financial costs, serenading under the window and giving him your strong shoulder to use) will be to your liking.

Therefore, from now on, make the old wise search for the "golden mean" your motto. No matter how trite it is, it is she, this very middle, that can keep the gains of the long-standing feminist movement, without turning them into a farce. Taking care of oneself is wonderful, "enlarging and building up personality" is wonderful, but thoughtlessly investing in a man - and playing on his own field - is probably too much. After all, the formula "a woman must have a riddle", which has long been sore, means a simple truth: in a woman, that is, in you, there must be, if not genuine inaccessibility, then at least her visible illusion …