How to please his parents: real stories

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Meeting a boyfriend's parents is a very exciting and significant event. Much more depends on it than you might imagine. It would seem that you will not be "spinning" an affair with mom and dad, but with their son, and you should, first of all, like him. But in reality, not everything is so simple: sometimes the opinion of parents can destroy a romantic idyll and put an end to a relationship that has just begun. How to present yourself so that after the first meeting you would be cordially invited to the second, we asked three girls, whose acquaintance with the boyfriend's parents was brilliant.

Valeria, 26 years old

Maxim started talking about how it was time for me to get to know his mother when our relationship was only a couple of weeks. Do I need to explain why I was so worried and with all my strength delayed the onset of "X-day" for about a month. Fortunately, I was lucky, and just at that time Anna Stepanovna was leaving on a business trip, but as soon as my mother arrived, Max took the bull by the horns. He invited me to his aunt's birthday and warned my mother that he would not come alone. I had nowhere to go. To be honest, I was very afraid - I tried on a bunch of outfits, rehearsed in front of the mirror how I would introduce myself and congratulate the birthday girl. Imagination painted terrible pictures: here we are sitting at the table, and the stern eyes of all of Max's relatives are fixed in my direction. I even slept badly the night before the holiday! But in fact it turned out - in vain worried. Maxim politely introduced me to all the guests, with his mother we sat next to each other and talked nicely for almost the whole evening. However, it was not like a bride, everything went easily and naturally, since we met on the occasion of Max's aunt's birthday, and all the attention was focused on her.

Advice: try to time the first meeting for some holiday. This will make the acquaintance more relaxed, and you will stop worrying.

Tatiana, 33 years old

Igor and I have met not so long ago, and we are no longer 20 years old, so meeting his parents seemed to me a real torture. I have a son from my first marriage, he is in the second grade, and as soon as I imagine that in 10 years he will bring some girl to our house, I immediately get stressed. I didn't really want to get to know Svetlana Grigorievna and Yuri Ivanovich: I thought that they would be biased towards a woman with a son in her arms who decided to "strangle their boy." But chance decided everything for us. Igor and I walked around the city, the evening was great, but I managed to ruin it: I twisted my leg, so much that I almost cried from pain. Igor immediately caught a taxi and took me home to his parents. It turned out that Yuri Ivanovich is a traumatologist, and Igor never went to the emergency room in his life. And so our acquaintance took place: I with a face distorted from pain, Igor carrying me in his arms, and his parents with a first-aid kit and tea at the ready.

Advice: Of course, you don't need to break or twist anything, but you shouldn't refuse spontaneous meetings either. If you walk past his parents' house and your lover invites you to look at them for a light, agree: you will not have time to worry (as it would be before the planned visit) and you will not put people in an awkward position - for sure the boyfriend will warn the parents in advance.

Anna, 23 years old

I was preparing to meet Sasha's parents, like for an exam in material science. I knew about this meeting two weeks earlier, and therefore I had time to find out what mom and dad loved him, and what they hated, what they were interested in, what films they watched, where they went to rest, etc. In general, I collected a complete dossier and went on a visit on shaky legs. It seemed to me that people who have traveled half the world and own a rather expensive car are probably arrogant. But it turned out that not everything is so scary. Sasha's mom was extremely polite, did not ask unnecessary questions, and I have something to compare with - the ex-boyfriend's mom did not hesitate to ask what you cannot always tell a close friend about. Dad turned out to be a joker and spent the whole evening "hounding" jokes. In general, I forgot everything that I tried so hard to remember for two weeks, and just was myself - I laughed out loud and did not hesitate to tell stories from my life. The next day, Sasha said with a smile: "Your parents liked you so much, they said that you are very sweet, open and real."

Advice: Of course, it will not be superfluous to find out some of the nuances regarding your boyfriend's parents, so that, say, not bring a delicious cake to a person with diabetes, but do not get hung up on collecting data. The main thing is to behave naturally and at ease. And do not assent to every word of a potential mother-in-law, such behavior will make her doubt your sincerity.