Sexual Submission, or the Fifty Shades of Gray Phenomenon

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

The premiere of the film "Fifty Shades of Gray" became the highest grossing in the history of distribution in eleven countries, including Italy, Argentina, Poland, Czech Republic, Hungary and Ukraine. During the first weekend, the film grossed more than 700 million rubles in Russia, becoming the absolute leader.

After the release of Fifty Shades of Gray in Russia, huge queues lined up not only for cinema tickets, but also for sex shops. Some adult stores already have BDSM paraphernalia dedicated to "shades". On average, according to adult store owners, sales growth in their stores increased 2.5 times in the first week of the film's release. And this despite the crisis!

Why is everyone so attracted to the story of a vicious billionaire and a girl who obeys him in everything? And why has sexual submission become the trend of our time?

How it all started

In the story, a young billionaire from Seattle, Christian Gray, one of the most influential businessmen in America, with secret sadistic addictions, seduces and then - for the first time in his life - falls in love with Anastacia Steele, a girl who just graduated from college and by her 22 years has managed to remain a virgin … The girl interviews Christian Gray for the university newspaper. The attractive dictatorship of Mr. Gray zombies her, and she completely forgets that feminism has won in her country. Their romance is developing rapidly: she pushes her professional and personal ambitions into the background and completely surrenders herself to the power of this man, soon getting a taste for it. Gray invites Anastacia to sign a contract detailing all aspects of his total dominance over her life. He is allowed everything, up to control over her wardrobe, diet, all contacts and movements - with the exception of obvious sexual perversions.

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Gray, in turn, takes her to the maintenance at the highest level, promises her a happy and calm (if you forget about the "Red Room of Pain") life. Already in the first week of acquaintance, the girl becomes the owner of a gigantic wardrobe of designer items and an Audi convertible. This will be followed by diamonds, mansions on the ocean coast, other cars, chalets in Aspen and … a large book publishing house (Anastacia dreams of a career as an editor, but her man thinks that this is not enough, he helps her in a few days to sharply advance in the service, and after a few days and buys the company for her at all). The girl's protests, despite her far from the most silky character, quickly fade away. Having never noticed a tendency towards submission before, she gets used to male control and begins to enjoy it. This also applies to the sex lives of the protagonists. Soon, the modest Anastacia herself begins to beg Christian Gray to take her to the "Red Room of Pain" - a room in his penthouse for sadomaso games with full attributes of the Spanish Inquisition, where they indulge in endless and very sophisticated sexual exercises.

The literary style leaves much to be desired. And nevertheless, the whole world is read by this erotic novel. In the UK, "shades" overtook the sales of "Harry Potter"! In Western countries, because of this novel, a wave of baby boom was outlined, the magazine Time included him a previously unknown author - an English housewife (her real name is Erica Leonard, and now she makes $ 1,300,000 a week selling a book!) Into a hundred People of the Year, New York's trendiest parties are held in the aesthetics of Fifty Shades of Gray.

Guide me! Or…

After the release of Fifty Shades in the United States, they published the results of recent studies among young educated women in their 30s: more than 50% dream of a man dominating and tough in their personal lives. And this is in the age of feminism! What is the reason for this phenomenon?

Now we want something completely different. We yearn to be tied up, spanked and well pulled by our hair.

For centuries, women have fought a desperate struggle to achieve power and equality with men. We received education, burned bras and, if necessary, were ready to show our strength and independence. Now we have the opportunity to build a successful career, take a leadership position, manage men not only in the office, but also in bed … We got what we fought for. And now we want something completely different. We yearn to be tied up, spanked and well pulled by the hair. Strong and successful women dream of a man who could subjugate them to his power. A woman's emotional craving for a strong man, for a winner (who is personified by multibillionaire Christian Gray) is biologically inherent, and over time, nature and instincts won out over reason. A woman needs a dominant man, a dictator, and the best confirmation of this is the phenomenal success of Fifty Shades of Gray. Admit it, which of you has not dreamed of being subordinate to the strong and domineering Christian Gray?

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We crave male domination not only in sex, but in our personal life in general. The question is: are we, strong and successful, ready for absolute submission? Or, over time, we have lost one of the main female skills, which is inherent in us by nature, have we forgotten how to "adjust" ourselves to a man? Catching a man's wave, adjusting to his breathing, listening without interrupting, without thinking about how to react in order to impress. Do not assert yourself. Do not get ahead of the events, do not calculate what will happen next, let the events unfold. Do not control. Taking a step forward, be ready, like in tango, take two steps back. Accept his rules of the game. Let off. Wait. Trust. To accept - his money, gifts, including very expensive ones, throwing it out of my head that only girls of a “special” category do this. Accept and love his body. And the main thing is to understand and accept its essence. The latter is the cosmic formula of love. The feminine principle is dark, deep, passive, it must accept. And the masculine is white as a blank sheet, active, promoting. When they unite, there is a correct exchange of energies, and the woman becomes truly a woman, and the man is filled with strength. By the way, according to the law of similarity, a woman who has learned to obey begins to attract really strong men into her orbit - or the person who is already next to her changes miraculously, he becomes more courageous, takes on more responsibility.

In many ways, it depends on the woman whether there will be a dominant man next to her and whether this will help the development of their relationship.

By the way, if you read the trilogy of "shades" to the end, you will find out that the main character ultimately changed her man herself - we will not tell you how.

“… I used to perceive my man as strong and dominant, but in reality his essence is fragile and vulnerable. My lost boy … He is convinced that I need protection, but in fact, this is not entirely true. Compared to him, I am strong. And in fact, I, not him, "lead" in our relationship … "- Anastasia Steele admits at the end of the trilogy.