He Lived On My Money: Real Stories

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

The traditional role of a man in a family is to be a breadwinner. And the woman's business is to keep the home, raise children and be a muse, inspiring her hero to new deeds. But some of the stronger sex do not like to work. They prefer to receive financial support from their girlfriend.

I was just used

I was still very young and stupid then. I was 20 and worked as a waitress. At work I met a man 30 years older than me. He courted not to say that it was gorgeous, he did not give expensive gifts, but there was a lot of attention on his part, a lot of compliments, beautiful words. He said that he definitely wanted to marry me, described our future wedding. And somehow casually kept his car at my expense. Asks for money, then "forgets" to give it back. I often asked for a loan, sometimes not at all small amounts for me. I was silent, I thought at first that these were trifles, it was inconvenient to remind them. And waited for a marriage proposal. Gradually, I realized that I had no money left for even the most necessary things, the salary was small, and then a good half of it was spent on debts that were not returned. And she began to remind him more and more insistently. He stopped answering calls, started avoiding me. I never returned the money. Only then did it become clear to me that I was just being used. Now, when I remember it, it’s disgusting to even think. How can a man behave like that? Only gigolo.

He acts like a girl

I have one acquaintance, even rather a friend. He is a real gigolo. He has never worked anywhere, he lives only at the expense of his wealthy ladies. Typically, he has one woman with whom he lives, and two or three more for romantic paid dates. He is not exactly a gigolo, because his women do not always know about his goals. Those who are smarter - understand and use, and some believe that he loves them. Each has its own story. For one - a family, an unloved wife and endless love for a new darling. For another, he is an unhappy youth with a lot of debts. For the third - loving, poor, but necessarily very worried for the reason that he cannot correspond to her. He is a subtle psychologist and an interesting person. In general, he gives these women what they need, and they pay him for it. She always looks good, is very attentive to her appearance, because this is a source of income. He treats his "alfonstvo" with even passion. You can despise such people, not understand them. But the girls who promote wealthy men for money are more often regretted, and sometimes respected. So what's the difference? He does the same.

Got a lesson for life

Once I went to rest. An affair happened. Sea, wine, romantic evenings. He offered to live together. I agreed with joy, and he moved to me (I rented a house).

Yes, I must add that he lived, ate, and entertained at my expense, because all his money was stolen from him, and his friends were about to help him with finances. I borrowed a lot. He promised to reimburse me for all expenses. I agreed with everything, did not even think to doubt him.

The miracles ended when it was time to drive home. He fussed, said that he still had problems, his friends could not help, but he would return everything and would come to me himself in a couple of months, as soon as everything was settled. How could I believe this nonsense? But even then she left with a calm heart.

Already near the bus, he asked for a mobile phone, to urgently call. I gave. He went out. I never saw him again. On the bus, the truth began to reach me. I drove home robbed to the skin by a swindler and a gigolo. But I learned a lesson for the rest of my life.

Do I live with gigolo?

I have a very strange story, I still cannot understand if I live with a gigolo or if these are my conjectures and reproaches. The relationship with the guy continues for a year. I work and earn pretty decent money. It doesn't work anywhere. But he constantly has a lot of plans for the future, simply Napoleonic. He dreams of his own business, says that he will not go “to work for his uncle”. At first I respected this opinion of him, but for a whole year now it turns out that I support him. I am trying to find out his plans for the business a little more specifically, he says that if he had the initial capital, there would be no problems, otherwise he does not know, but he is waiting for something to turn up. If I start talking about work, he gets offended and reproaches. He says: so find yourself a bag of money. But I am no longer ashamed, I do not need a bag of money, but a normal man who works.

He is 7 years older than me, he has never had a family. He quit his job.

I'm not sure if I'm right, because apart from these problems with money, we have a very good relationship. It's easy for me to be with him, and in bed I feel good with him too. So I want to believe that he has temporary difficulties. But his carefree look already got me. True, he does everything around the house, cooks and even cleans up, so I'm indecisive. Maybe this is just not my man.

Either the wallet will forget, then there is no money

It all started corny: acquaintance, dates, meetings. I am a student, but I have my own apartment, my parents provide me well. He was five years older than me. He had a job, he looked like an independent man, young, attractive. Somehow, gradually, he moved to me, began to live together. At first everything was fine, then I began to notice that he was pulling and pulling money out of me. Not only do I pay for groceries, for an apartment, but more and more often trips to cafes, movies, restaurants are at my expense. Either the wallet will forget, then there is no money. In the end, I got tired of it, because I spent not even my own, but my parents' money. And my parents began to notice that something was wrong with me. I don't buy new clothes for myself, more often I ask for money. Naturally, they began to ask questions. I was ashamed to talk about him, I blamed everything on high prices, said that I needed money for the session, in general, I was dishonestly lying.

I came to my senses when a friend, having seen enough of all this, openly and sharply threw in my face: “He does not love you. He just has nowhere to live. I seemed to wake up. I began to analyze everything, remember. And I realized that all his actions were aimed at pumping out money.

Not on a big scale, no, on trifles: for life, for everyday life. He did not steal anything, did not take away. It was just convenient for him to live on other people's money. Then his acquaintances said that he really dreamed of a car, saved up. Apparently, he saved his entire salary. I left him, kicked him out. Recently I found out that he bought an expensive car. Now I'm just kidding that it couldn't have done without my investments. Let him ride, gigolo.

We'll get married and live off our mistress

One nice guy asked me to marry him. He offered it absolutely seriously, although we barely know him. I do not know what in me allowed him to think that I would agree, but the conditions were as follows: we will get married and will not work, and we will be supported by a rich lady of 50, whom from time to time he will please. I joked: "And if the source of income suddenly runs out, we won't die of hunger?" He replied: "I always have 3-4 such ladies, but I will spend the weekend with you." For some reason he was sure that I would agree to this with joy. “What else do you want? You will be well provided for. You will only feel good and enjoy life”. I am still shocked by such cynicism. Well, okay, these ladies, maybe they are so comfortable, but why does he need his wife?

Evgeniya, 22 years old, Moscow

Personality of genius in all respects

My friend contains a guy. Creative personality. The guy paints "brilliant pictures". There is talent (by the way, it's not a fact that Picasso is there), but there is no money. She loves him madly, to the point of insanity. She works herself, always presents for him, buys clothes. He does not go to work. This is 36 years old! As I understand it, you draw - draw for health, but hanging on a woman's neck is worthy of a genius, of course! He also drinks and walks to the left. In general, the personality is brilliant in all respects.

I got used to the house on it

What difference does it make who pays? My husband doesn't work. We decided so long ago. It's just that my income is much higher, and at first it was difficult for him to find a job, but now he is already used to at home, and I'm used to having household chores on him. He studied with me as a cook, he cooks excellently. And I can't cook an omelet, so as not to burn or oversalt it. Apparently we found each other.

Such men know what they are doing and why

It's like hypnosis. In general, through his efforts, our meeting was presented as fateful. Now I myself do not understand how I, an adult woman, could believe in this nonsense. But I believed that we would get married, that this was fate, that I had found my soul mate. Perhaps the fact is that we all believe in what we want to believe, and become victims of our desires and illusions. He said what I wanted to hear. Oh, miracle! All our interests coincided, opinions always converged on any issues. Then it turned out that he was already married. That the money that he borrowed from me is not going to give back. The most offensive thing is that there is nothing to be done. It is impossible to prove something legally. Such gigolos know perfectly well what they are doing and why.