Opponent: methods of struggle

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

To date, the statistics have not changed much, and in the conditions of a masculine "alternative" every normal woman strives to be at least elected, at most married. Competition is an extremely unprincipled business. A more profitable party is an alliance of a huge number of "for" and a theoretical absence of "against".

What is the male gender guided by when making a decision? The main principle is to combine facts with "but" and "if" as little as possible. Men thus select not only new work partners, but also partners in their personal life.

Are you sure you can pass such an exam and become the chosen one? And, having become her, will you keep the man, scattering all those encroaching on a valuable object?

So, no one can guarantee you that your beloved will only be yours … beloved, because if you fell in love with him, any other can do it. Well, if her rivalry does not become your headache (for example, your man's loyalty is unshakable … unshakable, that is). And if the rival is quite real and, moreover, you know her existence? And if the dear has already told you what she was better at, and that he is ready to break the thread of your connection, painstakingly woven by your hands? Maybe he just got into the net, which was built by a more skillful needlewoman? And you immediately fall into hysterics and are ready to take the poison … Stop! There are many cases of this kind in the chest of "everyday stories", the most interesting I will tell you, I hope, not useless.

Story number one.

The heroine herself was in the role of a rival (after all, you can be on the other side of the problem).

The young man, who broke his heart, was under the influence of youthful passion and sensuality, when it seems that this will forever end with a marriage crown. The current life circumstances separate him and the lady of the heart, but the thought of Her gives him a lot of strength and hope for the future. Being alone for a long time (4 years) is proportionate to the monastic vow. According to psychologists, a man already on the 11th day feels like nobody's. Our subject only in the middle of the term, having met another, decides to give her the role of "escort girl" in order to somehow ease the wait in the remaining two years. He introduces his new girlfriend in an adult way, in order to be honest to the end, warns right away: "Don't fall in love with me seriously and for a long time, we are temporary people on each other's life path … I'm going to return to my first love, so don't build illusions and castles in the air "(how sometimes men are honestly cruel!).

A year of meetings and friendly gatherings, another year of joint "civil" life. Photos of the "first" in the general photo album, her letters in the desk drawer, the confidence of his friends (they often hinted that he should not be loved, it is better to find a more worthy groom from among them) and her friends in the unreality of the development of further relations.

When I first saw this girl, I could not even imagine that in this fragile, almost ethereal creature, such an unbending core of firm self-confidence and self-strength could be hidden.

He went on vacation for a month to spend it with the "first", my heroine "tore and threw", swallowed antidepressants and sent away her sympathetic girlfriends (trouble never comes alone, sympathizers usually follow). Our prince returned, although not on a white horse, but with the decision to admit his guilt and it is not enough to ask for forgiveness - to pray to marry him, thereby making up future joint happiness.

Now I'm sitting in the kitchen with her and chatting about how to responsibly prepare for the upcoming motherhood. He runs around and carefully fulfills any of her whims, of course, because he will soon become a dad. In private, I share my experiences and personal problems, the term "love triangle" pops up and she tells me her story: "I wanted to tell him so many times that it's over, that I can’t, I don’t want to, and I won’t." aggression, but it was enough for him to come in the evening, as I crumpled all my opposition ideas about the revolution, went limp and everything went on. The result pleases me (she says, stroking her tummy) and I do not regret it."

In story number two your humble servant was directly involved.

Somehow, quite unexpectedly, my old school friend appeared on the horizon. It is clear that she found me not just to drink tea and chat about school gossip. The reason was in the implementation of her project on the topic: "… and my revenge will be cruel." It turns out that during her absence she managed to spend quite safely a couple of years in life together with her beloved man, of a creative type and appearance. For those who have not come across such personalities, I explain separately - almost all "free artists" in terms of external attributes and internal content are independent adventurers, emotional and impulsive, ready for any sacrifice for the sake of the muse. It is clear that living together with such a gift of fate cannot be easy. Nati (that's the name of my friend) for a long time considered him ideal and completely devoted to her, but one day she came across an empty closet and an indistinct explanation in a note: "I don't love it anymore." "Why?" And how long?" - not specified. As it turned out later, he went to his mother, but bright prospects for a life together with a new lady took place.

Previously, he also fell in love (a special state of mind helps a lot to inspiration), but he never went beyond what was permitted (this kind of relationship is "on the edge"). This time, apparently, he went too far and left for good … from Nati.

Her first steps were careless and wrong (live with an impulsive and emotional "free artist", you yourself will become turpentine). Then she gave free rein to her rich imagination and figured out that the best way to get him back is to make it clear that his love games are just games, and that her loving heart will always belong only to him, because only she can be for him. " very-very ", like all past time. As I recently heard, “iron is not to blame for being attracted by a magnet, so we must end up not with iron, but with a magnet,” she decided to do this with the help of an even stronger magnet. To do this, she needed a beautiful female voice, a free phone and the actress's adventurous spirit. Knowing that I once worked on the radio and my vocals were not familiar to her beloved, she did not find a more suitable option and came to me. I must say that the role of the "mysterious telephone terrorist" I had long been studied (my friends and I sometimes had fun like that), and I willingly agreed.

The first conversation lasted two hours. I called back at his request, but only a week later, and not the next day. From the first chords, it was clear that he was expecting a call, which means that the bait worked, and I did not lose my shape (you can't drink skill - the weakest train). When he began to insist on a meeting more and more demandingly, I disappeared (as I came out of nowhere, I disappeared into nowhere). He did not argue for a long time on the topic: "Who is closer to him - Nati or a new passion, which was so easily forgotten in connection with the appearance of a" night telephone operator. " Union I do not know, because, having thanked me a hundredfold "thank you", Nati disappeared again.

I'm not offended, gratuitous (that is, for nothing) help in a difficult situation, which brought a positive (in her opinion) result, and a tenfold "thank you" - that's quite enough.